Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

fc123

PasturesNew wrote: »

Trying to work that one out. Posted on the benefits board as a nurse asked about one's carer (assuming they must have one). AA is for care needs though... so not sure that's appropriate. Nurse is sending some forms. I've been advised to speak to the Pensions Dept, who will send somebody out.

Today's not too good.... bathroom off limits (we only have one as well) because the patient is exceedingly ill and moaning/groaning in great pain and hobbling to the loo constantly.


There's a whole raft of disabilities, infirmities and lunacy going on in this house - and everybody just muddles through. As it's not my house I am 'not allowed' to fiddle/interfere with things (aka cleaning)... and one's got an OCD of keeping things/never throwing anything out. So we've piles of tat just piled up gathering dust and being in the way. You're not allowed a clean/clear surface - everywhere has to be covered in things. Things that aren't used either. Drives me nuts. So I am mostly a hermit 23 hours/day.

I've not let them become dependent upon me, as I need to leave. I just make sure things are bobbing along. There's food, it's safe/fresh. Floors are cleaned when I can get an hour of them not being around. I do all the washing up. And generally titfer about here and there, unnoticed.

One swims and showers there; the other just washes with hot water in a sink with a flannel.

Sorry to read the above. I was wondering about 'indoors' for you the other day......must be really hard. Has there been anything more said or is it all left 'unsaid' if you know what I mean?

There must be some help out there for you, maybe someone to pop in and help or just give you some emotional support. I am not up on anything like this as have no direct experience but could these people offer support in anyway? LINK

Doozergirl wrote: »

It's bizarre that you're talking about education paths. I went to a school with the same class structure as NDG. In fact, I nearly went to NDGs school we discovered (would have been a year apart!). My mum got very ill though and everything went wrong. School didn't know how to handle me, I dropped out, missed an entire year and joined the local comprehensive for the 5th year. Did absolutely fine in my exams (thank heavens for the previous school in some respects) but there was no 6th form (would have loved to have stayed there) and I drifted to work. It didn't do me any harm, I was earning well and progressing until we moved away and started out alone.

Yesterday I went to an Open Day at university, had a nice chat with the tutors and today I've started cobbling together a personal statement for my UCAS application.

I'm absolutely bricking it. I'd qualify when I'm 40 but I think I need to set me and the kids something to aim for.

Doozergirl wrote: »

Architecture

I fell like getting myself through this application process will be as much an achievement as finishing the course right now. I am seriously petrified.

wow..good luck with the course. Sounds like the perfect subject too.



and to Sue......don't fret about the kids associations at this point as it's really good for them to experience all types/lifestyles.

Inappropriate GF/BF''s.....you have to have those to know the right one when it comes along.

fc123

lostinrates wrote: »

just spoken to dog-dog's surgeon. I feel all wobbly. She's going in tomorrow morning (very good) but surgeon kept referring to her as a he. Now, dog-dog doesn't mind you lot calling her ''him'' but you'd hope a vet would know! Still, its not her sex thats being operated on so...(dh is very upset he can't stay here to be here when she comes home sometimes working from away does suck.)

Good luck with Dog Dogs op.......I thought it was her real name too. Love the name dog dog.

silvercar

Doozer, are you planning on starting sept 11 or sept 12? Won't you be hit by the higher tuition fees?

Sounds very exciting. I guess you are more limited by location than your average student.

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

I really wish I had a rice cooker

I don't understand why? I know next to nothing about how to cook, but even I can do rice:

Rinse it lots of time
3 cups water to one of rice (or is that 2? oh well, check the side of the packet)
Boil it
Let it simmer until the water's all been absorbed

What does a rice cooker do?

silvercar

GDB2222 wrote: »

I don't understand why? I know next to nothing about how to cook, but even I can do rice:

Rinse it lots of time
3 cups water to one of rice (or is that 2? oh well, check the side of the packet)
Boil it
Let it simmer until the water's all been absorbed

What does a rice cooker do?

Im sure PN has written an article on one.

As I understand it, you put the rice and water in the cooker and it does the rest. So you can't overcook, once the rice is cooked it just keeps it warm until needed.

michaels

I cook rice in loads of water then strain and rinse with more boiling water from the kettle when it is cooked - any one else do it this way?

PasturesNew

fc123 wrote: »

Sorry to read the above. I was wondering about 'indoors' for you the other day......must be really hard. Has there been anything more said or is it all left 'unsaid' if you know what I mean?

There must be some help out there for you, maybe someone to pop in and help or just give you some emotional support. I am not up on anything like this as have no direct experience but could these people offer support in anyway? LINK

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Nothing more's been said. He just sits and looks more forlorn and sunken and weak each day. Cheeks have hollowed now.

Today I've been worried and trying to get the other half of the pair to check he's OK, "have you offered him a drink?" "have you offered him food?" ... but the other one's gone into selfish mode and says "He comes down, he can get stuff, or ask us".

Had to teach her how to operate the TV today, he always does it (his TV, his remote, his choice). Now she's decided she doesn't want to sleep in the same room as him moaning.... so I made up the spare bedroom and got told off - she says she'll kip on the sofa.

Popped down and she's sitting flicking round the channels. And he's not dead as the bathroom's in use again

I'm all lost and no idea what to say/do. It's still the big "can't ask/won't get an answer" going on.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

Im sure PN has written an article on one.

No... but it's a good idea. I think kitchen gadgetry's a hot niche

PasturesNew

OK... I've got one burping, moaning in pain and pooing. And another deep burping and constantly rustling a colostomy bag (they're like noisy crisp packets hidden under your jumper).

Deep joy.

I'm keeping hidden away ...

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

Nothing more's been said. He just sits and looks more forlorn and sunken and weak each day. Cheeks have hollowed now.

Today I've been worried and trying to get the other half of the pair to check he's OK, "have you offered him a drink?" "have you offered him food?" ... but the other one's gone into selfish mode and says "He comes down, he can get stuff, or ask us".

Had to teach her how to operate the TV today, he always does it (his TV, his remote, his choice). Now she's decided she doesn't want to sleep in the same room as him moaning.... so I made up the spare bedroom and got told off - she says she'll kip on the sofa.

Popped down and she's sitting flicking round the channels. And he's not dead as the bathroom's in use again

I'm all lost and no idea what to say/do. It's still the big "can't ask/won't get an answer" going on.

Sounds absolutely grim for all concerned. So sorry to hear how it's going. Hope we nice peeps can at least be a bit of contact with some normality for you.