Real Life MMD: Should I ask the bride for my money back?

stmartinsdiver

VT82 wrote: »

Yes but be a little coy about it - say that you think the hotel might have double charged for your room as you had to pay even though you thought she had. This will jog her memory that she owes you your money back.

Absolutely the right way to go about it as no one need be embarrassed and it's possible the hotal has charged both of you in which case the bride will be pleased you queried it.

Pretty_Pink

I work in a hotel and recently had to arrange repayment to a customer who had paid for his brothers room in advance, as a surprise, but his brother was asked to pay on check out as well. This was a mistake by the new receptionist, the advance payment had been misposted on the system. It only came to light several months later, as the first brother was a bit miffed that the second brother had not thanked him for paying for the room, when he eventually broached the subject all was revealed. So yes ask the bride, your money could be with the hotel, or could even have paid for another guests room!! Don't assume the bride didn't pay, just ask her for the confirmation number of the booking for the hotel, she will either realise she didn't pay or give you the number and you can chase up the hotel. Good Luck!

postrophe

How did you know what sum was involved when you 'pre-imbursed' the bride? Did she tell you or did you check with the hotel?

The plot thickens

Brian_Steele

An absolute no-brainer this time. Of course you should. We're not talking about someone promising a gift that never appeared, or making an arrangement and the circumstances changing at a later date. You simply gave someone some money to make a hotel reservation and she forgot to do it, so just make a polite request for her to give you the money back.

Don't sound upset about the awkwardness when you were presented with the hotel bill and just say it was simply her oversight. She will probably be much more embarrassed than you.

LadyChelsea_2

You should at least tell her about it. The hotel could've made a mistake. She will probably be very embarrassed, but if you are good friends she will expect you to be honest with her and let her know.

pennypinchUK

Isn't this easily resolved by a simple phone call/email, etc. to the bride to remind her you'd transferred the money to her account? Have the date and/or a print-out of the transaction available to help her memory.

Knowing what goes in to planning a wedding I'd imagine this was just a simple matter of the bride forgetting, while organising the many other things that had to be done.

postrophe

Brian_Steele wrote: »

........ You simply gave someone some money to make a hotel reservation and she forgot to do it, so just make a polite request for her to give you the money back....

She didn't forget. The room was booked as per her text confirmation, wasn't it?

LittleMrsThrifty

This is one of the easiest MMDs in a long time. Of course you should raise it with her. Either she should be giving you the money back or the hotel should.

commandomum

:)You haven't said whether or not bride asked for the money or not. If she did then it is simple you need to sensitively pursue it along the lines of 'i think the hotel has double charged for the room', if on the other hand as some posters have suggested she may have thought that £120 in her bank account was a wedding gift then it seems a little rude that she hasn't responded with a thank you for the gift and you could have sorted it out a lot sooner.

I would just like to add that i know exactly what is in my bank account and if i found that i had more than i should have then i would be looking into that my self.

Good luck

blue_streak

absolutely, damm right, unless you have money to burn, ( if you do then send some my way, as i know i couldnt afford to just right off that kind of money) what do you mean she is unaware you paid her a few months earlier? if that was me , shortly after sending her the original money id have been checking up just to ensure she had recieved it, or vice versa , if someone had sent me money id have had the decency to send a courtesey reply saying , recieved your money, thanks, look forward to seeing you. but at least you know what to do now in the future, if anything like this crops up just ask for hotel details etc & you personaly be responsible for making reservations & paying deposit/ bill. friends & money dont mix .