Holiday Advice

Barny1979

I would be grateful for people's views on this please, as I don't know what to do. My girlfriend is currently travelling round America, she is due back on the 28th October, I was due to fly out to NY on the 20th and have a few days there on my own, then meet up with her.

I've been thinking the last week, that the holiday is going to cost too much, I am self-employed, so will lose about a week and a halfs wages, approx £1.5-2k. I have been thinking the money I could earn could go to mortgage over-payments.

I told my girlfriend that I think it is going to cost me too much and that it is better for the long-term to stay here and work.

She doesn't see this and is upset with me, which I can see why she'd be disappointed.

What would everyone else do? I have paid for the flights and tickets to a football match and a concert. Accommodation is still to be paid for.

Lucy1973

Barny1979 wrote: »

I would be grateful for people's views on this please, as I don't know what to do. My girlfriend is currently travelling round America, she is due back on the 28th October, I was due to fly out to NY on the 20th and have a few days there on my own, then meet up with her.

I've been thinking the last week, that the holiday is going to cost too much, I am self-employed, so will lose about a week and a halfs wages, approx £1.5-2k. I have been thinking the money I could earn could go to mortgage over-payments.

I told my girlfriend that I think it is going to cost me too much and that it is better for the long-term to stay here and work.

She doesn't see this and is upset with me, which I can see why she'd be disappointed.

What would everyone else do? I have paid for the flights and tickets to a football match and a concert. Accommodation is still to be paid for.

I think i'd be pretty annoyed too,if I was your girlfriend. I take it the match,tickets etc were booked quite far in advance? I'd be gutted that you only realise now,that it would all be too much money.

Barny1979

I booked them at the end of July when she had come back for 2 and a half weeks after travelling for 4 months.

Sambucus_Nigra

Where will she stay if you don't go out there?

I take it you don't mind her being an ex-girlfriend?

Barny1979

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Where will she stay if you don't go out there?

I take it you don't mind her being an ex-girlfriend?

The accommodation is booked and I'd be paying for it.

74jax

Barny1979 wrote: »

I booked them at the end of July when she had come back for 2 and a half weeks after travelling for 4 months.

So am I right in thinking you've not seen her since July? She may have been travelling and missed you loads and was looking forward to your time together away.

I understand you'll be loosing money, but you must have realised this when you originally booked or have circumstances changed since then? If so, then you 'may' be able to explain this to her, but if it's always been the case I can totally see where she is coming from.

She's been away travelling, wants time away with you, it was all planned, now you'd rather work and earn money than spend time with her who you've not seen in 3 months.

However, if you decide to go, you should do so being happy with this decision, otherwise you'll have lost money, had a miserable time, and probably ruined the relationship anyway.

jackieblack

Barny1979 wrote: »

I am self-employed, so will lose about a week and a halfs wages, approx £1.5-2k.

If you're earning this amount every week (approx £52k pa), you can easily make this up later.

Barny1979 wrote: »

I have been thinking the money I could earn could go to mortgage over-payments.

So you'd rather over pay your mortgage than go see your girlfriend?!
( If you were struggling to pay the mortgage, then maybe I/she could see your point!)

Barny1979 wrote: »

I have paid for the flights and tickets to a football match and a concert. Accommodation is still to be paid for.

Barny1979 wrote: »

The accommodation is booked and I'd be paying for it.

So you've alreay paid for the flights and you're paying for the accomodation so this money is already spent.

Are you sure you're not just looking for an excuse not to go?

If you really wanted to see her, the money wouldn't be an issue. It reads to me like the money means more to you than your relationship.

Barny1979

Not seen her since mid-August

Chakani

jackieblack wrote: »

Are you sure you're not just looking for an excuse not to go?

If you really wanted to see her, the money wouldn't be an issue. It reads to me like the money means more to you than your relationship.

^^^This^^^

I think if my OH had so little regard for me, then I'd be devastated, but I'd also rather know so I could move on. And move on I would.

burnoutbabe

yep, sounds like you don't want to go.

as everything is paid for, then only extra costs are some spending and food, which can be pretty cheap in new york.

not wanting to go away as you can earn money is an issue, as self employed, alot of people have that issue, but you need to plan holidays and work out budget for it.

if you don't go, as you want the money more, you'll be dumped.

Littlemadam83

Hate to be a bit harsh here, but what a gutless way of showing her you cant be arsed to see her!

If money buys you happiness stay at home, just grow some balls and be honest!