I Miss My Daughter So Much

continualdiamond

I take it you email and talk often?

I'm from Australia, but live here in the UK and have done for 7 years now. My mum/dad are visting next Aug, which will be the 1st time they have visited me.

By the time I see them, it will be 4 years since we've seen each other as I last went home for my younger sisters wedding.

But we email all the time and talk every Sunday for a good 2 hrs on the phone.

I miss them terribly, but I am enjoying my time working in another country. My mum/dad didn't imagine 7 years later that I wouldn't be back home in Australia yet, they've slowly come round to the idea that I'll be here longer until I am ready to go home.

In terms of $, is your daughter working out what something would cost in £? Because if she is, tell her to stop.

My 1st year here I would always work out the cost in Australian $ before I'd buy anything and mostly then wouldn't buy it as thought it was too much, but I just had to stop because you can't live like that.

You soon work out what is expensive and what isn't in the countries currency and then you can start enjoying where you live. Though each state in Australia will fetch a different price for products as you can imagine Sydney will be the most expensive.

I hope it all works out for you all.

sal-ad_daze

Oh Tesuoha I know what you're saying!
My daughter and I are incredibly close and she has recently moved to Cayman on a 2 year teaching contract, I miss her terribly. We do talk regularly by Skype video call but it's just not the same. I encouraged her to take the job and 'spread her wings', I didn't want her to go but it's my place as her Mum to encourage her and not hold her back. It's not easy to talk whilst they are so far away, you keep your worries to yourself because you don't want to upset them (I'm even careful what I put in my statuses on Facebook!!) and this is strange because we always usually tell each other everything. This will be the first Christmas we've ever been apart and to be honest, I'm really not looking forward to it. We did consider going out on the day but can't as my son won't see his daughter until mid afternoon and by the time she gets to us (she's just a toddler) she'll be too tired to go out so I'll be very aware of two empty seats at the table (dd's OH).
I think that the life experience will be a huge benefit to your daughter and it will look good on her CV, I do know what you mean about getting a job even though my dd has a job her OH is finding it impossible as the laws over there state that nationals must get priority for any vacancy.
I'm in a quandry because I know that they love the lifestyle and there may be the possibility of them staying longer, to get to the Cayman's is madly expensive so visiting is not looking hopeful, I miss them everyday but want the best for them.
I hope your daughter sees that whatever experience she is getting is a benefit and just the fact that she went at all will show well on her CV when she comes home.
I seem to have waffled on a bit here but I hope you can see what I'm trying to say, just really saying that I totally understand and sympathise!

puppypants

Definitely get Skype on your pooters. Its great being able to have face tto face conversations, so to speak.

Zara77

Hi
I really feel for you. I have a suggestion but im a little unsure of the practicalities of it. What about making up a little parcel for her? Maybe popping in some of her favourite things?( though before you start buying-check with post office,what your allowed to send?) Hopefully she might get it by Christmas and you will feel like your doing something for her. You sound like a great mother,so thoughtful. In regards to Christmas day-why not arrange something maybe with friends? Or volunteer eg church,food drive,charity? They always need people. Failing that, you could organise a luxury day for you at home eg bath with oils/scents, favourite movie&chocs. Prearrange a time to ring/video your daughter. You never know a new year might bring new opportunities for her. Depending on your circumstances you could arrange to visit her. If you can't now then maybe sometime next year-giving something to plan for-you join the make £10 extra day thread,ebay to raise funds. I hope your able to stay positive.

lisalovesabargain

Hi there, i was once the daughter, i went to ireland, my poor mum missed me like mad as i did her. Although i wasnt far away they still didnt visit, i think they let me get on with it. I had a great year but at least half the time i spent missing home and my family. Eventually i came back, i had an amazing job there but in all honesty i missed my mum way too much to care about what i was earning and my new friends. My point is, i realised that i could live anywhere, i could have great times anywhere but there was really no place like home. And it was a great experience but it wasnt forme. Hopefully for your sake she will be home within the year with plenty of tales to tell. And if she doesn't come home and makes a new life there then you'll have a great place to holiday, or even emigrate to yourself eventually, and loads of free time not picking up her washing, cooking her meals and worrying why she didnt get home at 10 like she said she would, to find yourself again. I sometimes wonder if my mum did miss me cos she certainly seemed to cope alright without me!!!
Either way she will always give you the downside of things as we all need our mums to reassure us and make us feel better, just the sound of my mums voice calms me down!!
So your being the best mum ever by being at the end of that phone cooing and soothing her. Ill bet she's in a bar now with some beautiful aussies telling them all about home and her lovely mum!!!xxx

tesuhoha

Just to let you know.

Last weekend I had an email from her saying that she had been to the beach and had two days admin work in front of her and it was positive and happy so I emailed back I was glad to get positive news.

However it has all gone downhill since then. I got an email from her yesterday morning to say that her friend who she is staying with has booked a flight to Sydney in January so she will be alone. Not only alone but without accomodation and would be living in a shared dorm and probably would have to find work in a bar. She also said she was down to her last £200.

I therefore emailed her back and asked if she wanted to come home as she has been offered an important interview here on Monday 6th.

Basically, she said yes please and I have booked her onto a flight to arrive back on Saturday morning. I am so relieved and am praying for the snow to stay away from Heathrow. It can chuck it down in bucketloads here as long as Heathrow remains operating.

She thinks she is a loser for giving up but what else can she do really?

sugarbubbles

My daughter is also in aus, she was living with boyfriends family so I could telephone for free on the land line (utility warehouse), now she's moved out they don't have a landline, she doesn't have a computer either so I cant use skype, any suggestions for a cheap way to speak with her on her mobile, she has an aus and uk sim that I can phone her on, any suggestions?

I know exactly what your going through and it is hard, but you sound like you have her best interests at heart, love isn't keeping them near, its knowing when they need to be free.
You are doing the right thing!
ali j Shropshire

tesuhoha

Well text messages are relatively cheap. Also when my daughter travelled around Thailand she used to email news from an internet cafe and I would email back. We are only communicating by email at present. Hope things work out for you.

busiscoming2

tesuhoha wrote: »

Just to let you know.

Last weekend I had an email from her saying that she had been to the beach and had two days admin work in front of her and it was positive and happy so I emailed back I was glad to get positive news.

However it has all gone downhill since then. I got an email from her yesterday morning to say that her friend who she is staying with has booked a flight to Sydney in January so she will be alone. Not only alone but without accomodation and would be living in a shared dorm and probably would have to find work in a bar. She also said she was down to her last £200.

I therefore emailed her back and asked if she wanted to come home as she has been offered an important interview here on Monday 6th.

Basically, she said yes please and I have booked her onto a flight to arrive back on Saturday morning. I am so relieved and am praying for the snow to stay away from Heathrow. It can chuck it down in bucketloads here as long as Heathrow remains operating.

She thinks she is a loser for giving up but what else can she do really?

At least she tried and will be grateful to you for giving her the excuse to come home. I am so pleased for you (as being in a similar situation myself) I can fully empathise with you missing her. I hope her interview has a good outcome, then she wont feel so bad.

tesuhoha

Thanks. As a family we are overdue for some good luck.