Holiday Advice

Make-it-3

Don't be an idiot, go and see your girlfriend and have fun. It's not a debt, but a mortgage overpayment - its not going to cost you anything. In fact you'll lose all the money you've paid out so far, which sounds like far more than you still have to pay.

If it helps you feel better, when you get back work out what your spend was and vow to top up your overpayments by that amount over a given number of months.

Also, don't be a miser when you're there, life has to be for living.

ema_o

If my oh did this to me I would go mad, and probably wouldn't stick around.

I read the start of this thinking you were worried about the cost of everything, but since you've booked flights and accommodation you'd just be throwing that away. I think (if I were in your gf shoes this would be what I'd be most cross about, that and the impression you're giving that you don't want to see her).

If you don't want to see her tell her so direct not with the excuse that you'd rather be earning money. Does she have a friend that might join her instead (for the admin charge of changing the flight names?).

Sorry if I sound harsh and if in fact you do actually want to be with her, but if it sounds like a bad excuse to a group of strangers it probanly sounds the same to her.

Any

It does sound like a poor excuse.

Everything is already paid for and the money you will make instead will just overpay mortgage. Don't take me wrong, that is very commandable of you to think of your future and mortgage, but given the circumstances it sound waaaaaay off the mark.

Even if self-employed, you still need a holiday
You must have thought of it before
You already promised it
No emergency reason for cancelling it now.

OBVIOUS comes to mind.

In my books - I wouldn't even reply to you when you told me. I would put the phone down and never contact you again.

Sambucus_Nigra

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Where will she stay if you don't go out there?

I take it you don't mind her being an ex-girlfriend?

Barny1979 wrote: »

The accommodation is booked and I'd be paying for it.

I notice that you only answer the first half of my question...that says alot in my book.

NAR

Life is too short to be worrying about what £1k or £2k can change. Life is for living, so get on that plane and enjoy the break with your girlfriend. Create some memories to look back on in later life and fill your life with some happiness - money certainly can't do that for you.

Barny1979

I do want to see my girlfriend, but she has been made redundant whilst travelling and I was looking at the bigger picture.

Zooxanthelle

If I were your GF I'd be hugely upset and making plans for calling it a day with you. If it's all booked then what's the problem?
Have fun and enjoy your life. Jeeez.

Any

Barny1979 wrote: »

I do want to see my girlfriend, but she has been made redundant whilst travelling and I was looking at the bigger picture.

So you are going to overpay the mortgage...
Another excuse.

ema_o

Barny1979 wrote: »

I do want to see my girlfriend, but she has been made redundant whilst travelling and I was looking at the bigger picture.

Well, at least that makes more sense of your reasoning, but still I would go.

If gf has been made redundant and takes a while to find a job it might be a while until you can afford a holiday together. This one is all committed to bar your spending money and time not working, so actually making it a cheap holiday option

It will be better for you both to have some quality time together, rather than her getting back and you not being around cos of working to pay mortgage.

She will get a job when she gets back, even if it takes a while or she has to do something at min wage for a while (there will be plenty of shops looking for Christmas staff for example)

I think the bigger picture for your relationship is the holiday, memories and time together. I suspect one or both of you will regret it if you don't go.

annakat99

Your girlfriend is coming to the end of what has hopefully been a fantastic trip. Whenever I've been away travelling for a long time, the last week is one of the hardest emotionally. You can't wait to see everyone at home, all the people that you've been missing whilst you're away, however you really don't want it all to end. It's a real happy sad time...

I bet that you going out to spend that last week with her means more to her than you might be able to understand. She'd have back the one person she's been missing the most, and be able to share (even if it's just a little bit) of her amazing adventure with you. Plus you will be distracting her from the fact that real life starts again in a few days.

I know if my boyfriend decided to jack in a week that had been planned for months, that I'd been looking forward to for ages, for the sake of £££s... I'd be more than a bit hacked off!

Coming home after time away is quite a shock to the system. and post travelling blues are pretty horrid. Add to that not having a job and it means the first few weeks back are going to be pretty tough for her. Don't add to her heartache...

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