Four year old's hair disaster

mandi

This is no consellation to you, but I promise you, that one day youll look back and laugh at this....:D

Putting it into perspective as distressed as you are.. your DD probably isnt, and her lovely hair will grow back..

Be thankful that shes Happy & healthy.. theres a lot of children tonight who wont be......

trippy

I'm not saying that the OP shouldn't be angry. But the post was about the child's hair not the fact that she had access to scissors. I was just trying to say that the hair is secondary and to get a perspective on it. That the OP couldn't even look at the child because her hair had been cut seems a little extreme to me and not the right sort of message to be giving to the child.

kittykate_2

don't forget to take a picture of her now. it may be maddening at the moment but a photo of this will be great for when she's older.

ruthyjo

mandi wrote:

This is no consellation to you, but I promise you, that one day youll look back and laugh at this....:D

Putting it into perspective as distressed as you are.. your DD probably isnt, and her lovely hair will grow back..

Be thankful that shes Happy & healthy.. theres a lot of children tonight who wont be......

I am of course thankful that she is healthy and I do know logically that much much worse things happen. She isn't very happy just at the moment though. She was devastated when she saw herself in the mirror last night. She looks like a scarecrow.

Smiley_Mum

trippy wrote:

I think it would help to remember that your daughter is only 4 years old. I'm not sure it's a good idea at that age to place so much emphasis on how she looks for both you and your daughter. Yes, the older sister of the friend was wrong and scissors should be kept away out of reach. But I think you do need to keep a strong sense of perspective. It's not like she came home with a dreadful injury from the scissors.

It's lovely to see little girls with well kept, long hair. You like your kids to look nice and be well groomed etc, it's pride in their appearance. I'd have been absolutely gutted if someone had hacked my daughter's hair off too. Hopefully the hairdresser will be able to restore your daughters hair to a nice style, and her hair can grow back in time. As much as you must be angry and upset about what's happened, it's done and all you can do is rectify things as best you can. Talk to your daughter about what's happened and make sure she knows that if anyone (other than a hairdresser instructed by you) comes within a mile of her with scissors to run like the wind in the other direction.

ruthyjo

trippy wrote:

I'm not saying that the OP shouldn't be angry. But the post was about the child's hair not the fact that she had access to scissors. I was just trying to say that the hair is secondary and to get a perspective on it. That the OP couldn't even look at the child because her hair had been cut seems a little extreme to me and not the right sort of message to be giving to the child.

My daughter has access to scissors (when an adult is around) and does lots of cutting and sticking. I wouldn't really expect a seven year old having scissors as a problem - I would think that by that age they would be responsible with them. They were clearly quite blunt too by the state of the cut!

So yes I am being self indulgent about the hair I suppose. My daughter doesn't know I don't want to look at her of course. I don't want her to feel worse than she does anyway. Have been trying to cheer her up by discussing the possibility of getting a lolly at the hairdressers (whilst averting my eyes of course!).

sare_2

My friends four year old suffered the very same result when her sister played hair dressers!
She had her hair cut short, and yes it was uneven for a while but it looked quite elfin in the end and wasn't as bad as you might think.
She was mortified at the time but she truly can laugh about it now.
I know I would be really upset but in time hair grows back.Try not to make a huge fuss in front of your little girl as she will pick up that she looks wrong.If you don't show you're upset, she will soon accept it and forget about it.

ruthyjo

Smiley_Mum wrote:

It's lovely to see little girls with well kept, long hair. You like your kids to look nice and be well groomed etc, it's pride in their appearance. I'd have been absolutely gutted if someone had hacked my daughter's hair off too. Hopefully the hairdresser will be able to restore your daughters hair to a nice style, and her hair can grow back in time. As much as you must be angry and upset about what's happened, it's done and all you can do is rectify things as best you can. Talk to your daughter about what's happened and make sure she knows that if anyone (other than a hairdresser instructed by you) comes within a mile of her with scissors to run like the wind in the other direction.

The bigger girl told her they were playing makeovers and she had to have her hair cut or she couldn't play. I'm can't help asking why did you let her? but at four it's hard not to respond to that pressure from a bigger girl and I don't think DD really understood what the consequences would be - she does now of course.

Jay-Jay_4

Oh I would've felt ill too ruthyjo.

I cut my fringe when I was 4 too with the kitchen scissors out of my Nan's veg basket. I must admit that it didn't bother me at the time but the school photos are hilarious and my Parents still have them hanging on the wall

My eldest cut her fringe when she was four, it was about half an inch long :rolleyes: It had been down to her waist, I still have the hair in a bag, I was absolutely gutted.

Last week I noticed that she had shaved the bits in front of her ears .... she's seven and got grounded for a week for that one.

I'm sure that she'll look lovely when she's got a nice bob! I'm protective over my childrens hair and wish I could be brave enough to cut my youngest daughter's hair into a bob, I think they look lovely with shorter styles when they're little.

Don't let it upset you too much, I know how you're feeling but she'll look lovely after a trip to the hairdressers.

xxx

Smiley_Mum

ruthyjo wrote:

The bigger girl told her they were playing makeovers and she had to have her hair cut or she couldn't play. I'm can't help asking why did you let her? but at four it's hard not to respond to that pressure from a bigger girl and I don't think DD really understood what the consequences would be - she does now of course.

What a shame for your wee girl. I hope "Edwina Scissorhands" got seriously reprimanded for what she did.