January 2012 brides...

jojo2004

Ha ha V - you'll have to wear thermals! Hope it goes well - I'm sure it will be a lush dress - if you have any pics from fittings, I know I'd LOVE to see them!! Assuming it's more than a strip or two of fabric, obv...

Your venue is beautiful, and yay for the MSEness of no minimum spend!

Plans going well - we've seen our four possible caterers, ruled one out by having a tasting, but impressed by other three, and going back for tastings once they're out of the busy August wedding season.

We've booked our photographer - a lady who advertised a deal on here as she was starting up - she's since done amazingly well, but is keeping the offer open to us (v kind) and does GORGEOUS pics. She's seen the venue and church, and loves both, so we're delighted with that.

We've also checked out a lot of accommodation near the venue - we had a wedmin holiday in the area last week, and stayed at different places each night so we can tell our guests where to go and where to avoid!

Ceilidh band are in hand, dress is now ordered, I just want to find some pale blue satin ballet pumps for my feet now (and wellies as a back up!), and will get a veil once I've had the dress fitting.

Most of our Save the Dates have gone out, and I'm doing mock up invites now so we can decide how to do our invites - need to start writing them soonish. Our wedding website is almost ready to be unveiled (invites will direct people to the website to RSVP, check our accom, Gift List etc). We've not started a Gift List yet, but will be doing so soonish.

Next big thing to book is the honeymoon!

Other than that, and wine, which we're doing ourselves, we're getting on well!

How are you getting on?
xx

v5076

Hi both

How are your plans coming along?

We've got our invites this week so we're just doing the final list and getting ready to send them out... suddenly seems so real now that I've got them in my hand. I've also got to work out some wording to put with my ex-bridesmaid's invite. We've decided we're only going to invite her to the evening. We're limited on numbers and I'd rather have somebody there that has actually helped with the wedding instead. So far I've got

"As I know you are short of money and, as you know, we are only having a small number of guests to the whole day, I thought it would help us both out financially if you just came to the evening".

Not sure if it sounds too snooty though.

Also, (being the very organised person that I am) booked our Easter holiday yesterday (going to Haven with some friends and their families) and had to use my married name... all v strange!

I've also just realised that I dont know when you are getting married. What dates are your weddings, ours is the 28th.

Are you going on a honeymoon straight after the wedding? We were hoping to go on a cruise around the caribbean as this was where we got engaged but our pockets just won't allow. The cost had doubled in price since we booked it last time and so we just can't afford it. Any suggestions for other destinations would be appreciated.

I hope all your plans are coming together.

ILoveEoin

Hiya:)

my plans WERE coming on great, I have the day invites wrote and ready to post and it feels so real now.
I am getting Married on Fri 13th Jan 2012:)
Bit of a rant coming on now....sorry:( well i orignal planned not to have bridemaids but i found lovely dresses and flowers for 3 of my closest friends and decided to ask them to do it, 2 were so pleased and excited but 3rd one lets call her Jane was like erm mayb, i said that fine no problem and quickly answered yes. so i explianed to them i have slight ocd and everything has to match and they were happy about this. so i spent all the next day sending links back and forward to all 3. everything i choose jane didnt like so she returned with ones she liked etc ,so we finally found one we all liked and i asked for sizes! big mistake! first 2 no problem had them within 10mins in inchs, cm, dress size etc, jane nope wouldnt tell me..... i asked for 3days solid and finally as a joke and bit of push on facebook i said, could someone let jane a tape measure or she be going in her birthday suit lol, jez she went mental said it wasnt funny, told bridemaid no2 to tell me she not my bridemaids and in fact she not comin to the weddin, deleted me of bbm and facebook and when i called her she cancelled my calls and text me never to contact her again......i just dont understand wat i have done. it left me very sad, upset and dont even want get married now

flossy_splodge

v5076 wrote: »

Hi both


"As I know you are short of money and, as you know, we are only having a small number of guests to the whole day, I thought it would help us both out financially if you just came to the evening".

Not sure if it sounds too snooty though.

Snooty? No. Offensive? Yes!
Please tell me its a wind up and you wouldn't seriously write that?

How about:
As you know, we are getting married on....... and we do hope you will be free to join us in the evening when there will be food and fun for all.
or any variation of this.
You really do not want to let your current feelings spill onto your special day.
Best of luck.:)

flossy_splodge

ILoveEoin wrote: »

Hiya:)

my plans WERE coming on great, I have the day invites wrote and ready to post and it feels so real now.
I am getting Married on Fri 13th Jan 2012:)
Bit of a rant coming on now....sorry:( well i orignal planned not to have bridemaids but i found lovely dresses and flowers for 3 of my closest friends and decided to ask them to do it, 2 were so pleased and excited but 3rd one lets call her Jane was like erm mayb, i said that fine no problem and quickly answered yes. so i explianed to them i have slight ocd and everything has to match and they were happy about this. so i spent all the next day sending links back and forward to all 3. everything i choose jane didnt like so she returned with ones she liked etc ,so we finally found one we all liked and i asked for sizes! big mistake! first 2 no problem had them within 10mins in inchs, cm, dress size etc, jane nope wouldnt tell me..... i asked for 3days solid and finally as a joke and bit of push on facebook i said, could someone let jane a tape measure or she be going in her birthday suit lol, jez she went mental said it wasnt funny, told bridemaid no2 to tell me she not my bridemaids and in fact she not comin to the weddin, deleted me of bbm and facebook and when i called her she cancelled my calls and text me never to contact her again......i just dont understand wat i have done. it left me very sad, upset and dont even want get married now

Oh I so feel for you.:o
This whole thing seems to be such a big problem.
If this girl matters to you how about writing her a heartfelt note telling her you just didn't know how else to get her to respond as it was very stressful for YOU to not be able to get the whole thing sorted.
If she doesn't respond, quite frankly perhaps she's not the friend you thought she was?
Sorry but it's all about YOU, NOT anyone else. She may be very very touchy about her size but she NEEDS to deal with it or drop out of being an attendant. Simples.
Try not to worry. With the best will in the world it is not possible for everything to actually be perfect. It IS OK for things to be 'good enough'. Thats reality.
Very best of luck. xx

jojo2004

v5076 wrote: »

Hi both

How are your plans coming along?

We've got our invites this week so we're just doing the final list and getting ready to send them out... suddenly seems so real now that I've got them in my hand. I've also got to work out some wording to put with my ex-bridesmaid's invite. We've decided we're only going to invite her to the evening. We're limited on numbers and I'd rather have somebody there that has actually helped with the wedding instead. So far I've got

"As I know you are short of money and, as you know, we are only having a small number of guests to the whole day, I thought it would help us both out financially if you just came to the evening".

Not sure if it sounds too snooty though.

Also, (being the very organised person that I am) booked our Easter holiday yesterday (going to Haven with some friends and their families) and had to use my married name... all v strange!

I've also just realised that I dont know when you are getting married. What dates are your weddings, ours is the 28th.

Are you going on a honeymoon straight after the wedding? We were hoping to go on a cruise around the caribbean as this was where we got engaged but our pockets just won't allow. The cost had doubled in price since we booked it last time and so we just can't afford it. Any suggestions for other destinations would be appreciated.

I hope all your plans are coming together.

Hey V,

I have to agree with flossy (my mum! Hello mum!) that I wouldn't write that to your ex-bm. I'd keep it vague in terms of why (you don't need to justify it) and friendly - 'we'd be delighted if you'd celebrate with us in the evening/from x o'clock', but not mention money, or the number of guests - it strikes me as having the potential to be misread all too easily!

We're Jan 7th - probably the earliest of us here? Just enough time to recover from New Year, then straight into it!

Honeymoon wise - I'd look at Malta (although not sure how warm?) or Egypt (should be medium-warm, getting hotter as you go south, for cheaper options. Or, I'd scour places like Groupon, and Travelzoo for good deals - there are often INCREDIBLY cheap hol options, a week in Tunisia, 5*, for £200 pp half board, for example.

We're making invites today - despite the letter idea being well received, we couldn't decide how to do it best, so have gone with more traditional invites, with a few touches of our own (the map is my favourite - it has mini drawings done by OH of our church, venue and nearest hotel!)
So far they are looking pretty awesome (modesty, modesty), will post a pic when we've done!

We are going on honeymoon straight after, yes - v excited about it, but part of me thinks that actually waiting and going a few months after the wedding (as some of our friends are doing) would be a lot of fun too!

Other than that - caterers tastings on Weds next week, after which a decision will be taken as to who to book. Florist meeting the same day to see what kind of costs would be involved in having a florist as opposed to doing our own. BMs dresses are in hand (they live in London, Midlands and Aberdeen, so it's unlikely to be a big shopping trip all together, but we're doing a great job by email, and Mum is being an ANGEL sorting them all out), hen do is in hand apparently, and we have three big jobs left: wedding rings, drinks, and gift list.

Hurrah! So excited! x

ILoveEoin

flossy_splodge wrote: »

Oh I so feel for you.:o
This whole thing seems to be such a big problem.
If this girl matters to you how about writing her a heartfelt note telling her you just didn't know how else to get her to respond as it was very stressful for YOU to not be able to get the whole thing sorted.
If she doesn't respond, quite frankly perhaps she's not the friend you thought she was?
Sorry but it's all about YOU, NOT anyone else. She may be very very touchy about her size but she NEEDS to deal with it or drop out of being an attendant. Simples.
Try not to worry. With the best will in the world it is not possible for everything to actually be perfect. It IS OK for things to be 'good enough'. Thats reality.
Very best of luck. xx

Thank you for the reply, i just feel so bad!
I havent even told my mum yet:(
I just feel like it all going to be an horrible and dreading my hen do which everyone going be asking where my friend is!
I just DONT want too show my family up, my dad worked so hard for us and i just want him to have a nice day out.
As a family we had a horrible year and i was thinking the wedding would be a good start to 2012 but now am not sure i want go ahead with it all.
Hopefully in the next few weeks when i do my dress fitting and go see hotel and set up my wee sweet table it might help with the mood of the wedding, feels like bloody funeral at the min.

anyway sorry for the rant..... hows everyone 'to going' list going?? mine same to be getting longer! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

xx

jojo2004

Hellllloooo!
Been busy recently (and not just with wedding planning), but thought it was time to say hello to all the lovely Jan brides.

So - how's it going ladies?

We've made huge progress:
Ceilidh band and DJ booked
Caterers and menu chosen
Champers for reception done - kind OH's aunt and uncle
Wine partially (possibly) chosen
Wedding rings - styles chosen
Honeymoon booked (!!!!!)
BMs dresses booked, and am getting a quote for capes
Hen night is only eight (EIGHT!) days away - and I have a hen dinner too, in Dec - yes, I am GREEDY.
Banns in hand, although we have to sort out local ones this weekend
Dress fitting should be IMMINENT (*where* is my dress? WHERE??!!!)
Cars are in hand (thanks Dad)
Flowers are in hand (thanks Mum)
Bubbles (it's a no confetti church) in hand (thanks BM)
Sweetie table being done by BM
Cake is going to be an ACE surprise made by Mum (thanks Mum again)
Readings and hymns picked, and processional/recessional chosen
Gift List done

Woohoo! Still stuff to do, but not that much in the 'has to be done or we can't have a wedding' list, more in the 'wouldn't it be nice if' list.

So, update me ladies, how are you getting on?
I'm now looking for hairdressers, and sorting out who's staying where (bridal party), and doing little bits and bobs.

Hope everyone's well. xxxx

ILoveEoin

Well Hello My Jan Brides

Hope you’re all keeping well and looking like you had been doing some planning jojo, well done

I was very happy to hear that you’re having your hen do so soon to; I was worried I was doing mine early. Stag do 5th, am 27th Nov! (Just think wit Xmas, party, New Year I’ll not get a chance unless do it in the next month)

Wedding plans are getting there slowly but a lot happier about it. Had few rough weeks to be honest had huge fight with my mum over her inviting people that i don’t know and not really anyone that important tbh. Mum seems to be speaking to me again until the next one I supposeL

My dress needed altered so I asked around and got a local women who I was told was amazing, actually no she not! I have an ivory zip up dress and wish it to be changed into lace up. The lady didn’t take away the zip, made the hooks for the lace up out of WHITE cheap ribbon and cheap WHITE ribbon as the lace up, it very thin and am very busty! I was so angry, I couldn’t speak which is very unlike meL I went straight home and order new dress off eBay! So I really hope it arrives and it goodJ

Anyone else ready for wedding or feeling like they don’t have enough time?

Xx hugs xx

v5076

Hi both.

It seems like an age since I last came on here but things have been v busy the last few weeks.

All our invites have now gone out and the dress fittings are coming along and I actually got to try on something resembling a dress last time and it looked beautiful. Am really really pleased with it.

I think we need to do now is to sort out table dressings but I can't make up my mind what I want so I'm off to the wholesalers on Sunday afternoon with my friend who is sorting it out for us so I can decide (hopefully!!).

I got a reminder today that my wedding is now only 3 months away and so into double figures...... ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH where has the time gone.

As for hen do's - I've already had mine lol. We had a joint stag / hen party and the girls went for a spa day and the boys went to play golf and then we all met up for a meal and a few drinks in the evening and it was lovely.

Where are you going on your honeymoon jojo? I've looked at all sorts of places but can't really decide. Thought I'd decided on one place but it turns out its in the rainy season and it's majorily humid so not sure about it now :mad: