Real life MMD: Should I buy the girlfriend a present?

suedeapple

If it was down to your relation you wouldnt have got a present in the first place, so why bother sending him one when they mean so little to him. If his girlfriend took enough interest in you to know what would be a good present for you, went out and physically bought it, wrapped it up etc etc, and then took great delight in having bought you such a good present that she bloomed with pleasure when you told your relation it was good, then I say if you are going to buy anyone a present it should be her. Your relation probably got wealthy by not buying anyone anything in his entire life.

Theres nothing worse than someone else taking credit for an act or good deed when they are bone idle and so uninterested in it they wouldnt do it themselves in the first place. I owuld certainly shout about it if I was the girlfriend.

More to the point would you just buying the wealthy relation a present because he is .... ahem .. wealthy

isnt this just a case of getting in the good books incase there a mention in the will?

bennett2kuk

So if she hadn't have given the gifts (even using someone else's money) you would have got nothing from either of them. I would personally buy a joint present for them perhaps.
But that being said in our family I buy for my Dad and his wife and my nephew, I have 2 sisters where we have an agreement not to buy for one another but she has the nephew I buy for and she now buys for my son as he was born this year. Other than that my Mum lives in Australia so gets nothing and I expect nothing back although she sends money for my son.

I spend the most money on my wife and my kid as it should be!

There's a girl I work with who has a huge extendef family and feels the pressure to buy for every one of her 4 or 5 siblings' children. She spends a fortune and every year moans about it, I suggested a secret Santa for a family of that size. Personally I would have an arrangement like that as I wouldn't be prepared to spend an absolute fortune on hundreds of people.

maryb

I'm with those who think there was a bit of an unpleasant tone to your post when you described her gushing.

Maybe she loves Christmas - there are lots of us who do.

Be generous in spirit even if you can't afford to be generous with the present - that's what Christmas is about, after all