Drop Debt Diva – ‘Plus-Sized Debts to Plus-Sized Savings’

Swinstie73 · 1 February 2011 at 11:48AM

EssexHebridean wrote: »

What an ignorant chap that is at your work! I suppose he's the spit of Brad Pitt himself, is he?! :mad: He must be very insecure in himself to want to put others down like that.

More like Max Wall :rotfl::rotfl:

He always knows when he's peed me off, couldn't be any nicer today, what is that all about!?

Anyway, feeling a lot better today and getting more done in work. Have had my porridge and got a ham and coleslaw baguette for lunch. I need petrol today, otherwise it would've been another NSD.

Cinny91 · 1 February 2011 at 1:03PM

That man doesn't sound very nice. Sounds like he's feeling guilty about it today though, and good!

Even if he meant it in jest, there's no need to bring other people down. Anyways, what does it matter if you can't keep up with the other woman? You're going and doing it, that's what counts! You'll do fab :j

Sounds like everythings going well though

And reading your thread always makes me hungry, I've only got jammy toast for my dinner and I'm fancying bean chilli now

Glad you're feeling better too!

Swinstie73 · 2 February 2011 at 11:26PM

Thanks Cinny, I'm just being un-usually (sp?) weird about work just now and every little thing is bugging me. I'm always getting teased about something and sometimes I give back as good as I get, but recently been feeling really defeated. This new woman reports to this guy you see, and he's always making comments about how I don't report to him (I do when he needs something doing), i.e. she asked to get away early for the Christmas lunch, so did I and he was like 'you'll need to ask your boss, you don't report to me'.

Plus the 'woman' although ok, told me in no uncertain terms today that she's in this job to work on this specialised job, not to help me with mines and it really peed me off. She's attending meetings for this and that and acting all important and I'm being made feel like my job is unimportant and pointless - little clerical office junior job IYSWIM.

I'm getting the 10-year itch, was in my last main job for 10 years before taking voluntary redundancy and now been with this company for 10 years (god I feel old) and I really want to not be there. I know I can't leave, not this year anyway with the wedding/cruise and potential house move but I feel as if I'm suffocating. Been off work for two weeks, only back three days and I've already had a migraine and can feel the tension building up, the two weeks off were bliss, even with the horrid flu.

Ok, pull yourself together Swinstie - I know I am really down when I've just eaten 12 orange segments in a row.

In money news, I made my overpayment to one of my CC's, just waiting on my payment to come off my BC CC then I can do my BT of the wedding debt and make my overpayment to that. Not going to make any difference to my siggy as I've already changed it - I'm very impatient.

OH is not working this weekend so looking forward to us spending the weekend together, need to get myself in a better mood, ha. He told me tonight they got their shifts/standbys for the rest of the year, he's standby Christmas Day this year and 2nd Jan 2012, boo to it being our first Christmas married.

Well going to pop off and read a couple of diaries, then bed for me. Positive Swinstie will be back soon.

Swinstie73 · 3 February 2011 at 9:58AM

Semi-positive Swinstie pops back in....

Still not feeling great today but I did get asked if I had lost weight (which I haven't) but it was nice to get a compliment. The same guy who is quite perceptive also made mention of the 'woman' being self important and superior, I'm kind of glad someone else has the same opinion, makes me feel a bit better knowing I'm not imagining things.

Anyway, onwards and upwards, better go and get on with my pleb work!

Swinstie73 · 3 February 2011 at 1:51PM

More positive Swinstie pops back in.....

Actually feeling a lot better now as had a wee 'chat' with the 'woman' and it's not as bad as I feared. She's still a bit full of self importance but she's gee'd me up with saying that I'm in a really good job etc., and to remember that when I'm feeling like jacking it all in. She's older and probably a bit 'motherly' and I can see she does make sense. When I'm feeling like this though, the whole world seems against me and I need to realise that's not always the case, no-one has ulterior motives and thoughts of taking over. I do have a habit of going off on a tangent most of the time, so it's time for change.

I need to get myself more organised at work, right now my desk looks like an explosion in a paper factory. The problem is, I was landed with part of the purchasing system that someone else used to do and there is loads of outstanding purchase requests which may or may not have had work done on them, no-one has actually told me what still needs done, so I'm flying blind. I hate trying to pick up someone else's mess, which essentially it is.

Going to have to get more organised in every area, not just work. The house is a mess again, I'm too busy watching the flipping tv and sitting on my a$$ doing nothing.

*watch this space* (once I've done my plan of action)

EssexHebridean · 3 February 2011 at 2:38PM

Can you sort your desk into piles Swinstie - a pile that is work you'd actively look forward to and enjoy doing, a pile that's alright, but nothing exciting, and a final pile which is the stuff that you are dreading and keep putting off? Then split each hour into 15 minute bursts from each pile, with the last 15 minutes for tea-making, screen-breaks and re-sorting to incorporate anything new which has come in? (Please don't give me any credit for that idea, it originated elsewhere - Cheery Daff I suspect! :rotfl:) Means you can end any day having got through at least an hour of the stuff you keep putting off, and by the end of a week you should be seeing a real difference.

Swinstie73 · 3 February 2011 at 3:14PM

Makes perfect sense Essex, right now I just have one pile (of junk)! At the end of the night, it all gets piled together then I need to sort it all out each day. My main problem is whenever there are no bosses here, which is quite often, I get VERY lazy and come on the internet, ha point in case, I'm on here when I should be working, ha!

Anyway, I have done my wee list, don't credit me with it, I stole some of the titles from Missy!

Health/Fitness:
Prepare and eat healthy lunches/dinners from scratch, make meal plans so can eat a varied diet. Utilise the gym at least twice a week if not more, use exercise bike/weights/ dvd at home.

Finances:
Pay off credit card by next pay-day. Stick to budget and not over-spend or use credit card if possible. Build up savings, especially for big purchases. Stay away from shops and especially window shopping. Combine trips to save petrol costs.

Love:
Look forward to ‘date’ nights with OH, ease into us living together by spending more quality time together. Go out a bit more instead of sitting home most weekends.

Me:
Spend quality time with myself, have pamper nights and take care of myself. Organise outfits for work and dress better i.e. no jeans except at the weekend.

Happiness/Optimism:
Be happy with myself and my life instead of being a moaning myrtle, OH is probably fed up listening to me, I’m fed up listening to me.

Friends/Family:
Visit family at least once a week, when I move away I’ll only seen them occasionally. I’d love to also include, contact friends more but this is a sticky one for me, I always seem to be the one doing the contacting. Haven’t heard from one particular friend in almost three weeks and I’m being stubborn about contacting her.

Organisation:
I really need to get organised in every aspect of my life, I need to organise my clothes and get rid of things I don't need, I need to organise my house, my workload, my free time, shopping trips combined with filling up with petrol etc.

Laziness/Tidiness/Motivation:
Stop sitting in front of the tv every night, spend an hour every night tidying the house and getting it organised. No-one ever visits me, so I never feel motivated into doing the house. When I first started going out with OH, I’d run around tidying up before he arrived, now it’s left as it is, really don’t want him to think he’s marrying a complete and utter slob.

Here's to a more organised, well groomed and happier Swinstie!

Swinstie73 · 3 February 2011 at 7:00PM

Evening all,

It is horrendous weather here, I fear my garden fence is going to blow down, it's shaking rather badly. My patio chair was over the other side of the garden, two of the bins were blown over. After trying to rectify it all and make it a bit safer, I could hardly feel my hands they were so cold. Poor OH is still out working in it as there has been a major water incident.

Tried to get my head together a bit this afternoon, I'm only in tomorrow morning then at a first aid course in the afternoon, so roll on the weekend. I've decided after I'm debt free next month, I'm going to treat myself once a month to a nice massage. Even if it's only a neck and back one, as I'm finding myself strangely tight around the shoulders and the tension is really getting to me. I need to loosen up a bit (in more ways than one). Will try and find a nice wee salon and get some prices.

Well, dinner in the oven, baked potato and chicken kiev, might stick on some sweetcorn too. I caved in today and had a (small) latte at work, I've been so good and this is my first one this year. It's gone up flipping 9p though and you don't even get a full cup, so think it'll be my last (at work anyway), have also decided not to be too strict on myself when it comes to having something nice.

Does anyone else feel like a slave to money? As I'm nearing being debt free, I'm finding I DO NOT want to spent ANY money for fear of slipping backwards into debt, I'm more aware of not spending crazy money on stupid things but I really do need to loosen up a bit or else I'm going to end up binge shopping or something.

So, anyway £1.05 spent today, not too bad I suppose. Ok, dinner sounds (and smells) like it's ready.