May have to resign - can I claim JSA?

DFWJane

I have an evening job which I thought was ideal as hubby home and could look after children. The problem is he is finding it really hard to cope with them after a hard day at work. He comes in the door and I go out to work and he has to deal with the kids, 4 and 2, at tea time, bath time, bed time etc and when i got home last night he was nearly at breaking point.

We need the money I earn but can't go on like this. There is noone else who could help with childcare. In addition he is often called back into work in the evenings and is having to wait till I get home to then go back in and it can get quite late.

I am going through the process of becoming a childminder and am waiting for ofsted inspection and the CRB, so I'm as far along with it as I can be at the mo. Once I have a mindee I planned to stop the evening job anyway but hubby can't wait that long. It's doing the kids no good and affecting our marriage.

If I resign, would I have sufficient argument to claim JSA for a while?

nannytone_2

you could only claim JSA
(contribution based) if you paid sufficient NI contributions in the relevant tax years.
if your husband earns more than £102 a week you won't qualify for income based JSA.

nannytone_2

amd if you can get contribution based JSA it is probable that yiou would be sanctioned for up to 26 weeks for leaving a job.
if your husband can't cope with HIS children, why should you get benefit to make up your loss?

DFWJane

It would be contribution based - I don't think I would qualify in that case, low paid part time job. I earn less than the NI threshold.

Question answered, methinks!

DFWJane

nannytone wrote: »

amd if you can get contribution based JSA it is probable that yiou would be sanctioned for up to 26 weeks for leaving a job.
if your husband can't cope with HIS children, why should you get benefit to make up your loss?

I'm not workshy, btw, and don't want to claim benefits, just trying to find a solution.

Not all people are copers, it's making DH ill.

Blitz01

DFWJane wrote: »

I'm not workshy, btw, and don't want to claim benefits, just trying to find a solution.

Not all people are copers, it's making DH ill.

No one said you were lazy.....it is however clear that your husband doesn't share your work ethic.

Sorry, but many off us (not just the women, but us blokes aswell), have full time jobs and are FULL TIME parents.
This is a cop out on your husbands part to say caring for his own kids is making him ill.
The tax payer should not be supporting you if your husband would rather relax in front of the telly every evening.

nannytone_2

i totally understand that not everyone can cope with young children. but that doesnt make a claim!

HappyMJ

DFWJane wrote: »

I'm not workshy, btw, and don't want to claim benefits, just trying to find a solution.

Not all people are copers, it's making DH ill.

You're not workshy no but what I'm amazed about is a grown man can manage people during the day but 2 kids a 2 and a 4 year is beyond him for a few hours in the evening. Could a friend help him out in the evening whilst you are working?

shop-to-drop

It seems a shame to have to give up work if you really need the money as I don't think you will be able to claim any benefits except maybe an increase in tax credits possibly. Can the solution be helping OH to cope. The evening shift with kids is really feeding, reading and bed. After a certain time he should have some time for a quick tidy up and then put his feet up. Presumably you can have dinner ready or largely prepared before you go. Can you help him get the hang of the bedtime routine? Do you have a friend relative that can support him with it until he has got the hang of it? Even if you are going to eventually take back over the evening shift when you become a child minder it would be nice to know that he can take over every now and again.

nannytone_2

what about before you worked?
didn't he help out or did he just leave it all to you?
either way it's a poor excuse. theyre his kids and his (and your) responsibility.

if i were you i'd be concerned. what would happen if (god forbid) you died tomorrow?
would the kids end up in care?

BAFE

Do not give up your job. When your DH says he can't cope, what he really means is he'd like you to be on hand to provide all the domestic niceties.

If you jack your job in and stay home looking after the kids, you'll still be working, it'll just be unpaid work instead of paid work.

Why should he stop working at 6pm whilst you have to carry on. Sorry but childcare is a joint 24/7 responsibility. You need to have a good talk to your dh. I bet if you got a saturday job, he'd come out with another reason why he couldn't look after his own kids.