Having guests over regularly.

duncan303

I haven't read all the replies

but the bottom line as far as the case law aspect is that-.

"a person may not be a member of more than one household"

full stop.

one should establish the status of any person who "stays over" regularly to confirm precisely where there are registering themselves.


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looby75

duncan303 wrote: »

I haven't read all the replies

but the bottom line as far as the case law aspect is that-.

"a person may not be a member of more than one household"

full stop.

one should establish the status of any person who "stays over" regularly to confirm precisely where there are registering themselves.


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Thank you, that makes it very clear then. He is "registered" at his parents house, they claim CB for him, his home address is his parents house, he sleeps there 5 out of 7 nights a week and other than a few bit of toiletries and a spare school shirt (and anything he forgets to take home with him lol) all his belongings are at his parents house.

sunnyone

looby75 wrote: »

aww bless him, you have every right to be very proud of him.

In my daughters bf defence he offers to help out with every meal I cook, started cutting the grass with out me asking him too when he found out I was paying someone to do it and most of all has spent the last year making my daughter happier than I've ever seen her, so thats good enough for me

My son got a broken petrol lawn mower, fixed it and now he mows the lawn weekly in the growing season since his dad became ill.

My post wasnt aimed at you looby;)

As an aside mind, I have a daughter in her early twenties and I just couldnt have a boyfriend stay overnight in her room, I tried to agree they could but I just could do it but I am a bit odd and have never slept with a man I didnt have a ring off and it will be the same whan my son responds to all his admires (so far he hasnt a clue bless him).

My head says that they will sleep together anyway and its better that they are in a safe place while they do I just cant allow it in my home but I do know my daughter has in the past had her long term boyfriend who is the father of her son here when we havnt been here.

Rohaq

It amuses me how the morality brigade felt the need to jump in and comment on what was a purely legal question.

Whether this lad was staying over or not, looby would be receiving the same amount of 'the goverment's' money. The fact that she is able to put her daughter's boyfriend up a few nights a week to do him a favour and stretch out out whatever she's getting on unemployment in order to do so just shows that she's able to budget well, and has a kind heart.

She wouldn't be unreasonable to ask for some contribution financially, sure, but she was more worried about how having a regular visitor to the house may affect her benefits. Given my previous experiences with the job centre when looking for work, I don't blame her; if you so much as hint at a slight adjustment in your situation, they'll spend another two weeks reassessing you, during which you receive no benefits at all.

Murgatroyd21

Wow, I can't believe some of the complete and utter drivel spouted in this thread.

You should ask for contributions from anyone who comes round regularly? Really? The contributor saying this wouldn't have everything in their home still in it's original packaging with a signed log for every occasion of use perchance? Sounds like the kind where you just know a funeral wake is more like a car boot sale for them.

There seems to be some perverse assumption that if someone is on any kind of benefit their life not only has to become an open book for every other snotty plonker to judge and comment on, but to then tell them they should be so anti-social as to charge!!! Get a life! It is akin to advising to make themselves pariahs of all those who know them. Civilised society aims to be inclusive and supportive. Not much, if any, of that seen here so far.

I'd suggest you ask the nosey git nearby round and ask them what exactly they want to know, did they want some friends in to witness and record your answers, just in case they missed anything? Then start quizzing them on a few personal matters.

Your opening statement was so apt "I know I'm probably going to regret asking this here".

looby75

sunnyone wrote: »

As an aside mind, I have a daughter in her early twenties and I just couldnt have a boyfriend stay overnight in her room, I tried to agree they could but I just could do it but I am a bit odd and have never slept with a man I didnt have a ring off and it will be the same whan my son responds to all his admires (so far he hasnt a clue bless him).

My head says that they will sleep together anyway and its better that they are in a safe place while they do I just cant allow it in my home but I do know my daughter has in the past had her long term boyfriend who is the father of her son here when we havnt been here.

who said they sleep in the same bedroom

DD and DS have to share a room so it's an airbed on the sitting room floor lol

Seriously though there's nothing strange about the way you feel, and if dd was bringing a load of different lads over I wouldn't be happy (or letting them stop) but dd and bf have been together for a year now and she's on the pill so I can't see any harm. I doubt they actually get up to much here anyway because they don't really have that much privacy.

mia1830

Rohaq wrote: »

It amuses me how the morality brigade felt the need to jump in and comment on what was a purely legal question.

Whether this lad was staying over or not, looby would be receiving the same amount of 'the goverment's' money. The fact that she is able to put her daughter's boyfriend up a few nights a week to do him a favour and stretch out out whatever she's getting on unemployment in order to do so just shows that she's able to budget well, and has a kind heart.

She wouldn't be unreasonable to ask for some contribution financially, sure, but she was more worried about how having a regular visitor to the house may affect her benefits. Given my previous experiences with the job centre when looking for work, I don't blame her; if you so much as hint at a slight adjustment in your situation, they'll spend another two weeks reassessing you, during which you receive no benefits at all.

Well said :T:T

heatherks

id ask for advice at CAB or housing office just to keep yourself in the right
..i know if a single parent has a partner or a friend ..male or female stay over on a regular basis you have to declare it .. even if he has a house elsewhere

looby75

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Guess whats just arrived in the post.

A letter from the Jobcenter telling me I have to go for an interview with the customer compliance officer on 7th October to discuss a query on my claim.

poet123

looby75 wrote: »

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Guess whats just arrived in the post.

A letter from the Jobcenter telling me I have to go for an interview with the customer compliance officer on 7th October to discuss a query on my claim.

Oh dear, maybe you should file a harassment claim against this neighbour?