Registry Office vs Church Marriage

squibbs25

I agree with ailaro2, in that it depends on your beliefs.

I chose a registry office venue over a 'church do' for several reasons.
One of them being that we only wanted a quiet, low-key wedding with only our children, parents, siblings and grandparents present, also neither of us are religous - would of felt a hypercrite (sp)
By having a church wedding i would have HAD to invite all and sundry, which i would of hated. (distant family that i hadnt seen for years, cant be doing with all that! :rolleyes: )
By choosing the registry office we were able to keep numbers down, (making it cheaper too :rotfl: )
As for the vows, it was personal to us.
I thoroughly enjoyed our day. I didnt feel any less of a bride for not having a church do
I think it depends on what you want from your day, my little sis done the church thingie, and while it was a fab day, it was so much hard work :eek:

Another option that i dont know if you have considered would be to get married in a hotel or something like that?

Whatever you choose, its the commitment that you are making to each other thats important - not the where, when or how ( not meant to sound patronizing! More excited iykwim- does it matter if you are in a church/ registry office/ in the sea or on the moon?) The fact that you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together speaks for itself.
I wish you luck with whatever you decide.
Keep us informed!
By the way congratulations :beer:

Squibbs

Sultana

If your intended is divorced then the C of E won't marry you, although you can have a blessing instead, while the legal bit is done in the Registry Office. None of the rules about residence etc. apply if the service is a blessing rather than a marriage - you just have to persuade the Vicar (and he doesn't have to do it).

emzig123

Just had a look on the CofE website, might be worth reading through this page as it answers some of your questions:

http://www.cofe.anglican.org/lifeevents/weddings/

nearlyrich

I can't understand why people who have no belief in God want to get married in church, there are lots of lovely secular venues. It's nice to get married in a hotel with the reception just a short stroll away, they often have nice areas of garden for photographs.

Having said that I got married in a court room in New Orleans, hope you find something that suits you and your HTB.

MonkeySaving?

nearlyrich wrote:

I can't understand why people who have no belief in God want to get married in church, there are lots of lovely secular venues. It's nice to get married in a hotel with the reception just a short stroll away, they often have nice areas of garden for photographs.

Having said that I got married in a court room in New Orleans, hope you find something that suits you and your HTB.

Agreed, but if you don't believe in God, why get married?

Ms_Chocaholic

I'm divorced and got re-married in Church, I think it's at the discretion of the vicar.

pboae

MonkeySaving? wrote:

Agreed, but if you don't believe in God, why get married?

What's God got to do with a secular marriage? There's all sorts of reasons for getting married, such as parental rights, pension rights, being next of kin, tax concessions, etc..

MonkeySaving?

pboae wrote:

What's God got to do with a secular marriage? There's all sorts of reasons for getting married, such as parental rights, pension rights, being next of kin, tax concessions, etc..

In the Letter to the Hebrews in the New Testament, the Bible says:

Hebrews chapter 13 (NLT)

4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

Not alot, obviously.....and your points echo all the wrong reasons to get married :rotfl:

nearlyrich

Well I don't know about you lot but I got married to the guy I wanted to share my life with and getting married was a way of showing our commitment to the relationship and to each other.

The church I was brought up in would prefer me to be stuck in an abusive relationship because marriage is for life.

Emms

I dont believe that you should get married in a church if your not religous. My friend is getting married in 2008. Her partner is catholic and only goes to chapel at christmas but yet they are getting married in his chapel. My friend has never been to it before and shes not catholic. I really dont agree with it at all and we did have a bit of a heated discussion one day when I asked her why they were getting married in chapel when neither of them was religous but before we had a proper falling out we just agreed to disagree.

Im getting married next year and neither my partner or me are religous so were getting married in a lovely hotel and the reception is in the same place so we dont need to worry about hiring cars to travel about the place so its moneysaving as well as lovely!

Oh and as far as the if you dont believe in God then why get married, I agree with what pboae has said but we also see it as a sign of commitment and a natural progression for our relationship.

Emma