For the singletons: challenge to get AT LEAST a snog in 2011

puddings_2

psychopathbabble wrote: »

Good advice SnV!! I know why I do it... it's the fear of rejection and looking stupid or not being good enough.

well that works both ways... in my experience most women are only looking for external beauty. Theres a lot of really good blokes out there, that have had their condfidence wrecked by years of rejection and the like.
Some women will say "oh its whats on the inside that counts", but very very few actually mean it.

Roses are red
Violets are blue
I've got Alzheimers
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Hoopylass

puddings wrote: »

well that works both ways... in my experience most women are only looking for external beauty. Theres a lot of really good blokes out there, that have had their condfidence wrecked by years of rejection and the like.
Some women will say "oh its whats on the inside that counts", but very very few actually mean it.

Roses are red
Violets are blue
I've got Alzheimers
Cheese on toast

I disagree with that .. I certainly dont judge guys on how they look however there does have to be that initial attraction although for me this could be someone who can make me laugh rather than how they look, the same can be said for guys too tho. Many guys judge girls instantly on how they look

vixarooni

ZTD wrote: »

It's a turn on for some men if you offer to show them your puppies.

Guinea pigs? Not so much...

haha! Thats obviously where i'm going wrong :rotfl:

vixarooni

Unfortunatly ted, its whats on the outside that counts first. Thats nature, and just the way it is.

It all comes down to sex, if you can't picture yourself having sex with someone then theres no point.

Februarycat

poppy_the_saving_cat wrote: »

I think its too late for me, i think i am that "crazy cat lady" lol xxx

I'm the same plus Im approaching the big 50 soon :eek: so dont hold out much hope of finding someone decent.

ZTD

Hoopylass wrote: »

I disagree with that .. I certainly dont judge guys on how they look however there does have to be that initial attraction although for me this could be someone who can make me laugh rather than how they look, the same can be said for guys too tho. Many guys judge girls instantly on how they look

Men and women all want differing things. Not because they are men and women, but because they as people want differing things. There's much more difference in opinion between two random examples of men, (and indeed 2 random examples of women) than there are between the "average" man and the "average" woman.

That's why dating agencies are still in business - there is no one answer.

vixarooni wrote: »

Unfortunatly ted, its whats on the outside that counts first. Thats nature, and just the way it is.

"Counts first" may or may not be important to you. That depends on who you are, and indeed what part of life you're at. Preferences change over time.

Many women have been dead certs until the first moment they opened their mouths.

IMHO, women start their life going for looks, ending up with "bad 'uns" and complain it's because all the good ones have been taken by other women who are prettier than they are. Then as they get older, the start going for the "dependability" attribute, then complain the good ones have been taken by other women who are quicker on the uptake than they are.

vixarooni wrote: »

It all comes down to sex, if you can't picture yourself having sex with someone then theres no point.

If you can predict with any accuracy how the sex will go over time just by looking at someone's face/body, then I'll be amazed. Sometimes you just gel, and there is no predicting that.

Butti

Hello all,

Where do I sign up (anything to avoid doing my assignment!) I've been single for about 2 months and surprisingly un-upset about the last one. Really nice bloke but keeping me at arms length a bit I think.

I too am one of those women who wrote someone off at 18 on how weird his nose was. Now having been out with lots of go-getting, controlling, insecure but financially secure W**kers and having seen him about a year ago I have come to the conclusion he has grown into his looks and his grey hair and his relaxed witty style is exactly the sort of thing I need.

Fortunately his wife is nice and I'm not psychotic so I have managed to resist the urge to invite her round to see me out of a parking space!!!

Sorry I am going to witter on about me! I've had a kiss this year. It was from a potential tenant who was trying to turn it into a snog. Haven't heard from him since he realised I wasn't just going to fall over onto my back :rotfl:

B

vixarooni

ZTD wrote: »

Men and women all want differing things. Not because they are men and women, but because they as people want differing things. There's much more difference in opinion between two random examples of men, (and indeed 2 random examples of women) than there are between the "average" man and the "average" woman.

That's why dating agencies are still in business - there is no one answer.



"Counts first" may or may not be important to you. That depends on who you are, and indeed what part of life you're at. Preferences change over time.

Or maybe as you get older you become less fussy because youre scared youre going to be left on the shelf.

Many women have been dead certs until the first moment they opened their mouths.

IMHO, women start their life going for looks, ending up with "bad 'uns" and complain it's because all the good ones have been taken by other women who are prettier than they are. Then as they get older, the start going for the "dependability" attribute, then complain the good ones have been taken by other women who are quicker on the uptake than they are.

Not all women are like that. I don't know hardly any actually! Im only 24 so its not really about that in my stage of life. It depends what you're looking for. I've just come out of a 5 year relationship that i started at 19. Now, i just want something relaxed and fun, bit of sex. I suppose thats why im focussed on the looks, because i don't want a "relationship"

If you can predict with any accuracy how the sex will go over time just by looking at someone's face/body, then I'll be amazed. Sometimes you just gel, and there is no predicting that.

Indeed, but how can you tell your partner she isn't beautiful because you didn't actually fancy her, but you both just "gelled" That would go down a treat.

ZTD

vixarooni wrote: »

Indeed, but how can you tell your partner she isn't beautiful because you didn't actually fancy her, but you both just "gelled" That would go down a treat.

I don't know what you're trying to say there. Looks are just skin deep, but there are plenty pretty women and plenty good-looking blokes who are ugly, ugly people.

Most people don't meet each other with the intention of a relationship - most relationships start at work.

And yes, you do just gel.

gothrockchic1

Hi Can I join? Ive been single for 18 months and having been playing the field. I have kissed a guy this year but he was only after one thing!! Would love to find someone and has considered speed dating but my concern is I may not have time put in the work into a relationship so have decided to stop looking cos thats when you'll find someone nice. When I have been looking all I have met is players/womanisers and they have treated me bad!