Going from 2 to 3 children?

*Maya*

Go for it if it makes you happy but make sure Hubby is on side first of course. I'm surprsed the "ovepopulating the planet" brigade haven't got here yet. :rotfl:Well done for giving it careful thought first.

ceridwen

Just for once in a while - do leave it out Maya..

(soz folks....background history is there are a few posters on MSE who simply cant resist "having a go" when they see my name <sighs>)

*Maya*

ceridwen wrote: »

Just for once in a while - do leave it out Maya..

(soz folks....background history is there are a few posters on MSE who simply cant resist "having a go" when they see my name <sighs>)

Sorry to disappoint ceridwen, I was posting my reply to the OP and when I pressed submit you had just posted. Honestly. I edited the post to add the final sentence. Absolutely nothing personal to you and don't see how my post was "having a go".

onlyroz

You need to think about *why* you want 3? Because there are many practical reasons why it would be better for your family if you stopped at 2. I've got two, and I have no plans for more. If one turns up by accident then I'd go with the flow and be happy, but I know that our lives will be so much easier and we'd be much better off financially if we stick at 2.

celebrate

hi

for me going from 2 to 3 kids was a make or break and unfortunately ended up in break up of me and my husband

he has always been pretty selfiish and purposely found a job away when i had the 3rd, it was my 3rd caesarean, the thing that strick me most was how it went from busy to absolute chaos with the extra child.

we are back together and i would love another baby BUT you have to consider how you would cope with the extra workload, do you have a good partner, can you give up more of your freedom -i am only now just getting my life back together again and am now able to go on courses etc without having to spend time worrying how he's coping with the kids.

lizziebabe

Hi - I always wanted a third child but my (then) husband point blank refused. We had just moved and he got a highpowered job - I think he thought he would lose out - very selfish man!

Anyway when we discussed it he told me he would leave me if I got pregnant again :eek:

Needless to say I didn't and then divorced him later (we were married for 20 years, don't really know how I put up with him for so long). It would have been difficult being a single mum of 3 but I am so proud of the 2 that I have. They are brilliant :T

I still miss my third child :sad: but have a lovely furry surrogate.

Money_maker

I have 2 teenage boys (15 & 14) and one girl of just under 3. Thought our family was complete with 2. Then we moved into a bigger house and finances picked up.

TBH, it was great when the boys were younger as they could amuse each other, had the same interests etc. MIL said she always regretted stopping at 2 so we had another one (was hoping for another boy but turned out to be a girl!). It does work for us although I wish the gap had been much closer - its brilliant having kids very close in age.

Having said that, my boys are quite 'easy' and well behaved so any problems stem from the little madam. Heaven help us when she's a teenager. Must admit, she makes me laugh so much and is a breath of fresh air sometimes.

I would say that if finances allow then either do it soon with a small gap or leave it forever.

dandy-candy

I have 3 kids and I was one of 3 myself, my mum was one of 3 and my dad was one of 4. To me 2 didn't feel enough of a gang, my hub only had one sibling and they hated each other and so both grew up like only children! The nice thing about 3 is when one wants some quiet time, the other always has a playmate still. I still had all the baby stuff so the expense wasn't that different, most cars sit 5 anyway so no probs there, the only "ouch" moment on the wallet is holidays abroad but holidaying in the UK is fine. I love them to bits - my siblings both married and only had 2 kids each and their houses are just too quiet!!

tori.k

I think the biggest problem with 3 is one always seems to get left out a bit, we have 2 of our own and a fosterling and when there all together the youngest always end up moaning that he's left out, (mine are all teenagers)
I am one of three and get on really well with both my siblings but even now im still closer to my older brother (by 2 yrs) then my younger sister (by 7 yrs), i always remember my mum saying to me kids should come in pairs then everybody has someone to play with.

mummyroysof3

We have 3 children, within 4 years lol (2 planned and one suprise) it ment a big shift in our lives as i didnt go back to my part time work after number 3 but we do ok. it is hardwork but its starting to get easier now they are slightly older. we were just ready to get a car when DS2 came along so went for something to fit 3 child sets straight away, we looking to get something smaller when they can all have boosters in a few years.

i hope you are able to come to a decision that you are both happy with