Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

bluebag

gailey,

The only good thing about rough days is knowing that as surely as grass grows it will pass.

Kids are bloody cruel, plain and simple. The parents should know better and discourage it, but many lack the strength of character and form their own little b**ch clique, it makes weak people feel superior. Anyone with any kind of breeding at all would be revolted by it.

Rosanna79

Charlies_aunt
Sorry to hear of your financial loss due to this vile weather. It does seem like the councils in our area expects the public to do their own road clearing! ....and how one is supposed to get to work safely in these current road conditions is completely mystifying, especially with Dragonby hill to negotiate!!

Having no post for a week I rang the sorting office yesterday morning. They were going to TRY to deliver in our road. Told them them to hold as I was coming in by bus. Am a seasoned occupational car use but not going anywhere in this.. So after walking up to Ashby Post Office and posting the international stuff I waited for what is normally a 10 minute bus service for 45 minutes plus!!! Asked a chap ahead in the Queue about the time tables. He promptly turned his back on me which apart from being very rude was totally mystifying.... ?

However I was delighted to meet a very friendly Irish lady with whom the below zero wait passed much more pleasantly. Thought I'd enough layers on but these 'minus ' temperatures but heavens above it was unbelievable!

OH's birthday today so at least he got some of his post . return journey was much faster so mystified why the ludicrous wait on the way into town...

Stayed in today for OH's low key birthday. We still don't know if the postponed trip down south for next week can go ahead. It seems increasingly unlikely.

Having done everything I can to ward off the depressive state that can come over me at this time of year as I remember all my dead family, I'm nearing the end of it as EVERY SINGLE THING I'd planned or organised to help fill this difficult time has been cancelled .

We are due to go out for Christmas Dinner with a couple of friends on Sunday week at our local stately home to celibrate OH's birthday. I can only hope it will be possible to attend or feel I will simply cancel Christmas altogether as I can't cope with much more . I feel so low.

House is a tip with all my craft stuff but I'm so tired with the sheer physical and mental effort of everything, especially going out on these shopping expeditions of on foot. OH can't walk at present and wants to use his car which worries me sick with the appallling state of the untreated roads. Neighbour says our street is the worst. I'll do whatever it takes to save him from ending up in the awful pain he gets in his leg on exercise. The need to use all my mental concentration and physical strength to keep going safely is exhausting . I'm knackered when I get back.

Just thankful I'm retired even though it was forced on me at the time. Really feel for those having to go out to work in this ,especially where theres no mangement leeway or flexibility.

Nuala
With the situation in Ireland I should shut up..Will get the details from my sister in law later in the week. Thinking of you at this difficult time. Hope you can manage to make the numbers work. all the best

ceridwen

NualaBuala wrote: »

Ceridwen, you are such a love to ask (are you going fluffy on me?!:D)

Was glued to the Budget and news but cannot take it any more. I just feel it's time to stop the bickering and get on with things. Well my finances have taken a hit but I will manage somehow, am busy with a spreadsheet squeezing my budget as hard as I can to make the numbers fit! I think I can do it so I have a surplus of about about 10c, whoopdedoo! :rotfl:.

ME! Doing FLUFFY:eek: - now you KNOW that I dont do that.....you having been the one that told me that:rotfl::rotfl:. YOu'll be visualising me wearing pink and frills next:eek::rotfl:> I do do strong/armour-plated .........(havent had a lot of choice at some points in my life........). Helmet - check. Vizor - check. Shield - check. Lance - check....

I am..<cough> just a tad concerned about you lass...<cough>

Crikey - 10cents..._pale_. That warrants my mothers phrase "Dont spend it all at once!" ...Hope things get better for you personally...Take care.

jackieglasgow

Sorry I have struggled to keep up this last week or so, hugs to all in need, I hope this terrible weatehr isn't affecting everyone too badly. I completely sympathise Charlies aunt, my OH has had all his work for the foreseeable future cancelled until the New Year which means a huge loss of income for us. We have some savings which we can use to live off, but its going to be very tight with no end in sight to the current weather situation. I will be working very hard to get on top of things financially over the next couple of weeks.

gailey_2

Just wanted to say huge thankyou for everyones kind words regarding daughters nativity outfit.:D

was feeling really down and unmotivated last night think was combination od daughter being unhappy, hubby being away and house so cold watched tv in bed.

Well baby only woke twice last night so feel semi rested.
Let eldest sleep on hubbys side shes like hot water bottle so warm.

ohh had dillemma at school this morning got chatting to mum quite like andd she asked about nativity. I expolained nativity was good but bit upset about eldests outfit and a few kids laughed at it as it was so different. She was like thats awful some kids cans be so horrid. one of the kids that laughed was her daughter dident say anything as usually her daugter and mine are best of freinds just hope it goes better today. My other mummy freind told indy her costume was fab this morning hoping the more people say it happier and more confident daughter might be shes got performance today and one tommorow.

Promised her new partyoutfit for school disco next week.

Anyway enough about me hope evryone elses ok.

we been fortunate to not really have much snow here and lifes gone on as usual. But seeing people on news getting stick in cars for over 10hours and the effect its had on business but im guessing if people cant get to work no pay so will hit families hard if they cant sort it out, scotland seems to have made real mess of it.

Jackie glasgow-hope things improve take care.

Anyone heard from sammy k yet

Nuala -saw irish budget last night and thourght of you.
I think we protest too much ireland got it bit harder just hope the help they get can get them back on their feet.
Politically I feel I would struggle with elections over there as not sure sinn fein the answer but neither are the eijets currently running the show the priminister looks like he ate too many pies:rotfl:

Rossana 79 hope you feel better soon hun. try do something that you enjoy that makes you happy.

watch nice film or comedy with chocolate.
do some crafts you enjoy.
My house is a tip too maybe start by doing small task a day ie tidying a cupboard and draw.
Find clearing clutter helps me feel better.
read when depressed people keep stuff low level or on floor which can block energy. so even if evberythings chucked in cupoboard of doom like my cupboard un derstairs makes me feel better as living rooms then tidy.

Right speaking of tidying determined to acheive today as babys currently asleep.

Pitlanepiglet

Gailey, I don't have children so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about, but to me the best thing you can do for your children is to give them the confidence to be themselves and the strength to ignore those around them that feel superior. You can't protect your kids from these things, you could spend all the money in the world on say costumes and those inclined to bullying will just find something else to have a go about.

That strength comes from you, from you having confidence in yourself and in your skills as a mum, you clearly love your children hugely and you are a loving, caring and competent mum. Have faith in yourself and enable your kids to have faith in you and themselves. You can't protect them from those that sneer but you can help them to ignore them and to have the inner strength to stick two fingers up at them!

You're a fab mum, believe it!

rosieben

Pitlanepiglet wrote: »

Gailey, ...

You're a fab mum, believe it!

I second all of this :T

think maybe we all spend too much time thinking about what we don't do and we forget what we do do; I think you cope far better than you imagine, give yourself a huge pat on the back!

starsandmoon

Being off work with my injured back has been very OS as havnt spent a penny for 3 days. Made chicken rissotto from Sundays roast, have used more gas but didnt have to pay for after school club so that evened things out. I can drive now so will be ok to get shopping (using tomorrows Lidl voucher in the Mirroir).

Had a wonderful freebie today. Where I live we have a rodent problem (back to back terraces and narrow back alleys = rat heaven) so the council leave free skips for residents twice a year. Spotted one on way to school so was pottering in and out with bits of rubbish from the yard. A nice young man asked if I needed a hand, told him I had an old telly and back door I carnt lift, next thing he had them both out and in the skip. I was stunned at this. A neighbour said he fancied me! I was wearing an old duffel coat, wooly hat, no make up, unwashed hair and a big spot so would be amazed if he did. Restored my faith in human nature.

Fed up with winter now. Lots of people on here are struggling with various things and this cold just makes it all harder.

gailey_2

Thanks guys think as adults we have experience and confidence to shrug it off.
Think as a kid the slightest thing/difference seems like the end of the world still remember sobbing because dad wouldent let me have doc martins.

I have been praising daughter and reasuring.
she seems much more self concious and aware of others since she started school.

My stepsons had bad time at school some of it his own fault granted.
I just wnat her to be happy and up until now shes seemed really happy with her new school and seems to have lots of freinds judging by amount of party invites she gets.

I actually think instilling confidence and giving your child the right attitude taht sees them through life can be very hard.

As parents we constantly up against it with

advertising-all I hear every advert is I want that.
peer pressure-wonder what everyones getting for xmas and if they will brag.
Not sure if girls even more fussy with clothes than boys.
Some of the clothes in the shops for 4-5year olds inappropriate for age even next which has 5-16 but you wouldent put your 5year old in something 16year old would wear.

I guess I just want to wrap her up and protect her from bad things and ensure she has lengthy happy childhood not wanting to grow up too fast.

Sometimes wish someone explianed how hard it is, a childs dissapointment seems far worse than your own. was so nervous about applying for schools as thourght im not messing up my future if shes in wromg one its hers completly stressed me out.
Not sure how much more my nerves can take.

Gintotmelinda

hi Everyone

Gailey don't worry- you are a great mum........just don't wear yourself out. ((hugs)).

Take care all and keep warm.

gintot