Preschool Teacher shouting at her own child

sassygirl_2

Oh dear, looks like i must have gained the "worst mum" title for telling my kids to "shut up"!!

Quite often i find myself shouting Shut up at my 2 yr old after hearing him screm and whine for 10 hours constantly, then when he finally goes off to sleep my 2 girls bang around that loudly i have to tell them to shut up too for fear of little one waking up!


OP, i wouldnt be overly worried to be honest, People are different with their own children, to what they are like in a proffesional environment.
I know one of the teachers at DD's ex pre school, i know what shes like outside the school environment and shes far from perfect, but in her proffesional role she is 100% and couldnt hve asked for better for DD

ailuro2

Vicki - there are two types of opinions here - the ones who think it's ok to shout and use their voice as a tool to reprimand, and then the others who will save the shouting for emergencies when it can gain instant attention and don't feel it necessary to shout at their kids on a day to day basis.
I think what you're seeing is both sides on this thread.;)

It's easy to be judgemental about people who resort to shouting at their kids, the trouble is that's just the way they talk to each other, mostly it's just a habit they've got into, or they do that because it was done to them.

I'm of the firm belief that the louder you shout the less people will listen. The only time you'll hear me shout is to get everyone to the table for dinner.:)

In nursery the teachers will have to shout to get the kids attention, but there will always be someone else there to make sure no-one is telling your kid to "shut up shut up" so she'll have to be nicer at work than she is at home.

esmf73

Your own kids can always press your own buttons. Give her a break!!

Loulou2010

xxvickixx wrote: »

I just wanted to get an opinion on this really, I'm torn between what to do.
After visiting every feasible preschool in the area we found two that we thought would be suitable, one fully funded, the other £33 a session :eek:. We chose the funded one.
DS is due to start soon, for a trial next week in fact.
Today we went for a lunch in a local pub and the teacher from this preschool came in with her partner, another couple and their children.

We quietly observed and saw on three occasions the teacher standing over and shouting at her 2 year old. "Shut up, shut up, shut up", "Sit down" etc. From what we could make out the child wasn't misbehaving enough to warrent being shouted at.

It has really unsettled us, I was hoping that she would see us as we left so she was aware that we had seen it but she didn't.

I'm just thinking, if that was in public with her own child...

What do I do, find another pre school, report it, speak to her about it?

BTW my DS will be the one that will make them want to shout. He is being assessed at the moment with behavioural isues. So I am espeially concerned.

I'd really appreciate any thoughts even if it is that I'm overreacting!

i would query it with the manager/head teacher. what if it wasnt her own child? i'm if that was our child being shouted, then we would be the first to complain.

i wouldnt expect any member of staff to shout at my ds at nursery. having worked in a nursery myself, shouting is not considered acceptable unless a child is about to put themselves or someone else in danger.

even if it was her own child, then whilst at work she should remain professional. if she cant manage that then either herself or the child should be there. its not fair on the child to be treated differently in front of there peers.

ETA jsut realised the shouting didnt happening in the pre-school. i have to admit that would still put me off. however, if i viewed the pre-school and still felt uneasy then i wouldnt choose it. if i liked it, i would just casually talk to the manager about what you saw and hope she could assure you that its not like that at nursery. i think when chosing a nursery/ pre-school your gut instinct tells you a lot

sassyblue

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

With all due respect...your child is being assessed for behavioural problems so you're maybe not best placed to comment on that

!!!!!!??

I just love the parenting threads on here, out comes all the competitiveness and putting each other down.

OP loulou above has said it all l think, have a word with the head if you're worried but (l think) never judge another mum..... your own kids know how to press your buttons the poor mum was probably having a bad day, it happens.