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rablovesroo wrote: »

Oh Victory, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you today.

Out of respect, I shall refrain from my food and exercise logs this day, sometimes these things need to go on the back burner when life is turned upside down.

Seconded 100%

mazza111

{{{hugs}}} Victory. Do what you feel is right at the time hon. It's personal choice. I personally don't like to see loved ones, prefer to remember them as they were. But when my old dad died, the kids wanted to see him. So went in with them and said my goodbyes. But it is about personal choice. Just try and remember the good memories x

sarymclary

So sorry about your news Victory, and sad that there had been disagreements in the past few months, but don't dwell on that, as it was a silly misunderstanding that got blown out of proportion, as you know.

As for going to see your mum now, that has to be a personal choice. Don't do it because someone else wants you to. I saw my nan after she died, because my older sister wanted to and we had both arrived at the hospital for visiting when she took a turn for the worse. I regretted it at the time, and for a while after, because she really didn't look like my nan as I knew her, because she'd been in hospital for 3 months and had deteriorated. Over time (20 yrs) I've pretty much blotted that out and remember her as she was. I chose not to see my husband after he died either, mainly because of my earlier experience, and I didn't feel strong enough at the time, because his death was so sudden. However, on reflection I have wondered if it might have helped for me to accept his death more easily in the longer term. I also didn't really have anyone appropriate who would go to view him with me, as only my B-i-l offered to go, and I'm not very close to him, so it wasn't a moment I cared to share with that person.

Take care of yourself, and I wish you the strength to endure the tough times ahead.

beanielou

Victory~So sorry to hear your news.
Take care x

mandz1

So sorry for ur loss victory. I didnt see my dad after he died, i thought it would be too painful. Sending you lots of hugs and hope you and your family will be ok. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Princess_x

I'm sorry to hear of your loss victory. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Brighton_belle

Very sorry to hear your news Victory. I've 'known' you 2 1/2 yrs on this thread now, and I know the difficult and often painful relationship it was with her, because of the way she chose to be. I imagine this may bring it's own pain and loss. Thinking of you. And you know we are all here.xx

teecee46

Just catching up on the thread and have just read your sad news Victory - my thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.

fredsnail

I'm sorry to hear your news Vic - and that things were not repaired before she passed. But as others have said don't dwell on that - you must look after yourself and do what's best for you.

I didn't see my father when he died - he'd been ill for a short while and I didn't feel I wanted too - but my friend saw her father when he passed away just before Christmas and it looked like he was sleeping and she was glad she had.

Take things a bit at a time and hopefully things will go smoothly.

vixarooni

Sorry to hear your sad news Victory xx