Ears

Guinea_2

Hi
As a young child I had sticky out ears, although no-one apart from me ever noticed. I was never teased about it by others, although I did always have hair that was placed over my ears. The inner torment I went through was awful and I just hated my ears and I'd always begged my Mum to take me to the doctor's about it. Eventually she did and my ears were pinned back when I was 14. To me it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I felt more confident and also tried newer hairstyles; etc. To others (friends) they didn't notice anything...which was good as I hadn't told anyone that this was what I was having done. Even now I love my ears and call them my special ears! I wouldn't change them now at all!
Has your son noticed that his ears are 'different' in some way or is it just other people as other people can be cruel?

shaven-monkey

Juicy_Tube wrote: »

just feeling really down and upset tonight about this, first time ever.

DS1 had his Xmas play today and all I could see was his ears and it upset me so much...

Seek therapy.
The problem is not his ears, the problem is your beliefs about his ears.
He'll be fine as long as you stop obsessing.

Rikki

My son's ears stick and he thought about surgery some years ago. He came to the conclusion that his ears were what made him him. I'm pleased as that is who I brought up and the ears are just part of him. He just wouldn't be ****** without them.

Also if you look at the tv and film stars who have had the operation they all look the same. Tucked tight to their head at the top and normal at the bottom. Start looking, you will be surprised how many over vain hollywood stars they are.

The end result may not be what you imagined and you'd be more upset.

barbiedoll

This is clearly your problem, not his! No kid is perfect so don't start giving him hang-ups at his age. He may never be teased or bullied about his ears but if you obsess about them, you will pass on your anxiety and you will blight his childhood if you're not careful.

My DS is short, as are the rest of the family. We don't let it become an issue, we know it's something that we can't change so we learn to live with it. As I tell DS, it's not done Tom Cruise any harm! Big ears are something that can be dealt with if the need arises. At the moment, he is not bothered so don't let it bother you either.

lostinrates

I have really, really nice ears. I think they are my nicest feature...and I NEVER get complimented,so OP please don't worry, its better his ears are his character than the best thing about him. Personally I think ears with some ''profile'' are quite cute. A dear childhood friend of mine had hers pinned back as an adult, despite never being teased about them outside her family, and honestly, I didn't notice the difference,not because they weren't different but because I looked her in the face when I talked to her, not distracted by her ears.

I hope airing your worries has helped you feel better.:)

PolishBigSpender

My goodness, what is the problem? One has sticky ears, the other has to wear glasses, third is short, fourth is fat, and the next is tall and thin! I can't believe anyone - especially a parent - to make issue out of it! Believe me - if the kids want to bully someone they will find 'a reason', even if he looks like a model. If they like him - they probably won't even notice th ears.

Juicy_Tube

Thank you all for your replies! Most appreciated... No time to reply tonight, but I am taking in every one of your answers, it means a lot that you have taken the time to answer..

JT

barbiedoll

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

parent - Believe me - if the kids want to bully someone they will find 'a reason', even if he looks like a model. If they like him - they probably won't even notice th ears.

So true PBS, you hear stories all the time of girls being bullied for being too pretty!

madrhino

skintchick wrote: »

I had sticky out ears. I'm 35 and in those days theywouldn;t operate till you'd stopped growing so I had to wait till I was 17.

I don't understand why they wouldn't operate on you. I'm also 35 and I had my ears pinned back when I was a kid.

OP I would advise to get your childs ears done if it bothers them. I had long hair and my ears poked through my hair. I also wouldn't wear my hair tied back. I can't really say much about the operation as it was about 30 years ago when I had mine done so things might have changed. I have a photo of me with a big bandage round my head.

Saying all that I have a bent little finger and they couldn't straighten it when I was a kid as I wouldn't have been able to bend it at all if straightened. My mum recently suggested I look into if they could straighten it now BUT I wouldn't want to. I love my little finger, it's part of me. I'm also scared that I wouldn't be able to tell my left from my right without it as it's always been my guideline. So maybe your child will be happy with sticking out ears and maybe he will grow into them

Agutka

Don't mention it, as that might make a non-problem real.
I once spoke to a plastic surgeon about the bump on my nose. She said, no dear, that's fine, what I would fix is the width of your nose. :eek: I've never forgotten that and though I got used to the bump, the width I never noticed bothers me now!
I never notice things about people until they point them out. My best friend was lovely until she told me she hated her teeth. Oh yeah, they were crooked, never thought about it before.