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Divorce Help
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I think you need to plan for the worst. So have a look at the Courts website and see if there is anything there that you want clarified.
http://www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk/infoabout/divorce/index.htm
Make notes to take in with you - when you are stressed it is amazing how much you can forget.
Most of the procedure of the divorce, if you do not contest it, need not concern you. It is up to your husband to take all the initiative.
The biggest thing I would concentrate on is the financial side. I would suggest that you familiarise yourself with the various bits on the website, then spend 20 of the 30 minutes looking at the options for finance.
For the financial side you need to be clear on assets of the partnership - your savings and his savings, whether any of your debt was accrued for his benefit, whether you are both on the mortgage, length of marriage, both of your pensions etc. If you have all that information to hand it will make it easier for the solicitor to help you.
I would then suggest that, to put your own mind at rest, that you ask the solicitor to spend the last ten minutes discussing whether you can contest the divorce, and what options there are. Also how much it would cost.
I really hope that all works out for you.Ankh Morpork Sunshine Sanctuary for Sick Dragons - don't let my flame go out!0 -
When you go to see the solicitor ask them to explain how it works - that's what they're there for.
I believe (although not 100% certain) that he has to prove your unreasonable behaviour if you disagree to get divorced within the first two years. So that wouldn't actually cost you.
I don't know your whole story - my ex wanted a divorce from me and we were divorced on 'desertion' by him. Which in our case was absolutely spot on lol!Forever I will sail towards the horizon with you0 -
Jewel - I agree, solicitors should explain stuff. Often they can clarify something when you are so stressed and uptight that you can't see the woods for the trees. My suggestions were because 30 minutes do not last long, although you can try other solicitors for the free 30 minutes, so the OP can get further guidance.
Many, many years ago I worked for the courts and as part of that I issued divorce petitions. Yes, unreasonable behaviour would have to be proved if contested by the OP. The trouble is that it will rack up expenses - I would think a solicitor would be necessary in this case. And I would not like to take the risk that a judge would say that not telling a spouse about a potentially life threatening situation and an operation is unreasonable. If adultery, unreasonable behaviour or desertion cannot be proved and there is no agreement then the wait is five years.
Sorry OP, the solicitor(s) may be able to sort something out. I am hoping I have missed something, or there may be changes that I don't know about.
Another avenue, if you have any questions, is to ring your local court and ask. The people there will not have legal training, and some are not on the ball but some are really helpful and experienced and may be able to help with some of the details of procedure.
Good luck. Perhaps you will be able to get back into communication and rebuilding bridges after you have spent some time apart.Ankh Morpork Sunshine Sanctuary for Sick Dragons - don't let my flame go out!0 -
personally I believe messing lots of solicitors around for 30 mins each instead of just paying them for their advice is morally wrong and people should not do it.
if you need their expertise - payDebt free 4th April 2007.
New house. Bigger mortgage. MFWB after I have my buffer cash in place.0 -
OP - your easiest and cheapest first step, as you work for a solicitors, would be to ask one of the paralegals to give you some informal information in the name of colleagueship and kindness.
Don't forget to remind them of the recent time you had to take off for your lumpectomy, the radiotherapy sessions you've coped with and managed to keep on working, and what your current prognosis is. They may feel a great deal of pity and sympathy towards you and help you out......................I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)
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personally I believe messing lots of solicitors around for 30 mins each instead of just paying them for their advice is morally wrong and people should not do it.
if you need their expertise - pay
They make loads of money from the thirty minutes introduction - why do you think they do it? Don't fee sorry for the solicitors!Forever I will sail towards the horizon with you0 -
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If you don't then you will be seperated for 2 years and then the divorce can go through without your consent.[/QUOTE]
Sorry its 5 yr seperation that doesnt need consent...Two year seperation is just another ground like unreasonable behaviour...0 -
personally I believe messing lots of solicitors around for 30 mins each instead of just paying them for their advice is morally wrong and people should not do it.
if you need their expertise - pay
You what??????....Do you think solicitors have morals when it comes to billing their clients.....0 -
mackemdave wrote: »Sorry its 5 yr seperation that doesnt need consent...Two year seperation is just another ground like unreasonable behaviour...
Thanks for giving the OP the correct legal advice instead of vitriol and misinformation.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
Thanks for giving the OP the correct legal advice instead of vitriol and misinformation.
Whatevs....
apologies for incorrect info but the OP playing the silly wee lassie wondering where it all went wrong cuts no ice with me
and if he's going for unreasonable behaviour then it actually will be the 2 years0
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