Preschool Teacher shouting at her own child

zaksmum

I think the OP is over reacting here. Kids can drive you mad and anyone who says they never shouted at their own child is surely lying.

It's not as if the woman was beating the kid up, is it?

onlyroz

Well I shouted at my daughter today for repeatedly wriggling out of her car-seat straps. Who knows what this poor woman had to put up with today - I certainly wouldn't judge the entire preschool on an event like this. If you're concerned then go and have another look at the school before making your final decision.

Loopy_Girl

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

:eek:

If you think someone yelling, "Shut up!" at the child is going to 'sort him out' I think you're sadly mistaken.

And staff who 'go banshee at the children'? Seriously? Does this pass for acceptable to some people?

I didn't say that at all. Please don't put words in my mouth.

And as for banshee....it's a regional word...means losing the rag (temper) a bit.

Feel free to pick through any of my other posts though

Loopy_Girl

SugarSpun wrote: »

I shouted at my daughter this afternoon. If you weren't watching closely, you might have seen her cutely wander over to me and hand me a book. Warrants no shouting, right? I'm a monster, right?

The "book" was in fact the outside covers of a book that I'd placed on a shelf out of reach because it was of sentimental value. I don't know how she got hold of it, but she'd removed all the pages and torn them into pieces.

I love my daughter beyond reason and imagination, but I was already having a bad day and she did something rotten that made me angry.

It's horrible when something like that happens...poor you.

You don't know whether to cry or get angry

minimoneysaver

I couldn't agree more, I have so much more patience at work and I know for a fact the children always know what to expect from me in a professional manner.... on the other hand at home, all the emotions that have been bottled up can sometimes creep out. I am only human afterall. I would not like to think that parents judge my teaching and classroom behaviour and behaviour management on the way that I am with my own daughter as it is a completely different situation.

ailuro2

I would send him and see how it goes, tbh, maybe you caught her on a really bad day and she was at the end of her tether - she might have been cooped up all week with her kids because of the snow, lots of people have been the same this week - I know my nephew has been playing up this week because he's been missing his wee pals at nursery.

I would never shout "shut up shut up" at my DD, (she's 12 now, btw) we used to remove her from the situation if she started to play up - I distinctly remember walking out of a Brewer's Fayre before we'd even ordered because she was throwing a strop - she was about 3 or 4 iirc. she soon learned bad behaviour wouldn't be rewarded.

Other Mums tell me they have some right good shouting matches with their girls these days, no surprise we haven't got to that stage yet - because she was taught from an early age that shouting and stropping would not work - if she did it, or if I did;)

Tough call for you!

Lance

xxvickixx wrote: »

We quietly observed and saw on three occasions the teacher standing over and shouting at her 2 year old. "Shut up, shut up, shut up", "Sit down" etc. From what we could make out the child wasn't misbehaving enough to warrent being shouted at.

It has really unsettled us, I was hoping that she would see us as we left so she was aware that we had seen it but she didn't.

I'm just thinking, if that was in public with her own child...

What do I do, find another pre school, report it, speak to her about it?

BTW my DS will be the one that will make them want to shout. He is being assessed at the moment with behavioural isues. So I am espeially concerned. QUOTE]

Report it to who? The Police, Social Services, CIA, her school? Maybe she just wants to stop her child developing 'behavioural issues' and going to the Social Services to sort those issues out. They are starting afterhours sessions now where they can attend your home and put your child to bed for you if it refuses.

As for being really unsettled perhaps you can all go to counciling and one day hopefully manage to get over it. I think you should find a new school and report her to everybody and speak to her about it. You could show her how you discipline your child and she can take notes and be a better mother, with the Social Workers help obviously.

sinope

I think that would make me wary too. It's not the shouting per se (we've all done that!), but the language. Saying "shut up" to a 2 year old is not ok in my book.

Plans_all_plans

Exactly, it's not that she lost her temper that would worry me, it's saying 'shut up' that is unacceptable to me. I wouldn't report her, but I wouldn't put my DD in her pre-school.

vixarooni

Parenting is in a sad state of affairs. My mothers generation recieved the cane as punishment, now shouting is frowned upon. Can't wait to see what this generation will turn out like in 20 years time.