The Giving Up/Cutting Down Alcohol Support Thread - Numero 9!

jo1972

Afternoon all, where is everyone??

jo1972

Just eaten the nicest tuna and onion baguette and very much looking forward to my left over SRP this evening with mash and pickles

Pippilongstocking

jo1972 wrote: »

Afternoon all, where is everyone??

:j I'm back home :j

Hello - washing to do and attempting to do a lot of photos to get a fair bit written when I'm away!

jo1972

I'm very tired. Told the kids this morning that when I get home I want to 'flump' (technical term :cool:) into my chair and stay there till it's bedtime with lots of cuddles.

Hopefully this might stop me from drinking

Pippilongstocking

flumping v drinking - flumping and cuddles wins hands down!

Go you jo - I may flump later

randomname_3

jo1972 wrote: »

Afternoon all, where is everyone??

Probably gorging in Jo's diner.:)

Trasijocha

clarabell13 wrote: »

Me too Trasi. Feeling very cross with myself now for letting all that effort go to waste I'm going to try and draw a line under it and go for an AF day tomorrow. Fancy joining me?

Hi Clara, I`m afraid I didnt go AF the following day either, I took the kids to Thorpe Park for the day and when we got back I was sooooooooo knackered I had an "Oh sod it" moment and bought a bottle of wine, 2 days on the trot of drinking made me feel really grotty though (I dont know how I used to drink day after day after day ) so I was AF yesterday and intend to be for a long while now. How about you ?

gien

Hello, was away for the weekend - very nice, saw some cow fighting competitions and did a bit of walking. Am still AF but feeling very tired for sone reason. Want to go to bed right now and it's only 6.30!

365days

Mielestäni olet erittäin taitava kirjoittamaan Englanti ollenkaan! Minun suomalaisista on kuin exsistent.;)

elantan

SimIsOnTheUp wrote: »

Good Morning Ladies and Gents

Wishing you all a great day.

17 days sober here, which feels good, but I've hit that 2 1/2 week wall where memories / c_ap from the past comes back to visit when I'm sober.

This hit me yesterday, when I was going past my old best mates parents' house, and I realised just how much I'd missed him all these years.

I met him in 1989 at a local gym, and we got on like a house on fire. He was at a different school, but we ended up going to sixth form together and became best friends.

We used to do everything together.

After 6th Form College, he went to Manchester Uni, and I went to London, and we used to visit each other loads. We were there through each other's first loves / first heartbreaks and I miss the bloke like mad!

He was very close to my Mum and Nan, and came with me to visit my Mum during her last few weeks at the Hospice back in '96. He was an absolute star.

He was (probably still is!) a lovely bloke, but I remember being sat with him in town back in 2000, when he said to me (regarding my brush with the law at the time, due to the booze) "Sim, that isn't you. You're not a thug."

He'd also warned me at the time, that I was going to lose my Girlfriend (of 5 years in 2000) because of my drinking, but I didn't listen / didn't know how to stop.

He told me that his Girlfriend back then didn't like him hanging around with me, again because of my being "always drunk" (in her words).

My old best friend and I did 'talk' on MSN Messenger back in 2002. That was the last time we've been in touch, and he had moved to London back then.

I haven't seen him since and I miss him so much, it's giving me that gnawing ache in my tum. (God, that sounds LAME!) He had a younger, and an older brother and I was very close to both of them too, but again we've lost touch.

My Girlfriend was driving us past his Mum and Dad's house yesterday, and the memories of the Christmases spent with him came flooding back.

Am going to try and ignore it and get on with today, but these feelings are raw and now I'm not drinking I really don't know what to do with them.

I have tried to find him on Facebook before now to no avail (did find his brothers), but I've since deactivated my Fb account.

His parents' phone number probably hasn't changed, and I saw his Dad about 5 years back in town, and we got on great, so I could probably phone them.

The one thing holding me back, is the fact that I'm jobless and he's no doubt quite successful by now! (and the boozing history is just embarrassing..)

But by God Al, do I miss ya!

Sim x

just couldnt read this and run ... i wish i knew the answer .... i would suggest though ( and please feel free to ignore me) maybe you friend might just love to hear from you

i had a friend that like you i grew up with ... but she choce to get involved in drugs and i chose not to .... we lost touch for nearly 20 years like you i had tried to get back in touch with her to see if she was ok ( she meant alot to me) i found her through friends reunited a few years ago now ... i found out she had been looking for me also ... when we first got in touch it was quite strange she would only talk to me in the wee small hours of the morning and only on msn and it was very incoherant .... she was still using obviously .... and she kept apologising to me for things she did when we were younger (have to say i couldnt remember most of them) i reassured her it was all in the past ...

gradually through the space of about 18 months we started phoning each other and then meeting up ... dont get me wrong she was a mess physically and mentally she was still using but it gave her the confidence to understand that i meant what i said when it was all in the past

were now about a year on from that and she is relatively drug free ... we are still friends and chat more often, i am able to give her a different viewpoint and take on things which has helped her to become more secure within herself ... we will never be the friends we were before those days are gone .... we are different people with different experiences ... but we have a mutual respect for each other and we can now build on having an adult relationship

she doesnt work and hasnt worked for a long time ... she is still a bit of a mess mentally.. and believe me she has had some past too .... but you know what none of that matters ... it did to her for a long long time ... but it never has to me ... and it just took her a wee while to understand that



good luck with it all