Preschool Teacher shouting at her own child

xxvickixx

I just wanted to get an opinion on this really, I'm torn between what to do.
After visiting every feasible preschool in the area we found two that we thought would be suitable, one fully funded, the other £33 a session :eek:. We chose the funded one.
DS is due to start soon, for a trial next week in fact.
Today we went for a lunch in a local pub and the teacher from this preschool came in with her partner, another couple and their children.

We quietly observed and saw on three occasions the teacher standing over and shouting at her 2 year old. "Shut up, shut up, shut up", "Sit down" etc. From what we could make out the child wasn't misbehaving enough to warrent being shouted at.

It has really unsettled us, I was hoping that she would see us as we left so she was aware that we had seen it but she didn't.

I'm just thinking, if that was in public with her own child...

What do I do, find another pre school, report it, speak to her about it?

BTW my DS will be the one that will make them want to shout. He is being assessed at the moment with behavioural isues. So I am espeially concerned.

I'd really appreciate any thoughts even if it is that I'm overreacting!

twinklie

I think you are defo right to be concerned. But as a teacher myself (without my own children I might add), I find I have much more patience for the kids there than I do the ones in my family. I get annoyed much quicker with the family because I feel they should know better, not to mention I can't get rid of them after an hour.

zootie

Another teacher here who has far more patience with the children i taught than my own. (hense why i no longer teach, but concentrate on saving my patience for my own boys!)

lauren_1

I think everyone has about 100 times more patience for other children than they do for their own kids.

She's only human after all.

coco1980

I dont think you should report her, im sure theres many parents out there that have shouted at their children at some point.

Counting_Pennies_2

Goodness, can no one tell their child off in public without being scrutinised.

When I have been pushed to the absolute limit or up all night with one of my children I will be fairly short on patience.

Tell yourself you have never been cross with your child while you have been out. Tell yourself you will never ever be cross with your child.

If you can promise yourself that, then perhaps look at another establishment, but in all honesty I would think poor woman, perhaps she is stretched too far at the moment.

Given organising Christmas Fun Days, Christmas Plays for the preschool, perhaps an Ofsted Meeting to boot. Perhaps throw in a sleepless night, Christmas presents to buy for, a row with the husband, a child who has misbehaved and perhaps you might too find you snap at what might appear a small misdemeaner.

ellay864

When mine were smaller and I was in touch with the mums from the antenatal classes we used to babysit or occasionally mind each others babies/toddlers as favours. I'm sure I'd have been dropped if they'd have seen me at times on my own with my own sons :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Loopy_Girl

Christ on a bike...can the woman not go out for Sunday luch without some nosey parent wanting to report them?

Never shouted at your kid have we?

She's a teacher, not a saint, and has different rules for her own kids. And as for you not thinking he deserved the telling off - not really your call is it? She clearly has different parenting techniques to you and it's not your call to look down your nose at her.

Maybe she is quite strict - could work in your favour though and sort some of your childs issues out.

Of course if you are still not happy then you don't have to take the funded place....tho I bet the teachers at the £33 a day place go banshee at their kids sometimes!

Loopy_Girl

xxvickixx wrote: »

From what we could make out the child wasn't misbehaving enough to warrent being shouted at.

With all due respect...your child is being assessed for behavioural problems so you're maybe not best placed to comment on that

Gingham_Ribbon

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Maybe she is quite strict - could work in your favour though and sort some of your childs issues out...
With all due respect...your child is being assessed for behavioural problems so you're maybe not best placed to comment on that

:eek:

If you think someone yelling, "Shut up!" at the child is going to 'sort him out' I think you're sadly mistaken.

And staff who 'go banshee at the children'? Seriously? Does this pass for acceptable to some people?

SugarSpun

I shouted at my daughter this afternoon. If you weren't watching closely, you might have seen her cutely wander over to me and hand me a book. Warrants no shouting, right? I'm a monster, right?

The "book" was in fact the outside covers of a book that I'd placed on a shelf out of reach because it was of sentimental value. I don't know how she got hold of it, but she'd removed all the pages and torn them into pieces.

I love my daughter beyond reason and imagination, but I was already having a bad day and she did something rotten that made me angry. It happens to all parents once in a while and I'm sure she, like me, feels bad about losing control and shouting. If you're concerned about it, send your child somewhere else and hope that the new place is staffed entirely by saints.