Having a wedding with no guests..

Frogletina

I had a very simple wedding, I did have a handful of guests but not many.

Being married was what was important to me, not the wedding. It is your day, do what makes you feel happy and have a lovely time

minnie123

I would seriously love a honeymoon though! To be able to have even one night as a honeymoon would be amazing but that is impossible with a 2 year old lol.

Lexxi

What about booking it, telling everyone its booked and you hope to see them there. Then they know about it and its up to them if they come, you could always pick a week day
Then you can decide if you want to go out after or just the 3 of you go do something

twirlypinky

From experience of a family member getting married recently and only telling a select few, i have one bit of advice.

If you decide to do this, which is entirely up to you, don't tell a single soul. What upset me more than anything else, was all the lies. My parents and grandad all lied to me, my brother and my sister all because my other sister wanted a quiet do. Either go away and do it alone with two strangers as witnesses, or tell your WHOLE family you want a quiet do with no one there. No half measures, it's not fair to expect people to lie, or to expect those that were lied to to just accept it.

Whatever you decide, think about it very hard first, you don't want any regrets. Good luck.

minnie123

That sounds horrible just excluding telling a few.

I am thinking now about having the registry office with just me my OH little boy and both our mums as witnesses. Then telling people we are going for a pub meal afterwards if anyone wants to come. But people will have to pay for themselves. Do you think that is rude to ask people to fund their own meal?

Can anyone tell me what costs will be involved - how much is the most basic marriage in a registry office?
My OH doesn't want a ring - I am happy with a £20 ring.
Are there any other costs?

twirlypinky

~I think thats fine, as long as they ALL know. Tell them all you're getting married, but NO one is invited apart from the mums because you want to keep it super small. People with either understand and come to the pub bit, or they'll be grumpy and you don't want them there anyway. But no one will feel lied to.

The basic registry office depends where you live, and you'll need to get a licence. Where are you based?

minnie123

I live in Worcestershire.

twirlypinky

You'll need to read what's on here http://www.worcestershire.gov.uk/cms/community-and-living/registration-services/getting-married.aspx

And this should have prices when you choose a room http://www.worcestershire.gov.uk/cms/community-and-living/registration-services/getting-married/registration-offices.aspx

Sam_Fallow

Good on ya, Minnie, have your wedding your way.

It takes me back 10 years to my wedding. Enquiries at the registry office told us we could have the ceremony at a nearby castle\stately home. Oh yes. Hired the costumes, Got the guest to take photos and send them to us. Then a buffet in a local country pub. I think we did it for less than £400.

As sammywheeler said earlier, Your wedding day isn't the most important day, the day after is. And the day after that... etc.
Weddings are overrated, marriage isn't.

Just one point though, get yourself a nice wedding ring, as much as you can afford because you are going to wear it for a long time and you'll see it every day.

zippybungle

minnie123 wrote: »

Maybe we will have to wait a few years until someone offers to babysit for us so we can go away for a few days - maybe people will be less hurt then.

Hi,

I wanted to get married but without all the 'fuss'
We got married on Holiday in St Lucia (we organised this 3 weeks before!). Just me, my now Husband and our 3 Kids (who were 5 months old, 2 years and 5 years old at the time!)
Wedding dress was £50 from ebay

We didn't bother with a reception or anything when we got back

Zippy x