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Divorce Help
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Thanks for this, Im just struggling at the moment, I think I know who he is sleeping with too, I have taken a big step today....I know not much to some people but big for me....I have deleted him and blocked him on facebook (sad i know)
He wants to buy me out of the house and I am not being greedy with the amount I am asking for that is genuinely how much I need to pay off some of my outstanding debts in order to afford rent etc. I took a low paying job as he advised he would take care of me and I just wanted to get a job to help out and now it is working against me.
Im just so tired of having bad days I have more good days than bad but im so fed up of crying and sending him angry messages0 -
desperatelyinneedofadvice wrote: »Thanks for this, Im just struggling at the moment, I think I know who he is sleeping with too, I have taken a big step today....I know not much to some people but big for me....I have deleted him and blocked him on facebook (sad i know)
He wants to buy me out of the house and I am not being greedy with the amount I am asking for that is genuinely how much I need to pay off some of my outstanding debts in order to afford rent etc. I took a low paying job as he advised he would take care of me and I just wanted to get a job to help out and now it is working against me.
Im just so tired of having bad days I have more good days than bad but im so fed up of crying and sending him angry messages
Forget about being greedy or not, just think about what is fair for you. As someone else suggested, get some agents round and get a proper valuation for the house. You shouldn't settle for less than you are owed. I know you are emotionally fragile at the moment and you probably don't want the hassle, but you have to think about your future, and that's not just paying your debts.
If you have nowhere to stay, you have to stay in the house. Take your time. Don't make decisions in a rush and don't feel pressured by him. If indeed there is another woman, believe me he won't care about you at all, whatever he says to you, so be careful.
It might be a good idea to limit contact with him at the moment. Deleting and blocking him from fb was a good first step. You don't have to take his phone calls or read/ reply to his text messages.LBM: August 2006 £12,568.49 - DFD 22nd March 2012
"The road to DF is long and bumpy" GreenSaints0 -
desperatelyinneedofadvice wrote: »Thanks for this, Im just struggling at the moment, I think I know who he is sleeping with too, I have taken a big step today....I know not much to some people but big for me....I have deleted him and blocked him on facebook (sad i know)
He wants to buy me out of the house and I am not being greedy with the amount I am asking for that is genuinely how much I need to pay off some of my outstanding debts in order to afford rent etc. I took a low paying job as he advised he would take care of me and I just wanted to get a job to help out and now it is working against me.
Im just so tired of having bad days I have more good days than bad but im so fed up of crying and sending him angry messages
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Unfortunately I am too impulsive and if he texts me I cant not read it or reply. Im working on this but to little or no effect. I have also blocked him from emailing me.
I genuinely dont think there is enough equity in the house but as he wants to buy me out I think 10k is reasonable especially considering how much i put into the house. He thinks there is only about 5k equity but if he buys me out he will keep the house till the market improves.
At the moment I just want out, I moved out of the city for him and away from my family and friends and now I wanna be closer to them again so I just want this sorted as soon as possible and rid of him out of my life.
My radiotherapy has finished but I have started hormonal therapy now but i believe my husband has cited in the divorce proceedings that I lied about the cancer and that is part of his basis for unreasonable behaviour.
To be honest if he gives me the money Ill sign anything and just get rid of him, thats the main thing I want now and to just be able to focus on myself and starting my new life0 -
desperatelyinneedofadvice wrote: »At the moment I just want out, I moved out of the city for him and away from my family and friends and now I wanna be closer to them again so I just want this sorted as soon as possible and rid of him out of my life.
My radiotherapy has finished but I have started hormonal therapy now but i believe my husband has cited in the divorce proceedings that I lied about the cancer and that is part of his basis for unreasonable behaviour.
Would you be wise to move from the area where you are having your treatment for breast cancer - after all, you will be on the hormonal therapy for the next five years.0 -
Im not moving that far away, Its actually probably going to work out better coz I will be closer and would mean less miles to go where Im going so I should be ok. Where I am now just has too many memories that arent helping me at all.0
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Maybe i am missing something but you have equatity of only £5k and think he should buy you out with £10k.
Why? my maths makes it you entitled to £2.5k0 -
Maybe i am missing something but you have equatity of only £5k and think he should buy you out with £10k.
Why? my maths makes it you entitled to £2.5k
We think there is 5k equity in there. this amount is what I would require in order to move out of the house and move somewhere else as I have substantial debts and a very low income. He is not planning on selling the house straight away which is why he wants to buy me out0
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