Old Style Daily Thread; Sunday 14 November

redruby

NPM, I am sorry I can offer no advice, but wanted to send you and Noah love and hugs, children can be so cruel, I think he sounds like a lovely little lad, and you are doing a great job xx

flutterbyuk25

((((NPM and Noah)))))

x

halight

Hi NPM,
Sorry to hear about your upset in your family. Got no advice really apart form having a right go at the school for telling not to tell you tales. And seeking some advice from you doctor or any charity / support worker that you may be in contact with.

All the best

Richard

Bitsy_Beans

NPM - No advice but it breaks my heart to hear what Noah has to put up with. Are there any older boys on the spectrum in your area who you and Noah could be put in touch with, just so that he can understand he's certainly not alone in this. If he isn't happy to tap his leg would he be happy to click something instead? Sorry I don't have any experience in this so am grasping at straws. Give him a big squeeze from me and a hug for you too.
Had another meltdown off DS tonight, he's been unbearable because of having to leave my mum and dad's house after a visit. Feel like you, helpless in the face of it sometimes.

jackieglasgow

NPM, hugs for you both. DS1 has a dog clicker which he uses when he's stressed, he doesn't flap, but he had been clicking his joints, particularly his hands, quite forcibly when he was stressed, so the dog clicker is in his pocket (it has a keyring attachment) and he clicks it when he's worked up. I hope tomorrow is a bit brighter when it arrives.xxx

Biggirl

My first post. To Noah's mum.

My heart goes out to your little boy! I have an autistic son who is now 24.

When it came to schools I respected too much and challenged too little. I would not do so nowadays.

Talk to your son about his classmates and get him to describe them. Make him realise every single one of them is different. Make him realise how absurd it would be for him to say he didn't like someone because of the colour of their eyes or hair. Or because they were deaf. This is not so very different to singling someone out because of autism and he will realise they are wrong to do this.

I'm sure he took the teacher's words about telling tales literally and to heart, and I daresay there was a different interpretation put on what she said to what she intended to say. But of course it sounds sinister. You are perfectly entitled to voice your legitimate concerns with the school.

My son is currently doing a masters in physics and has held down a weekend job all the time he has been at university. He has been living away from home and has had research published. I would not have believed any of this possible when he was about eight years old.

I've often thought if I had my time again I should have home educated him and he would have been happier. But he has managed to achieve in spite of everything.

My son was referred to an education psychologist upon attending high school. She used to hold regular workshops for children with autism to discuss coping strategies for various situations. Maybe they have some of these in your area?