Moral dilemma - Just don't know what to do

busiscoming2

moneypenny2k wrote: »

No, he's not had post coming here. I gather it goes to another friend's place.

I am going to talk to him this week and tell him he's got till the end of January to move out - that way he has plenty of time to sort something out and I'll feel less guilty. I hope

Thanks for the support everyone.

Come back and let us know how you get on.

pimento

moneypenny2k wrote: »

No, his only other contribution is that he's been doing some of the housework and paying for the meals he cooks when it's his turn.

So you're feeding him too?

Why would he ever move?

moneypenny2k

Hi all

Thanks for the great ideas and comments. A family crisis dragged me away yesterday. However, I'm going to sit him down later in the week and tell him he has until January to find somewhere else. I've done my bit.

It really helped to hear that I'm not being cruel or unfair by telling him enough is enough. Thanks to everyone who has contributed.:beer:

wotsthat

Do I ask him for more towards the cost of providing roof over his head?

It's not a moral dilemma - do you think he should be paying a bigger contribution? If so ask him.

Do I ask him to find somewhere else to live?

Reading between the lines it sounds as if you just want your life back irrespective of the finances. No need to feel guilty - you've helped a friend in need and want him to move on.

pinkshoes

I'd just be 100% honest with him, and tell him as much as you enjoy his company, you really miss your own space, and as it was only meant to be a temporary thing, would it be OK if he started looking for his own place, as you'd like to live on your own again.

Honesty is (nearly) always the best policy.

Mojisola

pinkshoes wrote: »

I'd just be 100% honest with him, and tell him as much as you enjoy his company, you really miss your own space, and as it was only meant to be a temporary thing, would it be OK if he started looking for his own place, as you'd like to live on your own again.

Honesty is (nearly) always the best policy.

Good advice, but I think you have to be firmer than asking him if it's OK. You do need to give him a reasonable deadline and make it clear that staying with you isn't an option.