Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

SingleSue

I once had someone go up the back of my car in Dorset......we had stopped for a right turn and was waiting for the traffic to clear, indicators on etc and had been stopped for a good 30 seconds or so, when all of a sudden, bang!

The bloke had been looking down and over talking to his dog rather than looking at the road.......

PasturesNew

SingleSue wrote: »

Being autistic, he took it to the nth degree and spent hours and hours doing that homework (approx 7 hours)

The problem is that instructions don't give us limits. Without being told the framework, we've no way to know when to stop.

Take a simple homework of "Plan a 3-course Dinner Party". And an aspie tries to ask the limits of that - and we're 'dismissed' with more limitless comments like "Just a 3-course dinner party, that's all", "Think about planning a dinner party" - so no more meat on the bones - and we've "Just Asked" two more times and been ignored/dismissed.

So off we go.... plan a 3-course dinner party... what does that mean? Where do you stop. So the others are poring over recipe books to find a combination of starter/main/dessert ... and we're looking at all the nutritional values, doing the maths, ensuring it meets all nutritional needs; then we look at costs and ensure it's affordable; then we look at the table and into our "Plan a 3-course Dinner Party" we've now got to look at knives/forks, tablecloths, table size. And think about how many placemats we need for dishes - and what dishes it should be served in. Then it's onto table decorations.

We'd write out and cost the full ingredients, the cost of the full shopping basket and the cost of ingredients used. We'd calculate the cost of the electricity/gas to cook it.

We'd have a complete breakdown of timings too - and create the timings list for when things had to be started, so we'd know at what time the dinner party courses would be served. We'd also estimate eating time, so we could calculate if it'd end "too late". Then adjust timings and preparation plan so it took up the least amount of time, started at a reasonable time and ended at a reasonable time.

There'd also be some contingency dinners in case a veggie turned up or in case something didn't cook right, or somebody hated something and we needed to whip up an alternative.

And our homework would be a bound volume, complete with photographs and web links, planning the entire 3-course dinner party.... because nobody told us when to stop!!

If you don't know when to stop, you have to cover everything in case that is what was expected.

PasturesNew

SingleSue wrote: »

I once had someone go up the back of my car in Dorset......we had stopped for a right turn and was waiting for the traffic to clear, indicators on etc and had been stopped for a good 30 seconds or so, when all of a sudden, bang!

The bloke had been looking down and over talking to his dog rather than looking at the road.......

A woman ran into the back of my dad once, writing his car off, as she was turning ROUND to talk to her kids in the back!!

If I'm driving, I never turn to talk to people in the car. You talk and keep looking where you're going.

LydiaJ

michaels wrote: »

I agree with you and viva. Problem is I want a bath, dw wants a shower and the bigger we make the bathroom the smaller the bedroom gets. Although we have no plans to sell, having a bathroom that looks posh definitely adds value and a shower over the bath definitely just does not look posh.

It's good to think about the resale, but your first priority has to be to make something that will work for you when you use it, otherwise it will annoy you for years to come - and anyone who buys it from you too. I'm sure there will be some way to fit it all in, but you'll need to be really sure you've got the best possible layout before you build it - which is why it's wise of you to be thinking about it a long way in advance.

People on here have got ideas and will come up with more if you give us more info. What's fixed? Does the door have to be in that position, for example, or could we come up with plans where it's in a different part of that wall? What's that gap in the right hand wall? Is it a window? If so, at what height? How long and wide is the bath?

Can you try mocking up your plans? Get a box or something that's about the same size as the loo, put it in front of a wall at the same distance as you envisage having the real loo in front of the shower screen, and then sit on it. Likewise, when you go to bathroom showrooms or B&Q or whatever, try standing in the showers and doing the things one does in a shower - put arms up to wash hair, bend down to wash feet etc. See if there's space, and then measure how wide the shower is. There's no substitute for being really in a space of the right size for working out how it will feel.

lostinrates wrote: »

Michaels, what about a corner loo?

.....what about losing the full glass screen for a half tilled one and having another half wall to play with...turning the loo as someone...GDB? suggested with no need to see it through the glass from the shower?

Not having enough room by the loo is not ''posh'' either!

Changing the orientation of the loo is a great idea, if it will work with the window or whatever that gap in the wall is. I like the idea of a corner loo. I lived in a house once where the space around the loo meant that one tended to sit on it diagonally anyway, and a corner one would have been much better.

Davesnave wrote: »

Just a word of caution about car shunts. You may be hassled, especially if you seek on-line quotes for insurance thereafter.

We still have companies phoning and texting us, asking if they can pursue our 'claim' two full years after the blonde bimbo texter ran into our car and wrote it off. The last one was a text on Wednesday saying 'Our investigations show you could be entitled to £3750 for your claim.'

Our claim was settled by our insurers at the time, so I imagine these are all ambulance chasing outfits, or similar, hoping to make a few bob on some 'injury' we suddenly remember having. Whatever the moral aspect, these people are slimy creatures who just put up the cost of insurance for everyone. :mad:

Thanks. I get texts like that already. I've never known whether they're just general spam, or connected with the claim I've got in the pipeline for "the" accident. I ignore them. If I wanted to pursue a claim for compensation I wouldn't use a company who sends unsolicited texts. Not that I'm likely to want to claim for DD's whiplash - it seems that if I can just persuade her to calm down and be sensible with it, it should get better just fine. She is not impressed with the idea of not being allowed to hang upside down on climbing frames for a whole week, though.

Davesnave wrote: »

Personally, I feel no ill will towards Miss Brecon Beacons. Being two years older, she may have now have concluded that texting and driving aren't things that go together very nicely, especially as her Mam hinted that we weren't the first people she'd hit!

I don't feel any ill will against the other drivers either. The one yesterday morning was a youngish lad who clearly felt awful about it, and I felt sorry for him. I didn't see the car coming up the hill until the last minute and braked suddenly. Yes, the bloke behind me should have been able to stop in time despite the suddenness of my braking, but it's the sort of mistake that might happen to any of us.

As for the other driver in late-nearly-ex's accident, I feel sorry for her too. She had extensive injuries, and there may have been factors outside her control contributing to the accident - which I probably shouldn't be discussing on a public forum, I'm afraid. Part of me's uncomfortable with claiming compensation because that money has to come from somewhere. All the same, I've accepted the services of the PI solicitor provided by late-nearly-ex's insurers. My kids are entitled to something for loss of parent, and loss of maintenance etc, and I feel I'd be letting them down if I didn't pursue that for them.

SingleSue

PasturesNew wrote: »

The problem is that instructions don't give us limits. Without being told the framework, we've no way to know when to stop.

Take a simple homework of "Plan a 3-course Dinner Party". And an aspie tries to ask the limits of that - and we're 'dismissed' with more limitless comments like "Just a 3-course dinner party, that's all", "Think about planning a dinner party" - so no more meat on the bones - and we've "Just Asked" two more times and been ignored/dismissed.

So off we go.... plan a 3-course dinner party... what does that mean? Where do you stop. So the others are poring over recipe books to find a combination of starter/main/dessert ... and we're looking at all the nutritional values, doing the maths, ensuring it meets all nutritional needs; then we look at costs and ensure it's affordable; then we look at the table and into our "Plan a 3-course Dinner Party" we've now got to look at knives/forks, tablecloths, table size. And think about how many placemats we need for dishes - and what dishes it should be served in. Then it's onto table decorations.

We'd write out and cost the full ingredients, the cost of the full shopping basket and the cost of ingredients used. We'd calculate the cost of the electricity/gas to cook it.

We'd have a complete breakdown of timings too - and create the timings list for when things had to be started, so we'd know at what time the dinner party courses would be served. We'd also estimate eating time, so we could calculate if it'd end "too late". Then adjust timings and preparation plan so it took up the least amount of time, started at a reasonable time and ended at a reasonable time.

There'd also be some contingency dinners in case a veggie turned up or in case something didn't cook right, or somebody hated something and we needed to whip up an alternative.

And our homework would be a bound volume, complete with photographs and web links, planning the entire 3-course dinner party.... because nobody told us when to stop!!

If you don't know when to stop, you have to cover everything in case that is what was expected.

Hehe and that is youngest to a T, especially if it is something that really takes his fancy. His teachers just cannot understand why some homeworks he will really take it to the extreme, yet in others, that really is not apparent. What they don't get is the way they instruct to do the various homeworks, answering maths questions is one thing, being asked to do research on young meerkats is quite another....there are no clear instructions on exactly where to stop with the meerkat homework.

And yes, the Meerkat homework was another one taken to the nth degree with chapter and verse from how a meerkat comes into being to what they eat...when all that was being looked for was a picture of a young meerkat.

silvercar

Bathrooms: We've got the bath along a long wall with the toilet next to it. Between the two is a dinky half height wall with a S shape profile that provide shelving for bits near the bath and an alcove for toilet brush and spare loo roll on the toilet side.

On the opposite wall is the shower (directly opposite the toilet) and the sink (opposite the bath) and the door.

*electrical safety conscious people look away now* The advantage of having the door opening on the sink side is that you can plug hair dryers/ straighteners/ outside the bathroom and the lead will be long enough that you can use them in the bathroom in front of the mirror above the sink.

GDB2222

michaels wrote: »

I agree with you and viva. Problem is I want a bath, dw wants a shower and the bigger we make the bathroom the smaller the bedroom gets. Although we have no plans to sell, having a bathroom that looks posh definitely adds value and a shower over the bath definitely just does not look posh.

I don't want to corrupt the morals of the young people here, but a double-ended bath is great fun.

Davesnave

LydiaJ wrote: »

Part of me's uncomfortable with claiming compensation because that money has to come from somewhere. All the same, I've accepted the services of the PI solicitor provided by late-nearly-ex's insurers. My kids are entitled to something for loss of parent, and loss of maintenance etc, and I feel I'd be letting them down if I didn't pursue that for them.

That's in a different league from deciding that an accident was responsible for an injury one has only just 'discovered.'

PasturesNew

Maybe the problem with the en-suite isn't your wishes and what you're trying to fit into it .... sounds like you need a BIGGER EXTENSION

Then you could have two en-suites, a his n hers. Much posher.



If you want posh, then an en-suite needs to be a minimum of 10'x12' and be approached through the extensive dressing room.

Bigger extension.... you know it makes sense.

LydiaJ

GDB2222 wrote: »

I don't want to corrupt the morals of the young people here, but a double-ended bath is great fun.

Absolutely. So is a large walk-in shower.