can you help resolve a disagreement please

PootleFlump_3

I think it depends if you see them all the time or live in the same place. My Mum and Dad dont buy my OH a birthday present and his dont buy me one as we all live in different parts of the country.

determined_new_ms

i do think yes as well - m ex-mil (haven't been with er ds for 18 yrs but have children together) buys my oh a gift at christmas & he does for her as well

~daisy~_2

7roland8 wrote: »

Yes - but why ask after 4yrs?? Would have been giving a small gift from yr one.

this is what id do too - and if i was the daughter would feel quite insulted that it hadnt been this way

Heart_Shaped_Diamond

I'm interested to see if the OP is NO for gift giving or if it's her hubby that disagrees. OP, where are you and what's your opinion?!:money::p

jamespir

yeah i would its polite

devilivus

Guess im kind of on my own, but I wouldn't necessarily say that you 'must' buy him a gift.
They're not married.
Do you get on well with him?
Do his parents get something for your daughter?
I certainly would 'expect' anything from my GF's parents.

Sublime_2

Of course, he's part of the family.

7roland8

Well I even give gifts to my son's girlfriend's little sisters - who I've only met once - but they are young teenagers and we like to include everyone at christmas - its only s amll penants with their initials - but like everyone is saying - ist not the gift - but the fact you bothered with something.

My hubby's family is different - we only give to his mum - not his brothers, their wives or children. Its just the way he is and he says its 'his' family - so I just do gifts for my own side - but I give to friends etc as I see fit.

jane130

Sorry I didn;t get back to this Yesterday - Hubby had the day off work hence the disagreement starting in the first place !

I have always given him a gift on his birthday , just something small - however this year things have been a bit up in the air and his birthday got missed I feel totally awful about it and was saying to dh yesterday we need to do something to make up for it and his arguement was that we don't need to get him a gift anyway so don't need to worry about missing it !

I just couldn't get it through to him that just becuase our parents don't buy gifts for us doesn't mean we shouldn't - in fact if he thinks we will end up like either of our parents I may consult a solictor now !! LOL

Thanks so much for your responces .

Now how to make it up to him for missing his birthday this year ?

richardvc

God I can't believe someone needs to ask this question !

Let's hope this settles the argument - of course you should buy a present for him !

If you don't, you would be seen to be making him feel an outsider.

Hope this helps !