Help! present needed for Muslims moving in next door!

Mandles

Maybe he thought that you were trying to sell a cake to him & didnt realise you were from next door! Ah, you poor thing, you tried so hard.Give it another go when they are a bit more settled in in a week or so.Maybe they just want to keep themselves to themselves as it is in a lot of places.

BaileyB

I just had new neighbours moved in last night, so will give them a few days to settle in and then pop around to see them. They have rented so they might be off in 6 months or so. We had one last time for 6 months and went over to say hello and that was the last i really saw them. They really stayed to themselves which is fine by me.

Careful_girl

I suggest you don't give up. You are a lovely friendly person and you really want to have a good relationship with your new neighbours. I work with many musems and teach maimly Muslem children. I love being part of the community and they find it so refreshing that I am very interested in their culture and becoming more knowledgable. We do not know what kind of community they are from....they may have had awful abuse. Perhaps the cake was a bit too much. Perhaps it would be OK to take it on a second visit...or you can explain about it and ask if you can bring it round. All the stuff I give to the children is vegetarian, that generally suffices when trying not to give unwanted ingredients. I would maybe wait until one of the men are outside the door and then offer your hand to shake. Say how pleased you are that a nice family have moved in and that you hope they will be happy ...you know the stuff. Or your wife could approach one of the ladies. Perhaps they thought you were asking for donations or they may have been tired....Perhaps the chap was just a cousin...the whole family often helps. as I say don't give up and don't take their reaction to heart, moving is so stressful and they most likely misjudged your lovely gesture.
You could try the Muslem greeting A sal am a lay come (sorry total wrong spelling but it is the phonetic version of what I hear and say at times). They may reply Wa ley come a salam. Although one very radical mum told me she would not reply to me as I was not a Muslem.It means peace be with you and then the peace is offered back (I think). They should not be offended by it more likely to fall over because you are trying to value their religion.
I really hope that you can have a happy relationship with your neighbours....send them an Eid card for the next Eid again they wil be really touched. Most likely your wife will be asked around and come back with Mendhi on her hands!!
Oh to have lovely neighbours like you everywhere.:beer:
All the best,
CG:j

larmy16

Some people just don't want to get involved with neighbours, especially if they have had troubles with neighbours in their previous residence. If you dont get too friendly, then you cannot really fall out. A Good morning and a friendly smile are usually sufficient I think.

It was a nice idea, the welcoming present, but now just relax and wait until you have the opportunity to just say hi when you see your neighbours. If they did get an idea they were being watched through a telescope, that would be off putting for a start!!!!!!

Angel777

I thinks its a really really lovely gesture and was sorry to read that your gift was not well recieved.

I think maybe they were just surprised and did not realise what you were doing.

When i moved in to my home 2 1/2 yrs ago, my friend stayed with me and then we had a knock on the door. Bearing in mind i was going to be living on my own i was a bit scared to see this man knocking away. I was too scared to answer the door!!!!

It turned out to be next door, a lovely guy who i got to know in the future and i was so sad that he moved away a few months ago.

Maybe try and catch them in a few days time to explain.

wish i had nieghbours kind enough to bake me a cake!!!!

highland

Please forgive me if I have got this all wrong but there is something about the tone of moneymans posts that hints at wind-up to me
I hope not I'd like to think he was just a friendly neighbour.

looby75

The thought crossed my mind too, but maybe I'm just really cynical!

clairehi

moneyman4u wrote:

the new ladies had the full monty on, all in black they were. I always think its such a shame, but I'm very live and let live really.

is this for real?

larmy16

I hope so, the worst thing is I had to put the cake in the garage because Mrs M has a nervous disposition and has been worrying about this since September,

This sounds a little intense too!!!!!!!!!!!!

taxi97w

moneyman4u wrote:

Mrs M counted 22 van trips before they stopped when it got dark.

This is slightly dodgy too, unless they've got a Lion, Witch & Wardrobe type scenario goin on.:cool: