Help please with getting our dog back

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

SVM wrote: »

And you're assuming/implying you know what is best for the dog?

I simply said the OP wasnt thinking about the dogs needs but more his own. There is a reason his ex gave the dog up, there is a reason the dog shelter rehomed the dog (that's if there even is a shelter involved) and theres a reason the new owners are refusing to give the dog up.

When asked with simple questions the OP has become very negative and defensive when all anyone is doing here is offering advice.

Considering the inconsistances in this post it seems rather odd that the OP has neglected and ignored a lot of reasonable questions - dont you think?

FakeIrish

mommyme wrote: »

I simply said the OP wasnt thinking about the dogs needs but more his own. There is a reason his ex gave the dog up, there is a reason the dog shelter rehomed the dog (that's if there even is a shelter involved) and theres a reason the new owners are refusing to give the dog up.

When asked with simple questions the OP has become very negative and defensive when all anyone is doing here is offering advice.

Considering the inconsistances in this post it seems rather odd that the OP has neglected and ignored a lot of reasonable questions - dont you think?

It doesn't matter what I think. The poster asked for advice, which you started to give. And you were being helpful until you clouded your contribution by indicating the dog is better of elsewhere. You do not know the man's circumstances but you jumped to conclusion and insulted the man.

He's split up with his wife, and lost his dog. Give him a break.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

SVM wrote: »

It doesn't matter what I think. The poster asked for advice, which you started to give. And you were being helpful until you clouded your contribution by indicating the dog is better of elsewhere. You do not know the man's circumstances but you jumped to conclusion and insulted the man.

He's split up with his wife, and lost his dog. Give him a break.

it's my opnion, doesnt mean its right or wrong. However - The OP has been asked countless times by countless people questions that would help clear up the contridictions so we could offer supportive help but he chooses to ignore them and instead, repost with abuse (did you not notice his abusive post which was edited and changed to "i wont say what i was going to put" because i disagreed with something he put?) I havent been abusive to the OP but after the comment he put I came to the conclusion he wasnt going to listen to anyone unless they are saying "yes, you can get the dog back" - which im sorry, wont happen if it the ex has signed the dog over legally to a kennel.

OP refuses to say whether the dog has been handled to a kennel, or to a regular person

OP has been to the new owners and - fron reading his posts - got into an arguement

OP doesnt know if the dog is chipped

OP has not once said the dog is in any danger / being mis treated by new owners

OP hasnt been thinking whats best for the dog (which is fair enough, OP's family has just broke down) but the dogs already had a lot of drama and deserves to be settled. Granted, in an ideal world he'd be back with his family, but as the family is now broken up i guess thats not the case.

OP's ex has every right to sign the dog over to a kennel if she no longer wants it. OP hasnt said whether he was offered the dog befor it was given away

OP hasnt replied to somone's comment re: work etc. Will OP have time for the dog now he's single?

EDIT: no - I agree I dont know the OP's circumstances . . . Thats because when we've all asked him if he has time for the dog etc he has chosen to ignore them so we can only assume

birduk

I'm with Mommyme on this one. I have no idea what is going on! I don't think you can offer advice until you fully understand the situation- if anyone does, would they mind explaining it to me?

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viktory wrote: »

How do you know who has the dog? Surely the rescue didn't give you that information?

ETA: This whole story makes no sense at all.

I know who has the dog because my wife told me and I have spoken to the person who has the dog.

Unless you have some advice then dont post, simples.

And talking about making no sense at all, what is ETA?

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mommyme wrote: »

lol I'm sorry but that's the funniest thing i've read today.

You may disagree with my statement, that's your opnion, But, I - as well as others, have offered you some sound advice with regards to the dog.

Your putting your feelings first before the dog's, when in fact, you should be thinking whats best for the dog.

And if you actually bothered to read you will see quite clearly I have thanked everyone for their help and advice.

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Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

So why did she rehome the dog? Was it because you had walked out and she was unable to look after it? (and why is the dog an IT and not a he or she?) Was she scared you would hurt the dog in some way? Was she worried she would be held responsible for the neglect that is being alleged? Was she protecting the dog from abuse by getting it away from you? Do you always react to awkward questions with rage and accusations of taking sides?

No way would I hand an animal back if there are breakups and arguments all over the place.

And my posts are meant to make no sense!
I will start with you saying I am reacting with rage. Things have been and still are a little emotional so forgive me for being a human being!!

Sorry I cannot fathom the rest of your post.

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mommyme wrote: »

I simply said the OP wasnt thinking about the dogs needs but more his own. There is a reason his ex gave the dog up, there is a reason the dog shelter rehomed the dog (that's if there even is a shelter involved) and theres a reason the new owners are refusing to give the dog up.

When asked with simple questions the OP has become very negative and defensive when all anyone is doing here is offering advice.

Considering the inconsistances in this post it seems rather odd that the OP has neglected and ignored a lot of reasonable questions - dont you think?

Hmm where to start?
My wife had to give the dog to the rescue as it couldnt stay with her as the house she is at had a cat.

At no point whatsoever have I said the dog has been rehomed.

The rescue (it is just one woman, whom takes in dogs, keeps some, rehomes some) just trots out the same thing that she refuses to give dog back because she was told to take him. Now she was only told to take him temporarily but she continues to refuse to give dog up.

This negativity you mention? I must be looking at something different than you and I havent neglected or ignored nothing that I can answer.
What would be the point of trying to answer something that I dont know about?

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Sorry but it seems some people cannot read. I clearly stated in post number 28 my thanks for all the help and advice I have given.
I have answered all relevant questions as and when I can as accurately as I can.

I do not know where some of the things on peoples post are coming from but it is not from me.

So for those who may have missed my thanks, THANK YOU to everyone who has helped and given me a lot of really useful advice and information.

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An update on this is that I have been told that our dog has been "given" to new owners.
By given I mean that you have to make a so called donation to the woman (the woman runs a rescue on her own) of £150.

I have also found out that the woman has previous for doing this with dogs and their owners, saying that the dog has been maltreated and then refusing to give the dog back and then selling or have you make a "donation" when you get the dog.

Our dog was microchipped so I have reported him lost/stolen to them and they will advise me when/if he turns up on a different owner.

Is there anything I can do or is that it?