Preschool Teacher shouting at her own child

Jakesmummy

*makes mental note to not tell my children to shut up*:rotfl:(in public at least lol)

seriously though its not as if she was smacking the child and swearing at him/her... now if she would have been letting the child run riot and get out of the seat and make a lot of noise, there would be people complaining that she cant control her child so she cant win really.

Plans_all_plans

Jakesmummy wrote: »

seriously though its not as if she was smacking the child

I smack my DD if I deem it necessary, but I would never EVER tell her to shut up!!

xxvickixx

Wow, I didn't expect such strongly negative reactions towards me, my son and my parenting.

The reason I asked on here instead of asking friends is because if I was overreacting I didn't want to be gossiping about her to people who may know her or the preschool. I understand I'm making a judgement on someone based on a few minutes and of course I don't know the build up, I'm just nervous about leaving my lovely boy with someone who I don't know yet.

I usually find this forum a great place to get friendly support and unbiased, unpredjudiced opinions and am quite disapointed at some comments.

And for the record, I would never tell anyone to shut up repeatedly. Sorry.

Jakesmummy

Well I occasionly may tell my child to shut up, there are times when they need to be quiet and if they catch me in a bad mood then yes i will say shut up, i dont mean any harm by it, whether i say shush, be quiet or shut up.. it all means the same thing!

I just think theres far worse things happening to children than being told to shut up!

fwiw vicky, i didnt think the comments about your child behaviour issues were called for either.

NickyBat

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

I smack my DD if I deem it necessary, but I would never EVER tell her to shut up!!

Ditto, i remember my son telling my mother in law not to tell him to shut up when he was about 6 because we have also brought him up not to say shut up, you would ask someone to be quiet.

ellies_angel

its perfectly natural to worry about who you are going to be leaving your son with when your away, he is the most precious gift you have.
I work in childcare, used to be a nursery, how work in an academy. my colleague was very stern, very strict, there were rules in the nursery (for the safety of all the children) and the children had to stick to them or their were consequences, come out of the sand if they were throwing it and sit quietly looking at a book or doing a puzzle. It sounds fierce, but it wasn't it was lots of fun and the children loved it, at home however she didn't practice what she preached. Her boys ran riot, wouldn't do what they were told, rude and cheeky.
The point I am making is that we can be very different at work to how we are in real life. I hope this will be the case, why not give it a try, its very hard, because no-one is going to parent like you, as a teacher there is many times where we hear things which we don't agree with but at the same time is it wrong, or is it just because we think its wrong.
I don't think its wrong for you to be concerned, but I don't know if you need to be concerned. Go with your gut feelings, give it a try, if he/you aren't happy you can always move him. You may find that shes a wonderful worker

GobbledyGook

I think it would be very harsh to judge the teacher on one outing. We have no idea what kind of day/week/month she was having, how her child has been behaving and what stresses she is having in her life.

I told my daughter to shut up yesterday twice. Not something I'm proud of, but she has/had been pushing my buttons almost continually since Monday. I snapped and told her to shut up. Not ideal, but as it is so very unusual that it had an immediate impact.

Unfortunately we are not all perfect parents and it's perfectly plausible that she was having an exceptionally bad day with her child and would never allow it to impact on her work life.

jamespir

whats it to do with you its her child shes not hurting it lots of people shout at their kids in public i think your being childish not to send your child to the school cause of this

milliebear00001

Another teacher who would like to reassure you that for many of us, the harridans we are at home with our nearest and dearest, in no way reflects upon our actions in the classroom when professionally dealing with other people's children.

I can shout and scream with the best of them at home, but rarely raise my voice at school!

jamespir

vixarooni wrote: »

Parenting is in a sad state of affairs. My mothers generation recieved the cane as punishment, now shouting is frowned upon. Can't wait to see what this generation will turn out like in 20 years time.

youll have people imprisoned for raising there voice to a child