Real Life MMD: Should I ask the bride for my money back?

babushkava

...best to mention it as though checking a discrepancy. That the hotel charged you on leaving, even though you had already paid! Can she remind you what date she paid the hotel on your behalf, as you want to take it up with them.

nicki_d987

You TOTALLY have to mention it, I recently got married and if this happened I would be mortified that my friend even had to debate about whether to ask me. There's so much going on when planning a wedding, that unless it's pointed out, she probably won't realise, but as other's have stated, it's your money, there's been a misunderstanding, she shouldn't have a problem with giving it back!!!

jubilate

Everyone has given you really good advice as mistakes can happen. A friend will be glad to check it out and horrified if the mistake is hers - don't leave it any longer so that she discovers it much later and then is left wondering what you must have thought of her!

I'm just amazed that in this financial climate that anyone even has to ask the question!

Wish I could afford to even consider doing nothing!!

Cloudane

Well that's an easy one. Although one or two have pointed out the "confuse it as a gift" possibility I don't think anyone so far has directly said no :rotfl:

Just discreetly have a bank statement (or internet banking transaction list) ready, and say "I sent you £120 just in case you had to pay for the booking but I received and paid the bill on my way out...." and any normal person will see what happened and pay you back before you have to explain any further. Simples!

I can see the point about them thinking of it as a wedding gift, but I imagine most people would see £120 come in from the person they booked a £120 hotel for and put 2+2 together. Chances are they just haven't examined their statement yet (some people never do at all). Besides if it was a gift most people would actually tell them about it and await thanking and such?

Just poor communication really - tell 'em what you're up to beforehand next time rather than sneaking money into their account Resolving it is a good communication skills exercise, go go go

pineapple

anne99 wrote: »

I would defo raise it with her. There is a second possibility - the hotel may have already received payment from her, and have billed you a second time in error. You'll never sort out what really happened without talking to the bride.

Just to echo this. I don't see the dilemma!

Ral0108

I agree with everyone else. Chances are she forgot to pay the hotel, but if you suggest that maybe the hotel made the mistake and charged you both it should be less embarassing all round.

LinkzJA

No you shouldn't!! What you should have done is raise the issue when the incident happened. To bring it up now would kinda not look 2 good. Next time strike whilst the iron is hot!!! But i DO feel your pain.

DONALD

I agree, you should ask the bride, no question at all.:j

White_Sapphire

LinkzJA wrote: »

No you shouldn't!! What you should have done is raise the issue when the incident happened. To bring it up now would kinda not look 2 good. Next time strike whilst the iron is hot!!! But i DO feel your pain.

The incident happened when the bride was probably already on her way to her honeymoon, or about to leave! She coudn't exactly interrupt everyone saying goodbye to the happy couple to go 'scuse me bride, you owe me 120 quid!' could she?

It's either a simple oversight on the part of a stressed and distracted bride not checking her bank statement, or the hotel's error. Either way, it's easily sorted.

Ebenezer_Screwj

You have effectively made her a wedding present of this money because she would certainly not be coming along to the hotel to pay your bill when you check out. It is your good self who is the departing guest. She will not be checking her bank statement so soon after her wedding, so if you want the money back you will have to ask her for it after the honeymoon.