Weekly Flylady Thread 20th December 2010

sexymouse

vivw wrote: »

I'd scrap it off and do a taste test. If it tastes ok then I'd use it

Mudbath wrote: »

Sexym - i'd scrape and taste test like vivw said. It's been nice knowing you:rotfl:x

Thanks ladies - will do that. lol Do you think I ought to deliver the presents first?

greenbee

Triker wrote: »

Oh dear, , well wait and see eh...there was a reason they split up in the first place and that reason wasn't anything to do with you was it? If a relationship is not up to scratch then just putting on a show over christmas won't fix things, neither will staying together through guilt over children...that's if this is the case and your imagination isn't going into overdrive hun. Anyway, hugs to you, do you have a plan B for christmas if you aren't spending it with OH?

Well... I was under the impression that the split was nothing to do with me, but the fact that their relationship was completely dysfunctional, but who knows? If he hadn't met me, would he have left? He didn't leave until after I started working with him, so I can't be sure. All my colleagues have told me how much he has changed for the better since we got together and I'd hate him to go back to being the person he was before. But everyone has been telling him his ex has changed - she may have, but its only been 6 months, and whether they've both changed in compatible ways is difficult to tell. His parents also have religion... but don't seem to be very christian and understanding at the moment. I don't want to offend anyone religious (I have my own beliefs) but this is something that I find surprising, however often I come across it...

Christmas plans were to be with my family anyway, but staying in OH's flat - he was to be at his parents, and his ex and kids were going to join him there for the day.

Mudbath wrote: »

Greenbee - wish there was something constructive I could say. I remember before I met dh I had a similar situation and it was the not knowing that was the hardest. Funnily enough, he finally decided he wanted to be with me but by that time I'd met DH and thought 'sod ya!'. Hugs to you xx

Thanks Mudders... I guess I need to work on my social life, keep busy and try to get over him. Neither of us can really cope with the emotional stuff at the moment, and he's said he's following doctor's orders and avoiding it as he can't cope with it. Although how being back in the family home fits with that I don't know... he's now saying he can't leave, even if the trains are running, as the heating has a leak (which I knew... he told me about it in MAY and said his ex wouldn't get it fixed) and his youngest now has a bad cough. So I've told him yet again how to fix the leak (radweld - its in the pipes under the floor... beats digging up the floor and its a tried and tested solution!).

Maybe I should point out to him he really ought to go and check up on the flat, as its been cold and his landlady won't be impressed if there are burst pipes and he isn't looking after the place!:p

juliejim

Freezer now sorted and I have a list of what I've already got for Christmas Eve. Just need to decide what else I'm doing now. Have all the puddings though apart from making a blackberry and apple crumble nearer time. Better do a shopping list at some point.

Anyone fancy another HHC at 11.30?

greenbee

cyclingyorkie wrote: »

greenbee - many hugs! Hope you're ok with all that's going on.

it sounds like he needs a few months to come to terms with all that has happened/is happening in his life.

My sister married on the rebound - I sat at the wedding and hoped it would work! It didn't!

She is happily married now, but there was so much heartache and worry and stress and it took years to get over.

My thoughts are with you at this time!

Thanks... I think he needs a few months on his own... NOT back in the family home. Or with me sadly. I did tell him this at the start - that he needed some time on his own, but he persisted and persuaded me to go out with him. I did also point out to him from the outset that I was probably going to end up being the one getting hurt, but somehow he talked me round. I think I'll give up on men...

Now... I suppose I should walk to the post office next. I have client calls from 2pm, and then can spend the evening making chocoates!

I also need to work out where the air is in my heating system. I can hear it, but it doesn't seem to be making it to the top of the radiators or the bleed points, so I can't get it out!

ajmoney

I decided to iron OHs shirts as there weren't many but the washing finished as I was doing it so have ironed the ironable things and hung everything up, at least it means I can cross that off tomorrow's list. I also had to sew a button on his shirt, he had left the button on my CoD so I am guessing that was a hint!

Need to go in the shower in a sec.

Monday Mayhem..

• Make sure you have all the shopping you need to take you through to next week.. milk and bread especially!It is Bank Holiday on Monday so some shops are not open.. the big supermarkets are. Have what we need for now, will top up tomorrow
• [STRIKE]Make sure the last of the presents are wrapped I will not have people sitting up while 5am on Christmas morning wrapping![/STRIKE] Mine is done, need to buy 2 presents for other teachers in case they give them to OH and 1 for his brother, we are cheating with chocs, OH WILL be doing the wrapping!
• S&S the bathroom/s and loo's
• Clean the oven ready for your feast!
• Spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself.. reading.. relaxing.. goggling... remember you are important too.
• Dust round the whole downstairs

Tuesday - Time's nearly up!!!

• [STRIKE]Iron yesterdays wash mountain[/STRIKE]
• Vacuum through downstairs.. and the stairs!
• Mop the kitchen floor!
• Get rid of the washing up.. delegation is good!
• Declutter your desk.. if it is anything like mine it is full of receipts and invoices!
• Tidy up coats and shoes and suchlike
• WRAP WRAP WRAP!
• [STRIKE]Make a note of when the binmen are coming!!![/STRIKE] Meant to be tomorrow but who knows!
• Spend half an hour doing NOTHING!!.. absolutely nothing!!!! Just sit.. and relax with a drink and a treat!

Wednesday Mayhem..

• Make sure you have all the shopping you need to take you through to next week.. milk and bread especially!
• mop the kitchen
• mop the bathroom/s and loo's
• Clean the bath and shower and loo!
• Bake some mince pies and tarts etc.. yummies!!!
• Sort out the plan for christmas eve.. shop runs, present drop offs etc
• Catch up on the laundry again.. ironing is tomorrows job!
• Spend at least half an hour doing something for yourself.. reading.. relaxing.. goggling... remember you are important too.
• Vacuum the whole of the upstairs!
• wash windows through the whole downstairs if needed
• do a crazy HHC decluttering downstairs

Thursday ~ Almost done?

• Spend at least half an hour doing nothing at all!
• Check when payments need to be made, if possible set them up to go on the right date through the bank.
• HHI
• dust and deweb everywhere
• Binbag dance
• Wipe down all the worksurfaces in the kitchen
• Wipe all the units and appliances
• Sweep and mop the kitchen
• Play laundry catch up.. see if you can get it all done!
• Wrap, wrap, wrap

Christmas Eve - FRANTIC FRIDAY FRENZY

• Wash pots before bed!
• Bathtime to wear everyone out!
• S&S the kitchen
• S&S the bathroom
• Get the roll of binbags at the ready
• Quick whizz over the clutter and carpets..
• Relax, enjoy yourselves and have a lovely time with your family!!
• If it isn't done now you don't need it to be done it isn't important!

Saturday - CHRISTMAS DAY!

• Bag up all the wrapping paper and put it outside!
• Delegate pot washing/DW loading!
• A quick S&S over the kitchen should see it looking fabulous again If you leave it by New year it will be a tip!!
• Quick wipe over the hob should see it sparkling again
• Start thinking of those resolutions you will be breaking by the middle of January! lol
• Enjoy your day with your loved ones, spare a fewv minutes thought for those who cannot be with us this year and who have lost loved ones.. I wish you all a happy, joyous, trouble-free fabulous New Year!! Without you lot.. I wouldn't be here either xx

juliejim

Mudbath wrote: »

Juliejim - I'd cook them and feed them to my hubby as he has a cast iron stomach! I probably wouldn't eat them myself though. Actually, I'd rather give them to hubby than the dog:rotfl:.

Now that's a plan - he's bought 2 jars of curry sauce that only he will eat so he could have it in that!:rotfl:

toochoosey

JJ, I will join you at 11:30. My Mum popped in earlier so nothing but tea drinking has been done here so far!!!

juliejim

Come on then tooch!

toochoosey

Lost connection for a minute there, but with you JJ ......off to the kitchen..........xx

sexymouse

Well I'm going to use the HHC to make a start on prepping the ingredients for the encroute (breadcrumbs and veg chopping).