Am I Going to Jail?

whipped

Hi kelloggs36, My income is not high as they know that I have been out of work since I left my job at RM due to health reasons and have not worked since. I have and did inform the CSA of this that I had no earnings or assets and savings. They have been assessing me believing that I was still working where I clearly explained I was not in work.

My P45 shows I left Royal Mail in October 2006 and I have not been in employment since neither have I claimed any benefits.

DX2

whipped wrote: »

My P45 shows I left Royal Mail in October 2006 and I have not been in employment since neither have I claimed any benefits.

This might be a problem they may want to know how you manage to survive with no work or benefits, they could think you have a stash of money elsewhere.

whipped

DX2 wrote: »

This might be a problem they may want to know how you manage to survive with no work or benefits, they could think you have a stash of money elsewhere.

I wish, but no luck will they find there I can assure you. I have been looking after my my mother is old and disabled. I have been doing this for well over 10 years and have done everything I can to help out and her.

My health has recently become better and my friend has offered me a job driving for him which I have been considering for a while, and should take up.

DX2

whipped wrote: »

I wish, but no luck will they find there I can assure you. I have been looking after my my mother is old and disabled. I have been doing this for well over 10 years and have done everything I can to help out and her.

My health has recently become better and my friend has offered me a job driving for him which I have been considering for a while, and should take up.

But you can see why questions will be asked for 10 years you could have claimed benefits, but didn't.

viktory

jamespir wrote: »

jusy ignore the self righteous idiots on here there always like that

Personally I am neither self righteous, nor an idiot. Having seen some of your previous posts I find it amusing that you of all people are calling others idiots. Pots & kettles!

The OP has openly admitted that he does not believe this child to be his - despite a positive DNA test. It is clear that he has not only failed to pay for his child's upkeep but that he has also failed to offer the child a loving relationship. That is his biggest failing, in my book.

His relationship with his ex, the child's mother is neither here nor there and the OP should have made much more of an effort to have a relationship with his child - a child who is now 14 years old! There are no excuses for his behaviour.

Having read all of the OP's posts all I see is a person trying to desperately wriggle out of his responsibilities - as he has done for the last 14 years. He is using every trick in the book - it is his parents' fault, her parents' fault, her fault.....everyone but his own fault.

Soubrette

This story sounds every so familiar, I'm sure it's been posted before but from the point of view of a sister or something.

The forced marriage detail wasn't mentioned but the belief the woman was one month further on that was claimed, the DNA test that showed the husband had an almost certain likelihood of being the father.

I'm sure I've read it before in the last year or so.

skibadee

The Carers Allowance amount is the amount payable fo a QC up to the age of 16yrs as the CSA state a child under 16yrs has to be cared for, when QC reaches 16yrs of age The Carers Allowance stops.

whipped

I am not trying to wriggle out of anything and never have, and maybe I do feel like blaming some people that is not how I live my life anymore as it has got me now where.

How many kids grow up without fathers and some don't even know who they are. Just because I refused to get embroiled in a legal battle and go through the courts does not make me irresponsible. Yes the child is 14, but I am not blaming myself for not having contact with him. I have seen friends and families torn apart by the legal system fighting for contact and visiting rights, made to see their kids supervised for an hr a fortnight and watched like they are some kind of peedo.


I have suffered with health and mental problems for many years and still am not 100% well, I am not making any excuse as I don't believe I have to. I tried for years through family, friends to try and come to an agreement with my x but she was hell bent on me to take her back if not no contact. I threw the towel in and I do not have any regrets as I did my best not for a couple of days, weeks or months but for years.

As for this debt I am glad that now this has happened as it has been hanging over my head for too long and has added to my ill health. If the child wants to see and have a relationship I have no problem, and I have always been clear on this, but there is no way in hell that I was going to battle through the legal system for my x to do everything she could to put bolders in my way.

End of the day you want to have the child then you can and that is that. If I sound harsh or selfish well that is no problem but I am not going to let comments like that get me down because that is all have been hearing for years and years from certain family members. It takes two to make a baby, always shoot the guy first yes?

Has anyone ever stopped to think and ask what effort my x has made to let me see my child? No didn't think so.

Do you work for the social services V as you sound just like them?

whipped

DX2 wrote: »

But you can see why questions will be asked for 10 years you could have claimed benefits, but didn't.

Thanks DX2, I only left work in October 06 so has not been 10 years only approx 4

viktory

whipped wrote: »

How many kids grow up without fathers and some don't even know who they are.

And that makes it OK, does it?

whipped wrote: »

Just because I refused to get embroiled in a legal battle and go through the courts does not make me irresponsible.

I think it does. Very irresponsible.

whipped wrote: »

I have seen friends and families torn apart by the legal system fighting for contact and visiting rights, made to see their kids supervised for an hr a fortnight and watched like they are some kind of peedo.

At least these parents showed that they cared and would fight to see their children because they loved them and wanted to spend time with them.

whipped wrote: »

I tried for years through family, friends to try and come to an agreement with my x but she was hell bent on me to take her back if not no contact.

You did not try hard enough. Obviously.

whipped wrote: »

It takes two to make a baby, always shoot the guy first yes?

Not at all. But your ex is not here to put her side - you are the one whinging about the CSA. Whatever has happened with your ex and access, she has been there for you son, she has raised him, loved him, fed and clothed him, put a roof over his head, bought him Christmas presents..

whipped wrote: »

Do you work for the social services V as you sound just like them?

Nope.