Support Each Other In Looking For Work?

bundly

Similar problem here. Would like your opinions please.

My boyf is 52, has no dependents but owes £15k on his mortgage.

He has finally been offered a job after six months daily relentless searching. He has done three days there on a work trial. JSA is not forfeit if the claimant refuses a job after a trial.

The workplace was chaotic, disorganised and cramped, the boss was stern and humorless. My boyf is extremely tidy and organised and was almost traumatised at witnessing the chaos. He said it was like a madhouse. He'd be responsible for running the place, but the owner made it clear that he would not be given any scope to implement changes. He'd be responsible for all the paperwork, yet there is no office away from the public gaze in which to perform it. He'd have to work alongside a person who is being demoted in order that he be given her job, which he suspects will mean being on the receiving end of resentment. He'd be working 8.45 to 5.45 plus an hour drive each way, and he'd have to work every Saturday 9-5.

He lives an hour's drive from me and currently he comes over here every Friday afternoon and stays till Monday. The job offered is an hour's drive, but not in my direction - in the other direction. He'd not get here till about 7.30pm, maybe even 8pm on Saturdays and he'd have to leave about 8.30pm on Sundays to get home to get to bed to get up for 6am Monday. So we could never have a whole weekend together or go away for the weekend etc, or do anything on a Saturday or a Sunday evening.

The job is a managerial one and requires a long term commitment, so he cannot entertain taking it as a stopgap while looking for another job, then leaving if another job comes up. For reasons it's unnecessary to detail, neither of us can move to the other's town.

If he turns down this job, he might be unemployed for another 3, 6 or 12 months. He may even be unemployed till he is 65. On the other hand, he could get another offer next week. There is just no way of knowing.

The question is, considering the terrible job situation, should he force himself to take a job he knows will make him utterly miserable 24/7 and drive him half crazy with the chaotic way the owner insists on running it, and which will severely curtail and disrupt the time we have together? Should people always take any job at all rather than sponging off the state? Or is personal happiness and sanity more important?

TGWTARN

bundly wrote: »

The question is, considering the terrible job situation, should he force himself to take a job he knows will make him utterly miserable 24/7 and drive him half crazy with the chaotic way the owner insists on running it, and which will severely curtail and disrupt the time we have together? Should people always take any job at all rather than sponging off the state? Or is personal happiness and sanity more important?

Ouch.
I think you know the answer to your question already.
Is there any possibility of negotiating the terms with the owner so that it could be bearable?
From your description, it doesn't sound like it would work out if he did go for it.
Good luck to you both with the decision.

bundly

I did suggest that he ask for Mondays off, so at least he'd get two days off and could stay with me from Sat eve till Monday eve, but she needs him there all day Mondays, so no chance.

Drea

I had my second interview today, they mentioned that I last had that job in Scotland and that the laws are different (which doesn't actually affect my job as an Administrator). They also asked about a gap in my CV.... 7 years ago.

Well, I did my best.

Strike

I have an interview on Friday for a job I applied for in March! Had to search through my emails and spreadsheet to find it. Oh well, its a start and is nice to 1.have a response from a company and 2.actually get to an interview stage.

For all those who have been feeling down or despondent it does pass. Last week was my worse this year, felt really down, like nothing was going right and banging my head against a brick wall but today has changed that. Take each day as it comes and try not to dwell too much on yesterday.

EndlessStruggle

Wow, seems they wanted to talk about some totally obscure things. I am only just hearing from some jobs way back, I got a job app to post tomorrow. Other than that it is very quiet, just filling my time really.

firesidemaid

bundly wrote: »

I did suggest that he ask for Mondays off, so at least he'd get two days off and could stay with me from Sat eve till Monday eve, but she needs him there all day Mondays, so no chance.

If he's interested I would get him to be honest with his potential new employer regarding both the chaos and the staff there - she what he/she has to say?

loops87

Hi, I've just found this thread! Great idea for a topic.

I have been job hunting for a few weeks now and have got my first interview next week.
I think I need to start applying for a lot more jobs, so far I have been being quite picky about salary and where I want to work etc, but I don't think that's going to get me very far in the current climate!

Good luck to everybody else who is job hunting at the moment

saxonrosecliff

Its interview day today at 10am. Its a job that I only applied for to make up the numbers for the job centre so I've got no idea why they picked me for interview. I'm not the calmest person in the world and now not only am I panicing about the interview I'm panicing about if I get the job and I can't do it! (I must learn to calm down!!!).

Drea

saxonrosecliff wrote: »

Its interview day today at 10am. Its a job that I only applied for to make up the numbers for the job centre so I've got no idea why they picked me for interview. I'm not the calmest person in the world and now not only am I panicing about the interview I'm panicing about if I get the job and I can't do it! (I must learn to calm down!!!).

Good luck! I was very nervous the other day about an interview, it can actually make me feel sick :rotfl:

You'll be fine