Problems with nextdoor neighbour

B..

red_devil wrote: »

They didnt take kindly to your complaints so they called the police on you. They are trying to get you back. Had a neighbour like this. She let her kids run riot and come into our garden without permission, she illegally parked all the time, so we let her know.

She called the community support last summer and said we were looking up at her kitchen window while we were in the garden. Load of nonsense but it was her way of trying to get back at us.

We ignore her now you cant do business with !!!!!!. Just hope they move thats all you can do.

I think you're right! i dont know what else i could of done, we put up with the howling for about 2-3 months. i know dogs bark and i expect that, but they were full on howling at the top of their voice and it was constant, used to go on for about 2 hours! lack of sleep was starting to affect my work and my daughter was also suffering, so i decided to go round and try and solve it and all it's done is make things worse for us.

the woman who lives there was perfectly fine, we used to talk to her. it's ever since she had her new boyfriend move in that the troubles started.

another issue we have now is their side of the fence collapsed when we had the bad snow in december. how on earth am i going to address that now? i was going to leave it for a bit and see if they do fix it, but i highly doubt they will. i daren't go round as they'll probably phone the police and say we're harassing them!

biggaz26

Xiderpunk wrote: »

Sorry to hear this, nothing worse than falling out with neighbours. As sherlock advises, often the best approach to diffuse a potentially escalating situation is too talk to them as gentleman and ladies.

Our street (we are in the process of moving!) was fantastic for years. All houses privately owned and all neighbours got along great. A few years ago a couple of houses on the street got bought for the purposes of social housing. As is now largely expected, every tenant they have had has been inconsiderate, rude and generally unpleasant, they have no interest in maintaining their homes or even being reasonable. Lots of noise problems and so forth. They should just call a spade a spade and rename social housing to unsocial housing.

Lets hope your neighbours will be decent unlike the ones near us.

How dare you. People like you should live on an island with all the other snobs.

Not all of us in social housing behave as you suggest.

Some do but dont tar us all with the same brush

G

Viper_7

Tit for tat it seems.

When I had a problem with a neighbours dog barking for hours and hours on end when it was left alone in the house, rather than involve myself directly, I let the council write the letter. That way it could have been anyone complaining, that way it is less confrontational. However sure no-one likes to be "told off".

Dogs naturally do bark, but they can be trained and should not be barking persistently.

Keep a diary of times when it is excessive, not just the odd bark here and there. Don't confront them directly but inform the council - not the police.
If there is a property on the other side they may also have complained.

At the same time though be aware of how much noise you make yourself. Think about the TV's location. Just because you may be bunged up and can't hear well doesn't give you right to inflict this on others.

Nuisance noise is a tricky one to address, and I fully understand how draining it can be on your life.

red_devil

B.. wrote: »

I think you're right! i dont know what else i could of done, we put up with the howling for about 2-3 months. i know dogs bark and i expect that, but they were full on howling at the top of their voice and it was constant, used to go on for about 2 hours! lack of sleep was starting to affect my work and my daughter was also suffering, so i decided to go round and try and solve it and all it's done is make things worse for us.

the woman who lives there was perfectly fine, we used to talk to her. it's ever since she had her new boyfriend move in that the troubles started.

another issue we have now is their side of the fence collapsed when we had the bad snow in december. how on earth am i going to address that now? i was going to leave it for a bit and see if they do fix it, but i highly doubt they will. i daren't go round as they'll probably phone the police and say we're harassing them!

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we have had the fence battle as well. They wouldnt do it or contribute half so we did it ourselves in the end. I dont think there is anything you can do legally to make neighbours put a fence up. I know i did alot of research into this at the time.

B..

You know what, if i had known they would of been like this I would of gone straight to the council myself about the dogs etc, rather than try and be nice and polite about it. They would know it was us, as she lives at the end house so we're the only joined neighbour. But that wouldn't bother me really. The dogs are not trained, and they barely ever get taken out for a walk, but to be fair to them they have stopped with the howling, but i've seen them coming out with muzzles on, so thats probably why? dunno.

As for the fence, i know what you mean, i can see ours being like that aswell. problem is, they have their own bamboo type fencing nailed to the actual fence, and also they have a tree which would need trimming aswell as it's pushing the fence down in the middle. so we will need permission for those...

even then i can imagine her refusing us permission, or say she doesn't like the fencing and complaining to the council or something.

oh and i went out today to drop my daughter off at school and the guy nextdoor laughed at me, i just carried on and ignored it. lovely.

SteveB81_2

Personally I would just apologise to them and try and calm things down. Even if you don't mean it it might save aggro in the long term.

Usually disputes get out of hand because people don't speak - or when they do they argue.

split_second

i guess i'm lucky, the bloke next door is happy enough to speak to anyone (has half a dozen dogs, they probably bark a bit in the day, i sleep heavily so they never wake me), they do the usual old person thing of tv on loud but when mine is on i cant hear it.
other side are ok, i can hear them every so often (usually sunday mornings when the kids run around loads), and comically she avoids the lawnmower and strimmer like the plague, and sends my almost daily gifts and requests on cityville on facebook.

both social tenants from what i can gather