Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

seven-day-weekend

Your mother really must sort out her wage, she should not be working for less than minimum wage and it is illegal for her employer to pay her less.

I agree with others, I don't think Benefits are the answer, she needs to be tough both with her employers and with your brother.

Maybe the CAB could offer her some advice on both issues?

Bennifred

OP - do you have any strong-minded relatives who could speak to your brother about the situation? If your mother won't put her foot down, maybe he can be shamed into doing the decent thing. I'd give him short-shrift! And as for his !!!!less girlfriend.....:mad:

DX2

murtle1981 wrote: »

My brother is working and hes on a cracking wage but refuses to give my Mum any more than 20 pounds a week board . His girlfriend isnt working, shes not looking for a job and she wont get off her backside and go to the job centre or even ring them to sort any benefits out for herself so shes not contributing.

Simple solution kick their backsides out on the kerb.

murtle1981

Bennifred wrote: »

OP - do you have any strong-minded relatives who could speak to your brother about the situation? If your mother won't put her foot down, maybe he can be shamed into doing the decent thing. I'd give him short-shrift! And as for his !!!!less girlfriend.....:mad:

Yes, my Nan is very outspoken..i think she will be the one who will make him realise but then again, i also think that she may not want to get involved...ill have a word with her and see what she reckons. Failing that, i think my Dads brother may have a lot to say on the subject...

Bennifred

murtle1981 wrote: »

Yes, my Nan is very outspoken..i think she will be the one who will make him realise but then again, i also think that she may not want to get involved...ill have a word with her and see what she reckons. Failing that, i think my Dads brother may have a lot to say on the subject...

Spread the word (and hurry up about it, too!) - if he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong, why should he mind the whole world knowing?;) The more people on his case, the better.

murtle1981

zzzLazyDaisy wrote: »

IHowever, I can't help feeling that what you really want is for someone 'out there' to subsidise your brother and his girlfriend, since your mum wouldn't be in this mess if they paid their way. Apologies if that sounds harsh.

Thank you for being honest but can i just ask what you meant by the above? What do you mean when you say i really want someone to subsidise my brother and his gf?

DX2

If your mam get's evicted then what?
If she has arrears already it will only be a matter of time, and the sooner she realises this the better.
Will they (son & g/f) look after her when this happens, I doubt it.

murtle1981

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I do think that your mother is bringing this on herself. Apart from the board money issue, you mention in your op that she's working for about half the NMW in one job and minimum wage for her cleaning job. I really don't think that you should be trying to get extra benefits for her in the circumstances but helping her to get her life and finances sorted out..

I have to say that i agree with you about my Mum bringing it on herself. She is way too soft with my brother. Me and him are so different, I appreciate what ive got and im happy, hes a spoilt little brat. Ive told her that shes not over the hill yet and could easily get a better paid job with the skills shes got. She was an assistant manager at her last job and was there for years. She was Chief Cashier at the job before that too. And now shes working like a donkey for peanuts! I think the problem is that shes become so dependent on the weekly payments from one of her jobs, that it would be very hard for her to go from weekly to monthly pay. I know she gets her cleaning job wage monthly but if she does get another, better paid job, she will have a full month with no money and thats what shes worried about. Shes struggling as it is because of my brothers antics, although she will be better off when he eventually moves on then maybe she would think about a job change....she keeps saying that she wants to take it easy, shes worked hard all her life and the jobs she does suit her but if she really wants out of this mess, shes going to have to put the taking it easy on hold for a bit longer

happy35

HMRC have a confidential telephone number to report employers who are not paying NMW, you could contact them on your mam's behalf and see if this makes them pay her more

I think she does need to be harder with your brother but do understand that she doesn't want to upset him , she does need tp put herself first though and get her confidence back so that she can apply for a better paid full time job

Hope she can find the strength to deal with it and get her finances back on track

murtle1981

DX2 wrote: »

If your mam get's evicted then what?
If she has arrears already it will only be a matter of time, and the sooner she realises this the better.
Will they (son & g/f) look after her when this happens, I doubt it.

As i understand, the council have been quite good to her regarding these arrears as they understand her situation and i think they have set her up on some sort of arrangement to pay off the arrears. But if she fails to stick to the arrangement, they could take further action......and i doubt my brother will look after her if anything happens with the house.