Will my benefits get stopped?

biggaz26

No sympathy. Millions of people are out of work and desperately seeking employment.

Get off you ares and get experience working in one of the local fast food places or go to all the retails units in you local shopping centre and ask if they have work...any work...Get a job, get some experience and another more 'motivating' job will be easier to find.

We all have bad days, we all get knocked down, the true strength of someone shows when the keep getting up and getting on no matter how many times it happens.

This may sound harsh to you but I hope they do stop your benefits to teach you a lesson...Get off your !!! and get into your appointments in future.

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epsilondraconis

OrangeBoy, perhaps you need to stop thinking about looking for a career. Start by just applying for jobs in areas that you have some interest in (even if you don't have a lot of interest in it).

When I was younger I wondered what career path I would take. I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do, I just stumbled into my line of work after finishing university.

You'll probably have to have a few jobs before you get one that you like. Don't think that the first job you take will define your career. You have many years of working life ahead of you (assuming you don't stay on benefits). Don't worry about changing jobs a little whilst you're still young. You'll find something you like at some point.

Try to look at this as a challenge that you relish rather than feeling down in the dumps.

Gordon_Hose

Nice attitude.

iamana1ias

What time was your appointment and how much notice did you give to cancel it? I doubt very much they'll be able to give anyone else your appointment. What a waste.

What is your degree in? You're planning a Masters too, what in? How did you decide what to study?

I have never known what I wanted to be. I began working at 15 and haven't stopped since. I've had a wide variety of jobs that have given me lots of skills and experiences. I have been able to buy property and move up the ladder a few times. I've never been unemployed. Now, in my mid-thirties I own nice things and enjoy a decent lifestyle and my mortgage is fully offset. I work hard, despite not always loving my job. I'd say I fell into what has become my career by accident - I certainly didn't choose it.

You just sound like a bitter child, frankly. Man up, pull your finger out and go to work. Stamping your foot won't bring you riches.

SingleSue

I was one of those who knew exactly what she wanted to do as a career...but have I done it?

Not really.

I found, quite by accident as I took the first job that came along, that I am very good in high pressure admin type jobs in shipping rather than the caring, nursing type (I wanted to be a specialised nurse or at least working with children). I loved it, loved the stress, the pressure, the buzz.

I did get my chance to work with children as a volunteer, my dream job finally....and hated it.

So even if you have a defined career in mind, the reality of that career may not be up to expectations and you find that it really is not suited to you.

biggaz26

Here is some advice and I hope you take it on board.

Stop whining that no one is holding you hand and telling you how wonderfull you can be at a partcular job.

You are unemployed and claiming benefits, something in an earlier post you said you hate.

Dont worry about careers or specific jobs. Those who want to work will find work.

If you really want to work, spend less time writing on here how demotivated you are and get off you !!! and go looking. Not one prospective employer knows who you are in amognst the millions of other unemployed so you have to go find them.

Maybe Im being harsh but not wanting to look is the same as not wanting to work....

We have a country with millions wanting to take out of the system with out putting anything in...dont be one of the wasters...

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shikoku

orangeboy1988 wrote: »

. You feel the worst of the worst. You feel like scum. When you have this in your head day and night, you do feel unmotivated.

I think your problem is low self esteem and probably serious depression, no one should be referring to them self as scum. Perhaps a visit to the doctor or a call to the Samaritans might help.

http://www.samaritans.org/

As a good friend once said to me 'Don't put yourself down there are plenty of others who will do that for you'

(Particularly true on this board I'm afraid )

Even the Longest Journey Begins with One Step.

I think only when you feel better about yourself will you be able to go forward and that starts in your own head not in your circumstances.

Gordon_Hose

I didn't know what I wanted to do, and did some really rubbish jobs after leaving the Army in 2001. Fell into Telecoms by accident and have loved it ever since. I'd like to stay in Telecoms, but I am staring redundancy in the face, and at this moment in time I'll do ANYTHING so I don't have to sign on.

Do any job, it'll help you figure out what you want to do, you might even find something you hadn't considered before and love it.

Being a moaning minnie isn't going to help you get ahead in life.

GEEGEE8

Maybe you need to just get a 'job', rather than a 'career'.

If you don't know what career you want then the only way to do it is to get jobs in various sectors and try them out. Now I know that isn't easy at the moment, due to the recession, but there ARE jobs out there, you just need to get one. Even if it's a crap one it'll help you! guaranteed!

I'm at uni now, and just applied to McDonalds.. it's a little soul destroying for me lol. But it's a job and I've actually heard good things about it. I don't want a career in fast food mind you, but it's ideal whilst I'm at uni.

I'm 27 and have been in some good jobs before, but knew they weren't for me. It's depressing when you have worked hard at something and it's lead to nothing.

You have to try, otherwise you are going to get further and further into a black hole.

Good luck, and get to your doctors!

Gordon_Hose

Good on you