"Your life is an occasion. Rise to it"

Karmacat

Okay, cool (work interrupted, soz! ) the plan for next year is to have the house in a state where I could do a house swap via an agency/website of some kind, and maybe rent out for the Olympics as well. It'd be a fair old journey tho - probably 90 minutes ... don't know if I'd get any takers

MrsMoo2U

I reckon that you would get lots of takers KC. Great idea. When the Ryder Cup was on in Wales one person rented out their house for £25000 for the duration to a company. Yes you read that right!!!

Triciaxx

Karmacat wrote: »

I know that feeling - sorry yours all look like that tho, RT :eek::rotfl:
Thing for me is, I'm trying on all these futures for possible fit - like when you find a new department store you really like, you wander round going, ooh, I wonder if that would fit ... thats where I am right now with lifestyle :j:j:j.

Its very liberating and it really makes you think about what you want :D:D

I know what you mean, KC and have come to the conclusion that what I thought would be my ideal is something that I would have done years ago if it had REALLY been my ideal.:eek: Now I'm not so sure.

Also, I was lookiing at how much money I really need to finance my revised plans and it is a lot less than I thought. :T:T In fact it is less than half what I imagined. Yes, I could spend more but it would not really improve my happiness. I like that on a lot of levels. :j:j

Karmacat

Triciaxx wrote: »

I know what you mean, KC and have come to the conclusion that what I thought would be my ideal is something that I would have done years ago if it had REALLY been my ideal.:eek: Now I'm not so sure.

Thats interesting. The thing is, so many of us believe we can't have what we really want; the you that you are now would have done it years ago, yes, but you weren't the you that you are back then, iyswim .... you might well not want to do it any more, but don't take the fact that you *haven't* done it as evidence that you don't really want it. Gulp. That feels quite convoluted - but I did originally know what I meant :cool:

Also, I was lookiing at how much money I really need to finance my revised plans and it is a lot less than I thought. :T:T In fact it is less than half what I imagined. Yes, I could spend more but it would not really improve my happiness. I like that on a lot of levels. :j:j

Oh, this is true!!! Exactly what Tim Ferriss said, in The Four Hour Working Week - never mind about being a millionaire, what does it cost to live the life you want? Excellent question

Uh oh, more work coming up, I have to get ready.

See you later
xxx



EDIT - Cheri, you've really got me thinking, I googled a few places...

MrsMoo2U

Expand those horizons KC, you never know where they will take you. Who knows there may be somebody who lives on a boat who fancies a week in a lovely house.

Triciaxx

Karmacat wrote: »

Thats interesting. The thing is, so many of us believe we can't have what we really want; the you that you are now would have done it years ago, yes, but you weren't the you that you are back then, iyswim .... you might well not want to do it any more, but don't take the fact that you *haven't* done it as evidence that you don't really want it. Gulp. That feels quite convoluted - but I did originally know what I meant :cool:

Oh, this is true!!! Exactly what Tim Ferriss said, in The Four Hour Working Week - never mind about being a millionaire, what does it cost to live the life you want? Excellent question

Uh oh, more work coming up, I have to get ready.

See you later
xxx

I crossed my eyes and that all became clear. :rotfl::rotfl:

It is something that I had to give up when I had children - in the early 60s. I think I held on to the dream because things didn't turn out as I would have hoped and I joined the army of single mums with the aim of keeping our heads above water.

All that is water under the bridge now. So, belatedly, I realise that the dream has served its purpose and that, at this stage of life, I would not really enjoy it in the same way.

Yes, I did want it but the 'me' I am now does not. I am not hankering for something which I wanted 50 years ago and thought I still wanted - out of habit and being unwilling to change the tune to which I dance. I hope I am not the dewy eyed and callow youngster that I was then.

Tim Ferris certainly has it right that our 'needs' are less than we realise. There have been changes made in our life style (DH#2 has lasted 29 yrs, so far :T) and we don't feel any worse off for it. That has freed up money to the point where, while another £100 per month would make us very comfortable, but we can manage on what we have for the rest of our active lives.

It's not an easy process but it was when I started to do my bucket list that I realised that my original dream was not on there! Cue weeping and waling and gnashing of teeth till I got it worked out in my head.:cool:

Do keep 'trying for fit' and prepare to be surprised.

Greying_Pilgrim

Triciaxx wrote: »

I know what you mean, KC and have come to the conclusion that what I thought would be my ideal is something that I would have done years ago if it had REALLY been my ideal.:eek: Now I'm not so sure.

cherisong wrote: »

Expand those horizons KC, you never know where they will take you.

Triciaxx wrote: »

Yes, I did want it but the 'me' I am now does not. I am not hankering for something which I wanted 50 years ago and thought I still wanted - out of habit and being unwilling to change the tune to which I dance.

............. I got it worked out in my head.:cool:

Do keep 'trying for fit' and prepare to be surprised.

Phew! I think I have just had a 'click' moment! Thank you KC, Tricia and Cheri for having this 'conversation'. It ties in with some pondering that I have been doing just recently and has helped another piece of the jigsaw of life slot into place.

MMmmmmm, off to do some more pondering..................

Thanks again, Greying.

Lula-Hula

Karmacat wrote: »

Oh definitely, visitors are important! I just noticed that the Churriana apartment has *two* bedrooms, not one - plus a sofa bed in the lounge. For £340 a month I think we might have a mini-meet tbh (only one loo tho!).




EDIT - reality impinges - this wouldn't be for about five years. I can dream, tho!

Suits me - I should be well on my way to a boat by then, we can do swapsies

taxi73

Am loving all this talk on here and certainly food for thought.It's amazing how our priorities change over time and how what we think we want changes especially at different life stages...I appreciate the simpler things in life now and my biggest learning curve since becoming ill is not to worry over things I can't change or are out of my control as negative energy is wasted energy.I am so much calmer and at peace with myself.

Karmacat

Taxi, how lovely! I love the simple things - recently, for instance, I've been watching the swifts doing their thing in the evening, there's one particular road where they roost under quite a few of the eaves, and its fascinating to watch them. And you're right, this is a great conversation, I love it! Tricia, thanks for expanding what you wrote - I see what you mean now :j totally agree, changing goals is a life-enhancing thing.

Right - today, um, 3 hours work. Hmm, thats interesting in itself (to me, sorry ) I was saying yesterday to my work partner (now officially christened Mr KC, I can't keep going through that palaver :rotfl:and we do get called an old married couple) that I need it to be two hours a day to be able to do the trading properly as well, and have enough energy left over for, you know, a life :rotfl:So even now, I'm at capacity or even slightly over _pale_ good heavens :eek: so be it.

Other jobs - lots of background reading to do today for work; I need to phone Carpetright about the dratted vinyl; check on the bank balance in the French current account; finish cleaning the cooker; I wonder if I can do any gardening in this weather? (probably not :rotfl:) and more scanning whenever I can, as decluttering :j

Off for a wander around the diaries while I finally have breakfast.