Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

gizmo111

Mooloo wrote: »

Doctors put me back on the higher dose of diclofenic again. Maybe it will work. Also referring me for physio again.
Exhausted today, and done nothing really.
Bed early for me tonight. Tomorrow I have to be fit enough to go and see the boys as I am taking Twin2. She cannot miss any meetings now as we only have 4 of them left at the moment anyway. (Unless they dont find the adoptive parents,). Still nobody has started to work with her on ther lifestory stuff.

Usually will be the boys who have the work doen with them via memory boxes/books etc - presumably this has started? Has twin2 given copies of photos etc to the social worker/foster carer?

Hope you feel better soon - I'll pen you something for your solicitor re the garden to go in the SG application/support plan at the weekend (Sunday) if it will help.

Take Care

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

Usually will be the boys who have the work doen with them via memory boxes/books etc - presumably this has started? Has twin2 given copies of photos etc to the social worker/foster carer?

Hope you feel better soon - I'll pen you something for your solicitor re the garden to go in the SG application/support plan at the weekend (Sunday) if it will help.

Take Care

No she hasnt given any photos over. Nobody has even seen her except the supervising person, who do not say anything as they are just there to sit and write their dam notes.
Yes please if you can help with the letter to the solicitor that would be great. You are a star amongst them all.

Savvy_sewing

Well I am up again. Seems like I only just fell asleep, but I had such horrible dreams that it woke me alot.
Today we go and see the boys. I dont feel too brilliant, but lets hope that the tablet increase will start to work soon.
DGD woke me this morning at 6.30. Said I had to get up as the sun was awake. Its shining at the moment. But for how long?
I am going to ignore my todo list today. Just get the bare necessary done, like last nights washing up, and all my cups from making tea.!
Then the usual ablusions and dressing.
We will see how I am at lunchtime when I get back from our visit.
Am hoping that this weekend the weather is not too bad and BF can help me in the garden. Presuming he will come over. It is his turn to come here afterall.
DGD's Grandad has said that he will have her for the weekend next weekend. (But not all of it). So thats something to look forward too.
Last time he had her was newyears eve. But she still talks about it, and still wants to go, dispite only seeing him briefly in passing.

Savvy_sewing

Afternoon. We had a nice little visit with the boys, lots of hugs and kisses etc. As ever the hour went far too fast.
On my return I visited my parents, mum is still not very well either. I borrowed their strimmer, and left it with twin2 to do her garden. I rounded up the teenagers in the house. Had a go at two on the xbox with cigarettes flicked on the floor at thier feet. Handed out jobs, and made everyone tidy up.
When I left the kitchen half was done/not the other side as that was full of clothes and tesco trolleys! I confess to washing up, lots and lots, but at least I was not bending and reaching etc etc.
I have left instructions that the rest of the house is to be done by the time I call back for the strimmer tomorrow!
DS likes his new job. Lets hope he is liked by them, gets to keep it and starts to act more responsibly. (Well we can hope can't we).
I am very tired, and hope that I can just relax a bit this afternoon. Hoping that DGD will allow me to anyway.
Just having a cup of tea and getting my levels back to normal.
Was a struggle to get going but I managed it.

Am concerned as thier has been a letter addressed to DGD sent to her Mum from her Dad. This is a man who has never met her etc etc.
He wants me to allow him to see her every month, etc etc and the problem is in his writings he is blaming me for not letting her see him. He is also very inaccurate, as he starts the letter by saying he is looking for his little girl who is 5 years old! Except actually she is 3 1/2. Then he is also writing from a stint at Her Majesty's pleasure. So thats a really good role model. If he thinks I am going to troupe her up and down to a prison to see him, who has only had a few phone calls, (where he wanted DNA tests etc etc done), and then one Card around this christmas sent to her Mum I am not sure I will be too thrilled. Obviously this is something that I will now need to take leagal advise on. ( I am happy to keep the letter by for her, to be able to read it, (along with any other communications - if there are), when she is older but I do not think that at the moment, this is a good thing.
And with the guardianship etc at the moment, i just do not need all the court cases etc all over again with this child now. I think I would go under with all the stress. Its sometimes no wonder I havent already!.
Time to rest up.

gizmo111

Am concerned as thier has been a letter addressed to DGD sent to her Mum from her Dad. This is a man who has never met her etc etc.
He wants me to allow him to see her every month, etc etc and the problem is in his writings he is blaming me for not letting her see him. He is also very inaccurate, as he starts the letter by saying he is looking for his little girl who is 5 years old! Except actually she is 3 1/2. Then he is also writing from a stint at Her Majesty's pleasure. So thats a really good role model. If he thinks I am going to troupe her up and down to a prison to see him, who has only had a few phone calls, (where he wanted DNA tests etc etc done), and then one Card around this christmas sent to her Mum I am not sure I will be too thrilled. Obviously this is something that I will now need to take leagal advise on. ( I am happy to keep the letter by for her, to be able to read it, (along with any other communications - if there are), when she is older but I do not think that at the moment, this is a good thing.
And with the guardianship etc at the moment, i just do not need all the court cases etc all over again with this child now. I think I would go under with all the stress. Its sometimes no wonder I havent already!.
Time to rest up.

You don't need to take any advice whatsover pass it on to DGD social worker who has PR for the child - for the time being you are just a foster carer and do not make any decisisons regarding contact - make it clear you want an assessment and a contact order at the final hearing - he may come back at a later date but unlikely.

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

You don't need to take any advice whatsover pass it on to DGD social worker who has PR for the child - for the time being you are just a foster carer and do not make any decisisons regarding contact - make it clear you want an assessment and a contact order at the final hearing - he may come back at a later date but unlikely.

Thanks Gizmo, must admit it scares me somewhat. He managed to get hold of Twin1's address via someone on Facebook. (social sites are a bit of a nuesance.)

Savvy_sewing

Well I only rested up for about 20 minutes. Decided that I ought to try to cut the grass as it was getting high, and would be more and more difficult. So I took it area by area and managed to cut the grass over about an hour and a half. In and out with DGD added to the times.
I unearthed a piece of plastic with the mower, and dug that up, carex bottle. Around it, you guessed, glass, metal clips, and an array of other unsavouries. Then there was a piece or two of long flex and chain as well.
I started to try to dig up one of the plastic bags that the lawnmower was trimming! but had to stop, it was such a big black sack. It will have to wait for me to be stronger, or for a helping hand to do it.
My BF is not going to be able to come over this weekend, as he has to drive his daughter to her job at 7.30 in the mornings, saturday and sunday.
Which is a pain in the neck. (And he says I do too much for my lot). We loose a weekend together for the sake of a 20 minutes car journey!
I suppose I can change my plans and go to his, but there is so much weeding and other things, that I cannot keep going away to his every weekend. Also I hadnt budgeted for the petrol to be driving there and back.
Both DS and Twin1 needed money yesterday, so that was another £25 out. Had £5 back from Twin2 though!
The baby is due this week, cesarian booked for Monday, so another reason why I am not really wanting to stray away from home.
Feeling very nervous for Biggest of Mooloo's now.
I managed to cut out a few hearts, circles and squares to make some pincushions, scented sachets and bean bags last night, but that was all I could manage after trying to do the garden. I know I probably shouldnt have but now that I know BF is not coming over, I am glad that I did, and hadnt left it to ask him to do for me.
Dont rely on any of my lot to help, dispite they all tell my Dad that they will help me.
I get most of my help from my Parents, and Molly and her family! although the cake that phillspad brought over was delicious, is delicious but its not going to last very long! my wasteband may be expanding with it though. yummy.

Savvy_sewing

Morning. Well had a busy day. Visiting the twins, chasing up teenagers to clean the house and garden etc again. Visiting my parents. Then meeting up with Molly, then in the evening I changed my bedding and finally hung up the new curtains in my bedroom, and put up some hooks to use the tie backs. etc Bedroom middle is now looking reasonable, just need to attack the edges.
Even used the strimmer from my Dads on some of the wilderness at the top of the Garden. The nettles are up to my waist now! Eek.
Spent the evening watching tv, unpicking things then had a bath by candle light!
Started to read a book Dad gave me last night. Thats me busy for a while then. Have the set!
Today I have hung out all the washing done for Twin2.
But not much else. Talked on Skype, with Biggest of Mooloo, then Facebook with twin2, and msn with my parents. What a way to communicate. Oh and text message from the BF, he may come over later. (But cannot stop as Taxi duties for his daughter in the morning).
Right DGD is playing with her socks in the bathroom, washing them for me.!
She was playing with the button box, and all her big soft toys are now at the bottom of the stair. Hope nobody wants to come in the front door!

Off to bag up the evidence of the last excavations, and they are going to be presented to the housing Managing Director!
Each and every day I dig a little bit more, I will take the findings to his office, and he can get the message that I am not happy.
The letter to him about the suing them if DGD gets cut is also going to be written this weekend!.
I am feeling better, can you tell?
I am going to be on the war path!.
Oh must check up on Molly see how she is, then get on with the next jobs.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo - I'm glad you are back to your fighting spirit :j

I am some what miffed that you have done Twin 2's washing unless she is at yours and is helping with the pegging out???

I think it is a very good idea to take the evidence to the director - if I ever have a complaint I always go straight to the top

EE

Savvy_sewing

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Mooloo - I'm glad you are back to your fighting spirit :j

I am some what miffed that you have done Twin 2's washing unless she is at yours and is helping with the pegging out???

I think it is a very good idea to take the evidence to the director - if I ever have a complaint I always go straight to the top

EE

DGD has helped me hang the washing out. I would rather do thier washing then to have the pile of smelling festering clothes looking like a scene from Grime Fighters, that the kitchen was becoming. Unfortunately her previous BF took the washing machine.
I dont mind washing. I hate ironing and will not do that.

I have been out in the garden and have unearthed even more wire etc. I have pictured it, about to download it and see what it looks like and also I videod a bit of it! Talking to Mr Managing Director at the time.! We will see, I am alas not a very good photographer. Maybe I will upload it to some where on the internet and start naming and shaming the housing association! I am so angry it has given me strength! Hurculean pulling up of wire matted into the grass as I cut the grass. Cannot call it lawn!