Here I go again :-)

Skint_but_Optimistic

The end of the year is nigh!

millionaire_in_training

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millionaire_in_training

Hi folks. Well what a couple of days I have had :eek:. My DS told me on Thursday night that he thinks he is gay. If anyone read my last deleted post then you will know what a state I was in. I am in no way homophobic but OMG how do you even begin to take that in. He is nearly 14 so I know what the hormones are like at that age but he reckons he is gay so I will support him through this as much as I can. I reassured him that I still love him to bits and that he can talk to me about anything he wants to as there is no way that I will have him dealing with this alone. My brother has also been totally amazing with him , for which I am so , so grateful and the young ones in the family are much cooler witht his type of thing than we are. I am now 2 days on and I can talk and think about it without crying my eyes out . DS has not seen me upset at any point but my poor friends have had me howling on the phone for 2 days :rotfl:. Ach well I usually listen to them so it is payback time. If it turns out that he is gay then so be it. I love him and as long as he is happy then so am I and I am just very grateful that he felt able to talk to me about it. I have told him to keep it amongst us until he knows for sure as I am worried sick that he will get bullied again and we have just got that inder control. Oh and then there's telling his dad at some point:eek: That'll be fun :eek:.

Money wise well I have been great as I have just been surviving until today BUT on way home from my wee cleaning job today my exhaust fell off :eek: so £147.35 to get it fixed. Never mind, at least I ahd green flag to come and collect me , as I was in the middle of nowhere and my car will get fixed on Monday.

So where do I go from here? I just carry on I reckon and go with the flow. My son is still my wonderful son and I adore him. I reckon we may have some difficult times ahead but we will deal with them as a family and it will be all right in the end

Skint_but_Optimistic

Its frightening more because of how other people can behave. You are adjusting and perhaps this isnt how you thought his life would be ... but at the end of the day it shows how strong your family is. He told you. I had not seen your post . You could have left it, its ok to share. One day at a time. He is fantastically well adjusted, and secure. With support like he has he will be fine, and so will you.

((hugs))

Skint_but_Optimistic

Oh and pigging cars!!! ((hugs))

millionaire_in_training

Thanks. We will be fine. As I said to him, a year down the line we could be laughing and saying 'how could you ever have thought you were gay' or we could be laughing saying' how could you ever have doubted it' Either way we will be laughing. I've just spent an hour on the phone with one of my best mates talking about it. I feel much better today and I know I am very lucky and have an amazing network around me and DS to get us all through this successfully. Thanks for the support xx


And yes pfft cars

nonnie44

Hi mit, I'm so please your ds told you as one of my brothers is gay(not very obviously gay iykwim) and he said he knew from age 15, though he kept it to himself for a really long time - he mid 40's and told us 2001.
It took him to sort his life out and settle 'down under' (which broke my heart) before he wrote mum a letter saying he completely understood if we all ignore him! I mean omg we could never have done that, in fact quite the opposite we all love him and his oh, my kids call them uncle ? and uncle ? and they are fab, coming home for christmas in fact and I can't wait! :j

They stay with mum when they come over and certain people have said they can't believe how cool she is with it all..........ok there was some tears from her when she found out, but that was because she was upset that he thought he wasn't wanted any more.

You sound like you are getting your head around it now, I remember it took a wee while for the news to settle in and i wasn't even that surprised, I always had something in the back of my mind, did dd have any clue?

Anyway take care and funnily enough my db thinks my ds is gay too! As long as he is happy and doesn't move to Aussie I'll be fine!! lol x

millionaire_in_training

Aww thanks Nonnie. I have suspected for years and have said for at least the last couple of years that I wouldn't be surprised but OMG I am. I can't stop thinking about it. I am talking about it constantly but yes I am definitely getting my head around it now.

He wanted to change his status on facebook and I nearly dropped dead. I ended up telling him he really had to take other people's feelings into account before making a grand gesture like that . He completely understands and he is so happy just now that we all know. I on the other hand am worried sick about the bullying that might come his way and would rather he dealt with this within his safe circle just now.

He told me today he reckons he may be bi rather than gay as he is 'attracted to people rather than gender'. He astonishes me sometimes with his wisdom as in other parts of his life he is just so immature.

Bottom line is I love him regardless and will support him through whatever happens. Like you I just want him to be happy and have a contented life. Just a pity he isn't one of the gay folks who like tidy rooms and keeping themselves spotless :rotfl::rotfl:

millionaire_in_training

hi. Spent £42.33 in ASDA today. I'm at £329.11 from my £350 budget. I just dont know how folks can do this with kids for £150 etc as I feel that we really cut back to the minimum for most of the month. Dont get me wrong we normally have some crisps, juice and biccies. But they are all usually smart price. I'm happy to continue with my budget of £350. I find it tough to come in under that and that's where I will keep it at.

I got my letter in from CSA and I am to get £52 per week and £25 towards the arrears he owes me so that will be grand.

I have the strangest feeling that ex oh has just got married. He was away in Florida for 3 weeks with his girlfriend. Now he has been away many times to Florida before but I just have this weird feeling. He never gets in touch with the kids when he comes back but he got back yesterday and has already made plans to see them this week with the both of them. We'll see what happens then .

My amazing pal took all my washing away today and I have got it all back dried and ready to iron . I think my friends are concerned about me as my life is just crazy just now and mentally I have too much on my mind. This resulted in me having 11 hours sleep last night :j. I didnt waken until 11.45. and I had settled by 1.30am this morning. I must have needed it.

So an evening of ironing and telly for me. Making chicken and fried rice for dinner. The rice is already cooked, tha ham is also cooked and I will chop and cook a chicken breast. Only DS and I who will eat it as DD has a mate in for a sleepover and they are ordering food in. So a nice wee evening ahead for me

jellybean39

Hey mit

Sorry not been on for a few days. Just read your posts hope you are ok. I think your ds is really brave to tell you how lovely you have a realtionship that he feels he can be open with you.
I wouldnt worry about it tbh i have gay and lesbian friends and i havent seen any bullying with them. I had a lad come in the salon for years and i knew he was gay when he was at school and when he told me one day he was shocked when i said i knew!!!!! We have become good friends over the years. Tell him i went to see Alan Carr last night and i think he is bloody amazing i know he a celeb but he so takes the mick out of himself he is sooooo funny.
At the end of the day it dosent matter if your kids are gay lesbian or hetro they are you kids and you will love them no matter what. Alot of people still judge but there are alot of people out there who dont so as long as your son is happy who cares? i say good on him because i bet he has been worrying about it for ages. Wondered what the deleted post was!!!!!!!