Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

John_Pierpoint

Why does almost every interviewer these days trot out the standard next question:
"............and how did that make you feel?"

[Thinks ..... I cannot remember - probably wanted to kick them in the goolies at the time, but thought better of it]

[Replies]......"Well you know its just one of the frustrations of modern life isn't it ---- One of those things sent to try us ha ha...."

In the programme it was quite amusing when they explained that back in Victorian times males were not thought to be more than strong silent types if they concentrated on their hobby (obsession) and did not feel the need to be social and make small talk - they certainly were not expected to be all touchy feely..

John_Pierpoint

Doozergirl wrote: »

Anyone know anything about wine? I have 18 bottles of very nice, boxed wine worth £15 a bottle. 12 bottles of Marlborough Sauvignon fancy but drink it, and 6 bottles of a Malbec type which is a drink now/keep with really gorgeous bottles wrapped in paper in a lovely wooden box. I want to sell them but I don't know how to. Can I sell it at all or do I just bed down now and start drinking it?

I've got a wedding to go to, I guess I could re-gift it? (:o but it's worth more than I planned to spend). I want the wooden box but it makes the wine look proper posh.

Are the boxes strong enough to use for bringing in the logs to put next to the log burner? Could you fit the boxes with rope handles?
(That way you would get a double dose of showing off your "master of wine" qualifications)

6 - 12 bottles of wine in a wooden box are a bit heavy on the transport costs if you try to sell them - perhaps the local independent wine merchant would do a two for one barter deal for some of his standard mass produced stock?

Are the bottles packed in wood wool (long shavings). I once had a job to deliver a tall thin pallet wrapped in black plastic to an address that turned out to be Sloane Square (as in "Sloane ranger"). Had to do an emergency stop. A chunk of wood broke off the bottom of the pallet and it toppled over. It turned out that it had been wrapped in black plastic because the goods were a stack of wine in wooden boxes.
I was most impressed not one was broken. Phew.

[The recipient was in the midst of preparing some sort of reception and gave me a tip for helping him unpack them - he made some feeble excuse about the state of his back so I nodded sympathetically.]

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Re the programme.... I know how it feels
It feels awful - and most things make me angry. Nobody listens to me when I am asking for/about things; nobody listens when I try to explain things; nobody listens when I try to explain that I need more information, or that their 'solution' won't work "because".

We listen Pastures and never underestimate how valued you are here. We always listen to you and although I can't give you examples for all of what you've said above, when you explained what the dragon was doing wrong in lir's case with the French kids, that made great sense to me. Your solution in terms of how to run it properly also made more sense, both in terms of the experience for the kids and for the expectations of the host families.

The fact that our suggested solutions don't work for you "because" is a learning experience for us as much as it is for you. Perhaps our thinking style is more lateral, but only you know what works for you so although we suggest these things we don't mind if they aren't right for you and you have to do something else instead. That process of communication is a two way street and people have to learn to communicate with you better every much as you feel under pressure to communicate with them.

I can't speak for anyone else and I know Sue's situation is different, but you've really made me think about Aspergers and what it means to be an Aspie. What you've said on here has helped me deal better with Aspies in the library as I now know I need to speak to them more literally and without grey areas and personally I can't thank you enough for that.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

The parents know what they'll be doing when they sign them up. They know they'll be on a coach. My lot did trips of 20-35 miles each day. .

Here, on the first day they did their home to paris, then paris to London to london, then (in the evening) london to here 90/100 miles?

Then yesterday the plans changed and they only went fifteen miles from here. Today its 100 miles each way, tomorrow (last day) their destination is also a hundred miles from here, then they get back on the coach and go home!

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

We listen Pastures and never underestimate how valued you are here. We always listen to you and although I can't give you examples for all of what you've said above, when you explained what the dragon was doing wrong in lir's case with the French kids, that made great sense to me. Your solution in terms of how to run it properly also made more sense, both in terms of the experience for the kids and for the expectations of the host families.

The fact that our suggested solutions don't work for you "because" is a learning experience for us as much as it is for you. Perhaps our thinking style is more lateral, but only you know what works for you so although we suggest these things we don't mind if they aren't right for you and you have to do something else instead. That process of communication is a two way street and people have to learn to communicate with you better every much as you feel under pressure to communicate with them.

I can't speak for anyone else and I know Sue's situation is different, but you've really made me think about Aspergers and what it means to be an Aspie. What you've said on here has helped me deal better with Aspies in the library as I now know I need to speak to them more literally and without grey areas and personally I can't thank you enough for that.

Seconded.

PN, you are really at the core of the ''coven'' we have formed on here. I really love our ''posse'' because the knowledge pool is broad, the characters are bold and supportive. I struggle to truley ''get'' an autistic way of experience I think, but I followed the link to a ''test'' you put up and was interested to see I answered lots of the ''right''answers for being autistic. (after a lot of angst and confusion about the yes/no answers both being inaccurate;)). I learn from trying to picture how the world is for you but what I'm learning is that its not as black and white or yes and no as it is suggested autism is.

GDB2222

Mother in Law, who has been with us for the last 10 days, is looking much chirpier (do I mean chirpier? She's not a budgie.), and talking about going home in a few days. The main concerns are:

She doesn't have much going on in her life at home, whereas there's always something going on in our chaotic household, even if MIL doesn't approve of it most of the time.

She might fall/ not take her meds/ not eat enough.

Several of you have been in the same boat, so is there anything I've missed?

lostinrates

GDB2222 wrote: »

Mother in Law, who has been with us for the last 10 days, is looking much chirpier (do I mean chirpier? She's not a budgie.), and talking about going home in a few days. The main concerns are:

She doesn't have much going on in her life at home, whereas there's always something going on in our chaotic household, even if MIL doesn't approve of it most of the time.

She might fall/ not take her meds/ not eat enough.

Several of you have been in the same boat, so is there anything I've missed?

How far away is home? Close enough to deliver meals for a freezer once a week and come over for a family meal occasionally?
How comfortable is home. The longer she is out of a routine that she will eventually return to the harder it might be to return to independence. Is she happy ATM? Is there a long term alternative...and would she want that?

its all so hard GDB, good luck.

silvercar

GDB2222 wrote: »

Mother in Law, who has been with us for the last 10 days, is looking much chirpier (do I mean chirpier? She's not a budgie.), and talking about going home in a few days. The main concerns are:

She doesn't have much going on in her life at home, whereas there's always something going on in our chaotic household, even if MIL doesn't approve of it most of the time.

She might fall/ not take her meds/ not eat enough.

Several of you have been in the same boat, so is there anything I've missed?

Good news all round.

She may actually enjoy some peace and quiet at home.

Will you be near enough to visit? Can you/she let her friends know she will be home soon.

Falling is a risk but you can now get alarms on a necklace where she can alert if she's fallen.

Also pill boxes marked with the days of the week etc. You can always phone to remind her to take her meds.

Meals on wheels?

michaels

Second hand but a colleague had his mother staying with them for several years as she gradually deteriorated with osteo making their life a misery, refusing to go to sheltered housing as she was always 'about to return home'. Eventually they lost patience, got her house slightly modified and took her home expecting that would make her realise she needed to be elsewhere but she has now been there a year and actually copes well so I guess, just like kids, sometimes it is possible to be over-protective?

GDB2222 wrote: »

Mother in Law, who has been with us for the last 10 days, is looking much chirpier (do I mean chirpier? She's not a budgie.), and talking about going home in a few days. The main concerns are:

She doesn't have much going on in her life at home, whereas there's always something going on in our chaotic household, even if MIL doesn't approve of it most of the time.

She might fall/ not take her meds/ not eat enough.

Several of you have been in the same boat, so is there anything I've missed?

michaels

Decided you were right, contacted the buyer offering 25, they said they realised it was probably short term but were still buying as it was black and very happy to have the reduction so now I am covered if it does fail in a few weeks so thanks.

Also ebayed a TV I bought from Tesco cos it was cheap and made a nice profit but now I am suffering from the tyranny of the courier company - pick up is some time between 8 and 5.30 - the 8 start means I can't even do it from work so I am sitting here all day waiting

GDB2222 wrote: »

Your buyer is going to be upset. The best bet is to contact him/her and say that you don't think it's worth over £25 (or £10?), and that's all you'll take.