Benefits of Being Registered Disabled

dmg24

Lou76 wrote: »

The sex [well, not quite] was something I queried i.e. Mothers never seem to be questioned...

As for bee in the bonnet, are you kidding? I'm female and I couldn't think of worse than having a child, nevermind having a child because....

You clearly do not read a great deal of threads on here - I have never seen anyone suggest that a disabled father has to be the breadwinner. That is nonsensical (as is some of your language).

browneb

Lou76 many thanks for your message, I know, its life, there is always a minority ruining it for the majority. Also, your point about the father coming on etc I have to admit to a certain extent I agree. Its human nature and an emotional attachment to our own mothers that makes us feel more sympathetic towards a woman's plight, its not an issue or a problem in this case as my wife is supportive and without her we couldn't function; but, if I was a single father looking after my son (plus two other daughters) then it may get interesting. All I am saying is I understand your point and it all depends on the person reading the posts as to how they react, we are all different and behave and act in different ways. This is an excellent forum to be able to come and ask for help , as well as help other people, we should all just stick together, be supportive and empathetic rather than judge or make negative comments; we all are here for a reason and not the 'I am happy, content and loaded' forums!

moonbeam2007

dmg24 wrote: »

You clearly do not read a great deal of threads on here - I have never seen anyone suggest that a disabled father has to be the breadwinner. That is nonsensical (as is some of your language).

If YOU read her post she was saying it SOUNDED as though because he was a Dad asking and not a Mum.
The fact is this poor guy asked for some advice and yet people think they have the god given right to start picking what he said apart.

Just answer his question, if you have no advice or have to be so rude to the OP then move on to another post.

Honestly where do people get off thinking they can talk to someone like that.

GlasweJen

He was asking advice on how to cash in using his kids disability, anyone who asks that sort of question deserves any roasting that they get.

The_mangler

Once again, this forum amazes me with its insensitivity.

I would gladly hand back our motability car and blue badge if only we could all act like 'normal' everyday fit and well people. On the subject of paying parking charges, it takes us twice as long as an able bodied person to get round shops, why should I have to pay for longer? As for cashing in on a childs disability, thats just beneath contempt. Im sure most of us with disabled family members would happily queue at Alton Towers, pay for parking and full price for holidays in exchange for a full and healthy life. Why dont some of you really think before posting vitriol, would you really want to queue jump if it meant your child had to live with a disability? Are you really that jealous?

YORKSHIRELASS

While I do think the original post could have been worded a bit better I wonder how many people who have made negative comments have actually looked after a disabled child? I would also be glad to hand back every penny of benefits we receive to be able to work and for my son to be able to go to school full time and have a normal childhood.

We dont ever accept special priviledges when we are out and about. My son looks "normal" and I worry about how other people will react, as demonstrated by some of the comments on this thread. He cant cope with crowds or long queues so we just dont bother with places like theme parks. As for paying to get into musuems or the cinema, well I suppose that we get extra tax credits and DLA to help with things like that. It is annoying when you have paid to get in somewhere and he is ill so you have to leave early, but then I suppose that could happen to anyone.

I think the problem here is that there are so many inconsistencies in the benefits system which results in genuine claimants getting labelled as "scroungers" and "out for all they can get". People tend to make the assumption that most benefit claimants fall into this category nowadays which makes people like us feel guilty about accepting the help we really need.