To new beginnings. To the pursuit of...somethingness.

MrsMoo2U

No problem Ellie, it isn't really a "problem" to solve I was just so angry I needed to sound off. I always clear the mist that way and then see the wood for the trees. It was definitley in a firm plan way. The issue is that he has spent so many years living alone and being at their beck and call that he is stuck in his ways and finds it really hard to get used to having to consider me. When I am calm and explain it rationally to me he always gets it and then next time his Dad shouts he just ups and does it again. He is such a caring person that he then finds himself trying to please everybody. I guess I just need to accept that his Dad will always come first as he shouts much louder and Mr C is completely tied to their strings as their puppet. Think Sorry and Ronnie Corbett !

By the way, I just spotted the signature, that is really good. Might stick that in my notebook too.

Cheery_Daff

((((((cheri)))))))))) what a difficult one I'm a bit soft, so I personally wouldn't be too angry, but it is rather thoughtless while you're still without your car. What's happening with that - are you still looking for one? Might be time to step it up a bit!

I have no idea of the best way to do things. The last thing you want is for Mr C to feel torn between you and his parents, which I bet he does at times because of their demands. Sounds like his dad might be struggling too. Don't know what the solution is for this weekend, but sounds like the longer term solution is for you to sort out your own car.

Do you want to go too? Even if you could take Moo? This time the solution might be to stay home and get cracking in the garden, 15 minutes at a time, and use the time to read, have a nice pampering session, see a friend. Do you have anyone who might like to come and stay for an impromptu weekend with you, who might take you on day out?? Hope you can sort it out xxx

satchmo1

[FONT=&quot]Love this quote: "living is like licking honey off a thorn" and it seems to appropriate for you just now???

Can you negotiate that Mr C is back by Sunday afternoon so that you get some of that day together, plus all of Monday? If he gets back late on Sunday he might be so exhausted he spends Monday in a grouchy exhausted state (not good for either of you).

Satchmo x
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MrsMoo2U

Aw, thank you so much everybody.
Cheery, I think that part of the reason it keeps happening is because I am a bit "soft". I also keep thinking that I have lost both of my parents and so know how important it is to spend time with them. I think though that I have been so quiet in an attempt to ensure that he doesnt feel torn that I am being overlooked, which is not his fault it is mine. I know that his Dad is struggling because Mrs used to do EVERYTHING and I do emphasise that. He cant even lead her up the street without walking her in front of cars or into scaffolding. This morning I was feeling a little hormonal so it all got a little too much and I was also disappointed that he seems to think that I will just accept it all of the time.

satchmo1 wrote: »

[FONT=&quot]Love this quote: "living is like licking honey off a thorn" and it seems to appropriate for you just now??? I LOVE THAT QUOTE. AMAZINGLY APPROPRIATE

Can you negotiate that Mr C is back by Sunday afternoon so that you get some of that day together, plus all of Monday? If he gets back late on Sunday he might be so exhausted he spends Monday in a grouchy exhausted state (not good for either of you).

Satchmo x
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We have had a long chat. He has agreed that he will go on Saturday and come back Sunday. I have been on the phone to a friend who has said that I can stay at hers with Moo for the weekend. She has even offered that she will stay at her OH so that Mr C can stay with me at her house. Also spoke with another friend who is thinking that she may come here to visit. I can get motivated when I need to .
On the other hand if I dont do either I have decided to tackle the office and the dumping ground of the spare bedroom in the hopes that I can move the two spare beds out of the living room into the spare room.

As for the £40 I have blown £5 on a bottle of wine and I dont care so there

NorthernLas

Cheri - more stuff to make you smile ... http://newmills-woollywander.blogspot.com/p/take-part.html

NL x

Cheery_Daff

Glad you're feeling better about it and you've got some plans cheri xx

MrsMoo2U

Hmm........... seems to me that I am being tested big time of late. Another monster of an issue has appeared this morning and I have no clue how to tackle it. The biggest worry was having to tell Mr C when he came home from work because I know I have to handle these situations carefully or else he gets very upset. This usually ends up in us having a row. As it happens I had all day to ponder it (no solutions) and to build my little protective bubble around myself ready for breaking the news. It worked I remained calm, collected and in control. I am amazed I think that I saw a glimmer of the old me returning which I seem to have lost. I think that this is the somethingness I have been pursuing. Took myself and Moo off to the hill fort for a picnic and and we put the world to rights.

I have decided that I will take myself off to stay with my friend at the weekend. A bit of girly time will do us both good. Also she is a very calm person and I fully expect her to ground me some more. Now all I need to hope is that my wages go into my account tonight!

Sorry, meant to say thanks NL, off to have a look now.

MrsMoo2U

NorthernLas, I love that site. I want a loveheart knitted cushion!!!!

Now I can see where my Nana got her quirkiness from. Do you live there?

Cheery_Daff

(((((Cheri))))))))))) well done on remaining calm and tackling things in a way you can feel proud of xxx

NorthernLas

Cheri - I live over the hill, but do a patchwork class each Tues at New Mills Originals The idea of wrapping the trees and street furniture and cars in wool says it all about NM ... I am looking forward to the arts festival and hope to learn to knit in the process!!!

NL