Help please with getting our dog back

purplelotus

UN17ED wrote: »

Never thought of that but then I dont know what my wife has told her!!

what if you get a friend to adopt him on your behalf? friend might then officially own doggie, but there's nothing to stop the doggie staying the night, being fed and walked by you?!

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Ok,

You arent making any sense (sorry!)

Firstly - you said the dog was gave to a rescue centre

Then you said it was given to a person (not a centre)

Then you said your wife signed something (which would suggest a centre)

Then you said your paying for it (which wouldnt suggest a centre)

Then the dog isnt chipped

Then the dog may be chipped (you dont know)

Ok. here goes

Firstly - Who had the dog in the first place - a rescue centre or a person

If it was a rescue centre - then why can't they tell you what was signed? surley they can at least tell you if the dog was signed over to them? Are you actually ringing the centre or just a number your ex gave you? Ring the centre direct (get number from yell)

If the rescue centre had the dog and it has been rehomed - how on earth did you find the dog? Rescue Centres don't give this information out

Who got the dog microchipped if it wasnt you?

If the dog is microchipped - whose name is it registered to?

with regards to the "re-adopt your own dog" comments - How can you re-adaopt if he is already with a family (as your posts would suggest?) and the rescue centre would surely find out if the dog wasnt at your friends and may try and remove the dog (as your friend would have to sign to say they havbe the dog - it would be a breech)

IF your ex had the dog chipped in her name then there is not much you can do about it - according to all the paperwork, the dog belongs to your ex, she chose to sign it over and has done. Reporting it to the police will not do much - dog hasnt been "stolen" as it was both yours and your ex's. If new owners have proof (signature from ex) that they obtained the dog legally and that the dog is settled then the police won't do much.

I'm sorry but it appears to me that the dog is better off where it is. Your single, yes the kids miss the dog, but not once have you said the dog is in any danger of being mistreated. for all you know the dog loves his new home/owners

hethmar

Im sorry if I upset you - but as said above, the whole post didnt seem to make sense and we get more than a fair share of wind up merchants on this board.

You need to think the situation through carefully - who will be home all day to look after the dog now you have split up and are the kids staying with you or your wife. It does seem a very unsettled situation and it may be best if the dog is found a new permanent home and not be an extra worry for you whilst you sort out the current problems.

Elle7

I only suggested readopting if the dog was back at the centre...I didn't remember reading it had already been rehomed, and presumed this would be unlikely with so many dogs in rescues at the moment.

I agree that you need to speak to whoever has the dog directly, and find out what is happening. Your ex seems to be spinning you a line. If the centre have the dog, they may allow you to re-adopt, but if a new family have the dog, I don't think you'll be able to do much.

Good luck and keep us informed.

viktory

UN17ED wrote: »

Now the person with the dog is refusing to give us the dog back saying that it was badly neglected and other untruths about the dog.

How do you know who has the dog? Surely the rescue didn't give you that information?

ETA: This whole story makes no sense at all.

UN17ED

mommyme wrote: »

Ok,

You arent making any sense (sorry!)

Firstly - you said the dog was gave to a rescue centre

Then you said it was given to a person (not a centre)

Then you said your wife signed something (which would suggest a centre)

Then you said your paying for it (which wouldnt suggest a centre)

Then the dog isnt chipped

Then the dog may be chipped (you dont know)

Ok. here goes

Firstly - Who had the dog in the first place - a rescue centre or a person

If it was a rescue centre - then why can't they tell you what was signed? surley they can at least tell you if the dog was signed over to them? Are you actually ringing the centre or just a number your ex gave you? Ring the centre direct (get number from yell)

If the rescue centre had the dog and it has been rehomed - how on earth did you find the dog? Rescue Centres don't give this information out

Who got the dog microchipped if it wasnt you?

If the dog is microchipped - whose name is it registered to?

with regards to the "re-adopt your own dog" comments - How can you re-adaopt if he is already with a family (as your posts would suggest?) and the rescue centre would surely find out if the dog wasnt at your friends and may try and remove the dog (as your friend would have to sign to say they havbe the dog - it would be a breech)

IF your ex had the dog chipped in her name then there is not much you can do about it - according to all the paperwork, the dog belongs to your ex, she chose to sign it over and has done. Reporting it to the police will not do much - dog hasnt been "stolen" as it was both yours and your ex's. If new owners have proof (signature from ex) that they obtained the dog legally and that the dog is settled then the police won't do much.

I'm sorry but it appears to me that the dog is better off where it is. Your single, yes the kids miss the dog, but not once have you said the dog is in any danger of being mistreated. for all you know the dog loves his new home/owners

I will refrain from putting what I really want to with regards to your lat paragraph.
You are either my ex partner or a member of her family!!

UN17ED

Thanks to everybody for their advice on here. I now have more than enough information to go on and will hopefully be able to sort the matter out.

And that the dog can be reunited with me and the kids where it belongs.

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

UN17ED wrote: »

I will refrain from putting what I really want to with regards to your lat paragraph.
You are either my ex partner or a member of her family!!

lol I'm sorry but that's the funniest thing i've read today.

You may disagree with my statement, that's your opnion, But, I - as well as others, have offered you some sound advice with regards to the dog.

Your putting your feelings first before the dog's, when in fact, you should be thinking whats best for the dog.

FakeIrish

mommyme wrote: »

you should be thinking whats best for the dog.

And you're assuming/implying you know what is best for the dog?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

So why did she rehome the dog? Was it because you had walked out and she was unable to look after it? (and why is the dog an IT and not a he or she?) Was she scared you would hurt the dog in some way? Was she worried she would be held responsible for the neglect that is being alleged? Was she protecting the dog from abuse by getting it away from you? Do you always react to awkward questions with rage and accusations of taking sides?

No way would I hand an animal back if there are breakups and arguments all over the place.