Four year old's hair disaster

Becles

I've always had long hair apart from when I was about 13 and had it cut really short, regretted it and grew it back again! I'd be mortified if anyone cut mine off, so I can understand where you are coming from.

If I had a daughter and I'd looked after her hair well, so it was long and well groomed, I'd be fuming that someone had cut it off too.

Hope you get something nice sorted in a shorter style. If the front is not long enough for a bobble, maybe some pretty clips will look nice to hold it back?

s4cha

When I was about 7 one of the kids in my class cut a big chunk out of my lovely long ponytail. When my mum noticed that evening she absolutely lost the plot and made a lot of noise at school the next morning. Not that it made any difference as none of the kids owned up. I wouldn't have either especially seeing how mad my mum was .

Just had to avoid certain hair styles for a while :rolleyes:. If I'd found out who did it, I would've 'sorted' them out as I had to put up with my mum moaning every morning as she did my hair! Now we can laugh at it though!

It will bother you for a while, but you and your little one will get over it. I'm sure the hairdresser will be able to make her look lovely again.

Fleago

Oh ruthyjo, how what a horrible thing to happen, no wonder you feel so upset. But you'll be able to give your little one a super treat tomorrow, going to the "grown up" hairdressers and having her hair washed and cut and being pampered She'll look gorgeous when it's done and will be able to show off her lovely new style! I like little girls with long hair too, but my daughter, when she was your little girl's age, had the loveliest little bob and she looked such a sweetie with it.

Fleago

Smashing

I think you need to be really positive about her new style when she has it done - she is probably picking up on your feelings. Treat her to some nice clips and accessories for her hair and then - in the nicest possible way - get over it. Ruminating won't bring her hair back. But time will.

tifnstav

After reading another thread about head lice i've got to think that at least it'll be easier for you if she gets nits!

grimelda

trippy wrote:

I think it would help to remember that your daughter is only 4 years old. I'm not sure it's a good idea at that age to place so much emphasis on how she looks for both you and your daughter. Yes, the older sister of the friend was wrong and scissors should be kept away out of reach. But I think you do need to keep a strong sense of perspective. It's not like she came home with a dreadful injury from the scissors.

Agreed. I don't get the big deal. She's a kid. Maybe if you were going to enter her in a beauty contest it would be an issue, but losing sleep over it and being gutted seems way out of proportion to me.

Ask the mother to help out with the cost of a hairdresser, and also make a point that you would prefer if her kids were supervised when they had scissors.

Trix

Jay-Jay wrote:

Last week I noticed that she had shaved the bits in front of her ears .... she's seven and got grounded for a week for that one.

My eldest (and new JNR MSE 'lil mizz millie' as of tonight ) did that a couple of weeks ago :rotfl:She also had a couple of grazes either side of her eyebrows....which was where she had shaved the ends off her eyebrows :eek:

At the age of 7 (reading this thread, it seems to be a common age for 'scissor hands') she chopped off some of her fringe....then blamed a girl at school for it I guessed she was lying so went through the whole of saying I would have to get in touch with her parents and her teacher etc.

She didn't back down with her story so I went to see her teacher (in private I told her I suspected she was lying so she didn't have a go at the other child) who asked the child if there had been 'an accident' with some scissors and my daughters hair, which of course she said there hadn't. It took a while but my daughter finally admitted she had done it herself.

I can't remember her exact punishment, but I know that she was grounded for a week and made to write apology letters to myself, her teacher and the child she accused. I think the child in question in this case should also be writing a letter of apology.

I definately would be angry at the child who did it and the parents for not supervising properly and not being in contact with you to apologise and offering to pay. After the initial shock though I would be more likely to not be able to keep a straight face when looking at the new hair-do :rotfl:I can't imagine being that upset at what happened to not be able to sleep and feel ill, but everyone is different I suppose. I just hope your daughter isn't picking up on your feelings of devastation.

You should be telling your daughter that what the girl did was very wrong, but reassure her it is only hair and it won't take long to grow back, and tell her it is a good job she is so pretty anyway that it's not that big of a deal. To make the best of the situation, I would be likely to say 'let's give you a REAL makeover' and treat her to some kiddie nail varnish, make up and hair accessories to go with her 'new image'.

As my Grandad used to say - the difference between a good haircut and a bad haircut is 2 weeks

Jay-Jay_4

Trix My daughter concocted a lie that she was at school, using scissors and her head was itchy so she scrached it and she must've 'accidently' cut her hair three times on one side and three times on the other :rolleyes: It took about 3 hours to break the lie and it was the lie which she was grounded for, not the haircut.

grimelda wrote:

I don't get the big deal. She's a kid. Maybe if you were going to enter her in a beauty contest it would be an issue, but losing sleep over it and being gutted seems way out of proportion to me.

I think it depends what type of person you are. I was once told that I was 'too precious' which means that I care about things I have invested time in. Having watched your daughter's hair grow for several years I know how upsetting it is to see it cut off.

How would you feel if someone spilled gloss paint on your carpet? It's replaceable and not such a big deal but it would be very upsetting for me whereas you may not care at all.

ollym_3

I don't know if people are going to hate me for this but I just want to say that this thread is ridiculous. Your daughter is 4 years old for god's sake... she's got a mangled haircut - who cares, 4 year olds SHOULD be playing dress up, they should be dirty, they should be causing mischief, laughing, having fun, playing with mates - it's part of life. You should be laughing wither her, not too scared to look at her!

Take some photos, laugh at it, and wait for it to grow back.

I can't help thinking that your overzealous attitude will be far more damaging to your daughter than the haircut.

purple-smartie

I think it must be a 7 year old thing to want to cut hair. Both my daughters cut themselves a nice wonky 1inch long fringe at that age. Yes I was horrified at the time but honestly give it a couple of weeks and you will be laughing about it.

I have no room to complain anyway at a 7 year olds bad hairdressing. Im 34 and still cant cut my kids a straight fringe