12 to 24 week pregnancy thread

pigpen

He'll be here before you know it!!! It hasn't been a fun time has it? .. maybe the next one will be less stressful for you . You will probably find after all the trouble he has caused so far he will be a lovely placid angelic type baby!

Blue_Monkey

Thanks for the congrats all!

WW - I think this is called "nesting"

Well, I've been in tears this morning, which is so stupid, but is reassuring me that I'm still pregnant as I wouldn't normally cry over this.... Basically I called the hospital to find out when I'd get a new booking in appointment with the midwife after last week's faff. She put me on hold and then told me it would be when I'm about 24 weeks! So I cried. Silly I know, but I just feel like I've been left to get on with this big massive thing called pregnancy when I'm miles away from home and could really do with some reassurance from the the healthcare system and actually I'm getting none. I know that having a midwife appointment wouldn't necessarily pick up if something was wrong, and that she'll just weigh me etc, but I feel like I'm missing out on bits of the process.

As it happens it's looking like we'll be moving back to the UK when I'm 24 weeks, so god knows if it's even worth it.

I appreciate they must be busy, but this just seems ridic.

Am off for a bath. Don't care if its the middle of the day and I'm supposed to be working (working from home).

Sequeena

pigpen wrote: »

He'll be here before you know it!!! It hasn't been a fun time has it? .. maybe the next one will be less stressful for you . You will probably find after all the trouble he has caused so far he will be a lovely placid angelic type baby!

Oh I don't think I could do this again. I'll automatically be higher risk next time and the worry is awful. I just want him in my arms he better be a good baby with all the trouble he has caused lol!

summerday

Blue Monkey huge congrats on your fab news. It sounds like it was very romantic. It must be stressful with the confusion in healthcare system over there. Before you know it you'll be back here and hopefully you'll feel a lot better.

RW I'm sure things will all come together with your new home. Enlist as much help as poss from family and friends but as long as the bare bacics are covered and your little one has somewhere to sleep, food and love it'll be fine.

WW I've been having some very weird, vivd dreams lately too. Some baby related, some not. The other day I dreamed that OH had smashed up the car but didn't dare tell me and that he'd been drink driving (which he NEVER does ad I know would never do!). I had to go and look at the car as soon as I woke up it had felt so very real! Maybe it's our hormones? ...

Also I'm wondering how much of a bump everyone has? I'm only 15+3 but my stomach has got huge, but it's not hard like I always thought pregnant bellies were (though I'm no expert as this is my 1st!) and I think I have mostly just put on some fat round my belly but it's embarrassing when people comment on it so soon!

Take care everyone,
Summerday x

pigpen

Sequeena wrote: »

Oh I don't think I could do this again. I'll automatically be higher risk next time and the worry is awful. I just want him in my arms he better be a good baby with all the trouble he has caused lol!

Never say never.. it will all fade to a bad memory once he is here safe and sound.

My sister said never ever again.. and now, 2.5 years later she is saying maybe when she is at school...

Summer.. I am enormous... and this is small for me!!! It was obvious at 9 weeks!

Claire_Bear

Just a quickie, what are people's thoughts on finding out the sex? My OH works in a working men's club, and I go and sit with him a lot during the daytime when it's quiet. I've got to know everyone quite well, but found that pretty much everyone is giving me their opinion on this (whether I want it or not!) Some of the older people say they wouldn't find out, but I think that's just an old-fashioned thing with them, they said they couldn't when their kids were born and they were happy not to know. However, last week there was a couple (in their 40s maybe) and they were being quite forceful and telling me I definitely shouldn't find out and people won't care about the baby anymore or buy me anything for it once they know the sex :S They were being quite horrible about it and kept telling me I was wrong. I'm still going to find out though!

Kira000

Just a quickie, what are people's thoughts on finding out the sex?

Hiya, DH and I are determined to find out if at all possible. We are both people who like to advance plan everything possible, (especially me!) so the idea of not finding out is incomprehensible to us! I saw some ADORABLE outfits on Sunday, but they were quite gender specific, so i'm desparate to know so i can buy one or t'other! I know that people nver used to be able to find out, so some oldies might not "get it", but lots of things have changed since then, so i dont feel compelled to obey all the old ways.
So far everyone who has asked if we will or won't, has been quite excited about knowing so soon, so we will probably tell them once we know. However if you think the people you know are less "into" knowing, then don't tell 'em! Just because you know, doesnt mean they have to! problem solved!
Go with your instinct and sod everyone else!

K x

waitingforpost

Claire Bear - Forget what anyone else thinks you should or shouldn't do. It's entirely yours and your OH's decision. Personally, we have kept it a surprise as it's our first and we don't have a preference for either sex. But most people I know of who are pregnant have found out the sex. As I said, it's a personal decision and it really doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.

Wonder_Womble

Claire_Bear wrote: »

telling me I definitely shouldn't find out and people won't care about the baby anymore or buy me anything for it once they know the sex :S They were being quite horrible about it and kept telling me I was wrong.

!!!!!!?!?! Why would people not care about your baby anymore just because they know the sex?? How very odd!

We aren't finding out the sex, because 2 people I know were told they were having one, then actually had the other. One of those mothers took it really hard and grieved for the baby she thought she was having. Both had bought gender specific items and were quite upset. Remember when you do find out, it is never 100% accurate.

summerday

I think we will wait and see for a surprise, as neither or us has a preference. But I know what you mean, quite a lot of people especially older people are very anti-finding out- although most of them only admitted so to me after I told them we weren't going to find out. Personally I can't see a problem with it, especially if you have a strong preference then at least if you find out early that it's not what you'd hoped you have time to accept it and bond anyway. Plus it does make it easier with colours for buying etc.

TBH I think when you're pg it seems to give everyone a licence to dictate exactly what you should do in every aspect of child rearing, whether or not that advice is wanted! Best to just ignore them.