Is it bad taste to ask guests to pay for their accommodation?

floss2

We paid for the wedding party to stay overnight - best man & wife, bridesmaid & husband, my 2 sons & g/f, DH's parents. Everyone else either paid their own bill or drove / got taxi home.

Elmo_luvs_you

In my experience of weddings, and from the research I've done for ours, you just have to tell people where and when the wedding is.
It is a nice gesture to pay for your wedding party and parents because you really want them there but you do not need to pay for anyone else to stay. Tell all other guests there are rooms available in the hostel where the wedding party are planning to stay and if they wish to join you, you'll pass on details they need to book rooms. Maybe include a note on the invitation that you'd be happy to make suggestions for other accommodation in the area or hope that they know how to use google haha.

System

NotTheWippleman wrote: »

When my friends got married last year, everyone else had to pay for their own bits- Accomodation, confetti... Even the bridesmaids and bestman/ushers had to pay for their own suits! Cue lots of arguments on what was affordable!

Out of retaliation, I booked the honeymoon suite for where the wedding was booked. I refused to change room when the manager explained why. Oh, anonymity how I love thee!

:T

xx

what a nice person you are NOT ! why not just say you wouldnt be attending rather that being so petty .

Lorne

I don't think that it is bad taste at all, went to a similar wedding in Loch Lomond hostel last year, we all paid for our stay and brought food for the weekend. We had an absolute ball, the atmosphere was amazing and everyone was in great form. I hope that your wedding is just as special.

White_Sapphire

When I go to a wedding as a guest I expect to pay for everything myself except the meal and accompanying drinks, and the welcome drink. I would never expect to get free accomodation, unless I was in the wedding party, and even then I would check whether a contribution was expected.

NotTheWippleman, you had to buy confetti?????? Oh, you poor poor thing..... :rotfl::rotfl:
Seriously though, you are a nasty piece of work to book the Honeymoon suite purely out of spite for not getting enough freebies.

sw_mina

NotTheWippleman wrote: »

When my friends got married last year, everyone else had to pay for their own bits- Accomodation, confetti... Even the bridesmaids and bestman/ushers had to pay for their own suits! Cue lots of arguments on what was affordable!

Out of retaliation, I booked the honeymoon suite for where the wedding was booked. I refused to change room when the manager explained why. Oh, anonymity how I love thee!

:T

xx

Wow. That's really unpleasant of you. I'd never do that to a friend. Why on earth did you bother attending?

tartantotty

I would expect to pay for my accomodation at a wedding, and wouldnt expect the bridal party to pay for me! I dont always stay in the same place as the wedding is though, I would look around near by for something within my budget if the reception venue was out of my price range

Bluespirit

I definitely wouldn't expect the bridal party to pay for my accomodation - its up to me if I want to stay or drive home, and to be honest I'm not a hostel person at all, so even if I was offered if, I would look around for a B&B/cheap hotel.

Notthewippleman - shame on you. Surely this was a friend if you were invited to the wedding, and why would you ever do that to a friend?

flea72

Bluespirit wrote: »

Notthewippleman - shame on you. Surely this was a friend if you were invited to the wedding, and why would you ever do that to a friend?

because unlike the OP alot of brides of late, think its ok to expect their wedding party to cover the cost of their big day

if someone wants you to be their bridesmaid/usher, and dictates what you have to wear, and then expects you to pay for the privilege, then they are taking the !!!! out of a friendship anyway

alot of wedding venues also give the bridal suite for free, if the bride/groom get enough of the other rooms booked - so again another freebie for the wedding couple, at their guests expense

it used to be that if you got an invite to a wedding your only expense was your outfit, a round of drinks at the hen/stag do, and a gift from the list

now you are expected to buy an outfit, travel miles to the perfect venue, stay overnight, buy all your own drinks, pay for a week in benidorm (as a drink down the pub isnt considered a hen/stag do anymore), then another stag/hen do meal/club night, for those who couldnt make the the 'official' one, plus a nice cheque (as you dont do gift lists anymore)

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Luckyred

When we have been to weddings that require an overnight stay we always book a hotel. It wouldn't occur to me to expect it to be paid for us. We are quite happy to pay for our own accommodation. A hostel doesn't appeal to me at all. I am sure there are lots of people that would appreciate the offer of one though especially if they are on a tight budget.