Double Trouble but twice as nice

Double_Trouble

dangers wrote: »

We have the L*otus parts department near me :whistle:. used to work there (before kids...) Mind you I didn't actually work for L*otus (there are reasons why I have *'d the word!)

Ooh intrigue I love it

Oh yes youareallhelpingme OH is well aware of all the racing circuits nationwide although we have the Anglesey circuit nearby for track days and he often goes to Oulton Park in fact it was on the way back from there that he wrote off his second westfield :eek:

Macgirl I have no intention of taking the roots out but it will need a miracle for anything to grow but I will give them some compost and we will see

DTxx

Karmacat

Wow, DT - you've really changed in your attitude! I too absolutely love the minimalist look - I think it needs a little bit of attention all the time tho, as in "put everything away when you've used it" - my kitchen even now is very far from minimalist (I'm not very good at stacking the dishwasher, oops). And moving - I can understand you thinking of it ... but knowing that you live in such a beautiful place, it must be difficult. I have some Anglesey blood in me, you know! Normal for a scouser - name of Jones, of course - no detective work on my part, the lady is named in a family bible, and her dad had the lease on the Queen's Head at Ty Croes, a lovely place.

Sorry to hear there's an estrangement in the family - I hope it can be healed.

The_Dragon

Double_Trouble wrote: »

The house on escape to the country was in Norfolk and apart from being nearer to Hypno so I can ask for personal match betting lessons and the possibility that we could sort out the estrangement with at least one of OHs daughters who as far as we know still lives in Norfolk with our two grand children there is no great reason to move to that side of the country although the prices are more reasonable and OH says its near to the Lotus factory :eek:

I thought that grandparents had rights by law and she can not stop your OH from seeing the grands?

Double_Trouble

Karmacat wrote: »

Wow, DT - you've really changed in your attitude! I too absolutely love the minimalist look - I think it needs a little bit of attention all the time tho, as in "put everything away when you've used it" - my kitchen even now is very far from minimalist (I'm not very good at stacking the dishwasher, oops). And moving - I can understand you thinking of it ... but knowing that you live in such a beautiful place, it must be difficult. I have some Anglesey blood in me, you know! Normal for a scouser - name of Jones, of course - no detective work on my part, the lady is named in a family bible, and her dad had the lease on the Queen's Head at Ty Croes, a lovely place.

Sorry to hear there's an estrangement in the family - I hope it can be healed.

I am fanatical at the moment putting everything away and because it is so clear you know when something should not be there.
Anglesey should be on your short break list then. Ty Croes is where the race circuit is don't know the Queens Head but will go look see next time I am near.

Dragon that would necessitate a court order and then you would have to enforce it and as we don't even know her address as she was about to move when the split happened it would not be easy it happened 6 years ago and we had hoped she would get in touch herself but OHs ex has always been difficult and finally managed to put the boot in when we thought her influence was over it was a very nasty business which I can't go in to on here and it was doubly difficult as I was pregnant at the time and not at all well- it is a great sadness expecially losing our grand daughter this year and knowing that we have at least another two grand daughters that are lost to us at the moment but we always hope things will change:(

DTxx

Double_Trouble

Well the above made me do a search for my step daughters on the www which I do occasionally but never find anything but last night I found a 13sec video on u tube of the eldest getting married although it was on the 19.7.08 it had only been posted at the end of last month for some reason it was really strange to watch although she did marry the person she was with when we last had contact so that was something and you can't see her face in the clip just his upset me though and I wasn't sure whether to tell OH but in the end thought it was better I did. He feels that if he only brings her unhappy memories it is better not to try and get in touch and she knows where we are if she wants us. We wouldn't have been invited to the wedding anyway as her mother would not have allowed it but on past performance would have been expected to pay for it so we are probably better off out of the situation!!

DTxx

Karmacat

Oh DT, I'm so sorry to hear this. Thats a very painful situation. Your OH sounds very loving - hopefully one day he'll feel its time to give her the option of knowing him again - aren't there intermediaries who'll step in in this situation, like with adoption, so the person doesn't feel pressured?

Keeping_Motivated

Gosh DT you've been with your OH for 20 odd years haven't you...and his ex is still bitter...don't know whether to feel sorry for you or for her! What an awful life she must have if she is sooo bitter....

Double_Trouble

Karmacat wrote: »

Oh DT, I'm so sorry to hear this. Thats a very painful situation. Your OH sounds very loving - hopefully one day he'll feel its time to give her the option of knowing him again - aren't there intermediaries who'll step in in this situation, like with adoption, so the person doesn't feel pressured?

Keeping_Motivated wrote: »

Gosh DT you've been with your OH for 20 odd years haven't you...and his ex is still bitter...don't know whether to feel sorry for you or for her! What an awful life she must have if she is sooo bitter....

KC she always has the option we didn't stop contacting her it was the other way round he just doesn't want to force the issue she has to want to be in touch and no there are no intermediaries who can help

KM we have been together 30 years this December :eek: and yes she has had an awful life and is very bitter she would like to blame me but thankfully I was not even in the same country at the time. I didn't meet OH until she had moved to East Anglia. She has never forgiven OH for being the one to leave and if you knew him you would realise how bad it must have been for him to go and especially leave his children who he adores hence she used them from day one as a weapon against him there only being a brief respite when she met someone else then we could have the children whenever we liked but when they split up normal spitefulness resumed and the latest episode was particularly vicious as it involved not just OH and I but our eldest son too who was only 14 at the time and it was all lies but the police were involved so it was awful but as a result she was found out as a liar there has been no contact with the step daughters since I dread to think what lies she got them to believe but they are both adults and have suffered from her behaviour in the past so we had hoped that eventually they would realise that there are two sides to every story but evidently not it is sad but her family is an expert at rifts they seem to thrive on the aggro her brother is also estranged from them but we don't know where he is either we think he is in the Phillipines its a sorry tale all round :(

DTxx

Double_Trouble

I am going to treat myself and watch footie on the TV today and think of my Dad who died 30 years ago this year he would have loved to have seen Bham at Wembley he used to go to the FA Cup Final ever year usually he managed to get a ticket but one year he went without one and a policeman took pity on him and smuggled him into the ground. We used to go and see the Blues together and he took me to the Cup Final one year and then to White City to see the Dogs his other love - I still miss him vey much

My best friend supports Arsenal though so I am not sure who will ring who after the match :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

DTxx

gilligansyle

DT - you could almost feel the emotion in the posts about the estrangement, a whole paragraph with hardly any punctuation! As all have said, its a long time to bear a grudge, and from all you've said about your OH it must have been hard for him.

Hope the garden massacre doesn't turn out too disastrous, I know nothing about such things. I have crocuses at the moment, and the beginnings of daffs.

The daffs always make me chuckle as when my brother and SIL moved into their house, 20 years ago, she dug them up as they were everywhere, and I took some home, and now they are still going; I forget they are there, and put seeds in the pots, and next thing I know I have daffs in the middle of my lettuce!