Support Each Other In Looking For Work?

livermum · 13 May 2011 at 4:58PM

lexi try not to feel too down, I had a really bad few days at the beginning of the week but I don't feel too bad now. Have a break over the weekend and then come back fresh on Monday. Oh and don't forget that we are all in the same boat as you and know exactly how your feeling, we are all here to keep each others spirits up!

Never mind about that job Drea a better one will be along next week!

lexilex · 13 May 2011 at 5:12PM

Thanks guys.

I live at home (which I never dreamed I would still be doing aged 22) and my parents are really on my back at the moment. I am pretty sure they think I sit watching daytime TV and playing on facebook all day when they are at work. They have told me I need to set my sights lower, which would be fine if I had only been applying for great jobs on huge salaries, but the truth is far from that. I've just written out a list of the jobs I've applied for recently to show them, 4 and a half pages of A4 crammed full of applications. It just makes me angry that people think I am one of those doleys who have no intention of ever working, when I am trying so damn hard to find a job, and hate this existance every single day.

asparagusnextleft · 13 May 2011 at 5:22PM

Lexilex, I often wonder what people think about us - not a job between us but we have a nice house and a convertible. They probably talk about us behind our backs and think that 'their taxes' are paying for it but the opposite is true, it's years of hard work that has paid for it (and we don't get a penny in benefit in any way, shape or form, not even towards the council tax, we're not entitled despite the fact that my husband was a higher rate taxpayer for years so we've more than paid 'our taxes') so I don't care what people think or say, it's none of their business, just like it's none of their business as far as you're concerned. You know that you're not someone who has no intention of working so don't let it bother you what other people think. It's nothing to do with them.

saxonrosecliff · 13 May 2011 at 5:27PM

I came rushing in from my voluntary job to see if I had any messages about the interview I went for yesterday but nothing so it looks like I am waiting over the weekend. They did say that I might not hear until next week.

I'm sorry you are having a down day lexilex. I have many of those so understand how you are feeling. I know it doesn't help but living at home is better than sitting worrying how long you will be able to pay the mortgage for. I live on my own in a small, old terraced house so there is only me to cover all the bills with the measley amount that we are given each week and my savings. I understand that JSA cannot be too much but it is a constant worry wondering how long I can last for.

top_drawer_2 · 13 May 2011 at 5:35PM

I had an interview for a well nown charity on the 3rd May and I am still waiting to hear (that I have been unsuccessful).

The interview could have gone better in that the questions they put to me were all very straight forward; making it very difficult for me to shine. I had done soooo much preparation, I even went to my uni's careers service and had a mock interview (the questions were fair harder too and more of them) and they advisor said my application was exceptional and she seemed sure that I was within a very good chance.

Today I've also been chasing the lady at the uni in the careers who arranges paid placements... I've sorted where I would like to go, spoke to the organisations manager, given her the names and numbers but so far nothing from her. Its been one thing after another with them , all those fees that I paid out from working through uni and the careers service is a complete waste of time.

loops87 · 13 May 2011 at 5:35PM

lexilex wrote: »

Thanks guys.

I live at home (which I never dreamed I would still be doing aged 22) and my parents are really on my back at the moment. I am pretty sure they think I sit watching daytime TV and playing on facebook all day when they are at work. They have told me I need to set my sights lower, which would be fine if I had only been applying for great jobs on huge salaries, but the truth is far from that. I've just written out a list of the jobs I've applied for recently to show them, 4 and a half pages of A4 crammed full of applications. It just makes me angry that people think I am one of those doleys who have no intention of ever working, when I am trying so damn hard to find a job, and hate this existance every single day.

Good for you - hopefully when you show them how much you've done they will get off your back and be a bit more supportive!

have-hope · 13 May 2011 at 6:02PM

lexilex,

I bet your parents have no realisation of what it is like to get a job at the moment. Must admit I never appreciated that job seeking could be so hard until I start looking and I have lots of past work experience. If you're in employment it's a hard to imagine the droves of people applying for so few jobs.

Something good will happen - you have to believe that

loops87 · 13 May 2011 at 6:03PM

I just got an email about an interview next Weds :j
There are 6 posts up for grabs too so I'm hopeful that I can be in the top 6, even if I can't be the top 1!
It was only about the second job I applied for too after becoming unemployed about a month ago, so I am now thinking that there may still be hope for some of the jobs I haven't heard back from that I've applied to since then! I'm impatient

loops87 · 13 May 2011 at 6:05PM

have-hope wrote: »

lexilex,

I bet your parents have no realisation of what it is like to get a job at the moment. Must admit I never appreciated that job seeking could be so hard until I start looking and I have lots of past work experience. If you're in employment it's a hard to imagine the droves of people applying for so few jobs.

Something good will happen - you have to believe that

Agreed.
It is very very easy for them to think, 'i know why you're not getting a job! why arent you doing this?' when they're not in the situation themselves and they don't see how hard you are working.
I feel really bad now because I could have been more understanding with my boyfriend when he was unemployed a while ago. Now I know better!

EndlessStruggle · 13 May 2011 at 7:54PM

I live at home too. My mum is luckily very understanding as my brother has been unemployed for around 2-3 years. I think she knows I am doing all I can to get a job with voluntary work etc. We have an arrangement that I don't get nagged about not paying board if I buy all my own food.